Wow now she after I deleted her from Facebook she starts posting things on there like I'm not settling for what I can live with instead what I can't live without... and she starts going into detail about how her standards have risen ten fold and that 2 years ago it was good enough and she put up with it but not anymore and people are posting there own comments on it if you know how Facebook works... why does she feel the need to make that kind of stuff public its embarrassing and far from the truth I really wish she would stop with trying to make me look like crap to my friends its ruthless... the reason I know is because my sister tipped me off on it she is on Facebook as well and can still see her page I know I shouldn't concern myself with her page anymore and I haven't in a week since I deleted it but still she didn't post all this for everyone to see while I could still see it... just want to know what everyone's take is on this one what should I do?not do?

As tempting as it is to read, and even more tempting to talk about to set the record straight, the truth is, you need to remain silent.

Anything you respond to will only make you look like the bad guy.

I think its good that you saw what she wrote, it is very obvious her character is lacking in many ways. Another reason to see that you are better off without someone like that in your life. They only cause trouble.

If I were on her Facebook and read what she wrote, I'd be questioning my friendship with her. If she talks this way about someone she was with for 4 years, what does she say behind my back. Who needs tacky and vindictive people in their lives.

Set yourself light years away from responding to this immature, hurtful behaviour of hers, and laugh it off if anybody brings it up in person.

You will retain your dignity, and others will respect you for it.

Seriously its been two months and this still doesn't feel right we texted back in forth talking about the same again last night how I feel about her and she says her feelings haven't changed and so on... I just want some light at the end of the tunnel better days you know I've come to hate weekends now I feel so trapped like I have nothing to look forward to.. I hate this feeling is this normal at this stage... when are things going to start looking up again. Help please!!

The reason you feel like there's no progress is because you keep breaking the no contact rules. Please review the rules again: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...qs-332732.html It includes changing numbers so that she can't contact you.

You have to understand that if you keep takling to her, you're going to reset all the progress you've made. It doesn't matter how long ago you broke up, you're actual progress starts the day you stop talking to her. It restarts once you talk to her again.

If you have the urge to break the rules, then read this: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...es-351302.html

However, it sounds like you don't even want to heal from this break up. It sounds like you keep hanging on to false hope, which is why you keep talking to her. So unless you can let her go and finally go into real no contact. Until you can do let her go and give up the false hope, you're just going to keep on suffering.

Damn I miss her.. the memories haunt me and could eat me alive... it all just feels so wrong although I will get better will I ever really fully get over this...

Almost 6 months in now I'm a lot better then where I was at although I will admit I can't help but miss the goodtimes and the little things... change is hard feels like I started a whole new life and its not so comfortable... I meet new girls and I see her in my mind... we have talked recently though and she said maybe to going out for lunch when she comes home from school in two weeks what do you all think about that?