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Thanks for reading the posts before your comments guys.
I do believe that they need to share a common goal or a common bond.
Some enjoy fishing, some camping or going on walks. Speaking of walks, there is something that is free to do.
Constructive idea...
Take him... for a walk! Just you and him and holding hands. See how much you can get to know yourself and him better.
I guess I forgot to mention I have my own place and expenses.
Several posts wrongfully assumed you were living with him. My advice again, is start looking. You do not seem to have anything there worth hanging onto. Just curious, did he ever repay the moneys you loaned him? If no, start looking today.Quote:
Originally Posted by gabriela_dc
Good luck, just visualize and see in your mind your Mr. Right and the law of attraction will bring him to you with a ribbon around his neck.
Peace and Love be with you,
Darryl Kent Springston
Listen you have decide if you want to stay with him or not and put up with his ways.
Complainting about Walmart perfume isn't right because after all it is the thought that counts and some females get nothing for their boyfriends.
He wants to stay in instead of going out because he doesn't have the funds. You stated you don't mind paying his and your way but he does. He doesn't want you to keep paying his way when you can keep that money in your pocket.
There are cheap things to do like go on a pinic instead of a restaurant. Watch a movie at the house instead of going to the movies. The two of you should set at least 2 days out of the month for you two to go out.
Invite some friends over and have game nights. Hosting game nights are fun and another cheap way to have fun.
Why does it always have to be about you women?
The man remembered to get you something and you were not even grateful enough to see that.
Suck it up and get used to it or get the hell out now cause he isn't going to change.
I agree completely:cool:
More and more people these days are becoming money wise (Male or Female). Owning Homes and cars are a big worry for some. A home is one of the largest investments most will ever make in their lives. Some may have it handed to them.
I am a stay at home Husband and Father, if I don't feel like cooking dinner I don't. I do as I wish. I pay for two BMW's, a Lake Home, College for 1 kid and My wife's advance education as well. I still take care of our other 3 boys . She works also. I hate to say it, I am lucky to have money left at the end of the month.
I guess that makes me a cheap loser as well. Being retired at 43 years old. Now wanting to chill in my home I built from hard work. I guess hard work doesn't count for anything anymore. I say cut the man a break unless you have walked a mile in his shoes. Be thankful that he remembered it was your Birthday.
To me it doesn't matter if a guy buys me a cheap gift or doesn't buy me anything at all. In fact in my 54 years I can't remember more than a couple nice things a guy has bought me. Many couples are happy with just being together. But he definitely has money issues that may create more problems than they are worth if he is always needing money from you.
If he is not good at budgeting and he blows his money and how he blows his money should make you think about long term effects to your relationship.
He may be cheap for a very good reason, but just curious, do you ever take him out, and what gift did you buy him?
If you measure a relationship just on money, you really don't have much of a relationship.
It is hard to tell if he is a tightwad, cheap or using you with the little you have said.
He may just not be into money and thinking what is fair. He may think you want to go out you pay. He did give you the option of just chillin. You could also go and do things that do not require a lot of money like bike riding and picnic at a park, going to festivals, site seeing.
He seems like he just likes a more simplistic life style than you.
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Originally Posted by N0help4u
This touched me - this has (for whatever reason) been a sad week for me. Grieving is a strange process. But that being said - Nohelp, you made me smile about the "simplistic" life style remark.
On my first date with my husband somehow I lost a gold hoop earring. I have long hair and I'm sure it got tangled and... I never heard it fall. I was sad. At the time I was working 3 jobs and there was no way I could replace it.
On our second date my husband showed up with a jewelry box with a beautiful pair of gold hoops. I couldn't believe he was that kind and thoughtful and was very hesitant about accepting them. But I did. (He bought me diamond studs for our first wedding anniversary and 99% of the time I still wear those hoops.)
At any rate when I was done staring at myself in the mirror, wearing the earrings, he said, "And this is for you, too." And he handed me a small cooler. Inside was a half gallon of maple walnut ice cream. And he said, "You said it's your favorite."
How could I not marry a man who remembered my favorite ice cream when I only mentioned it once? He certainly bought me nice gifts after that - but I have never forgotten the ice cream.
So, yes, it's the simple things that stay in your heart.
That's sweet
I know I would have fonder memories of a special little moment that touched me than that they spent a million bucks on me.
I hope OP's boyfriend is not cheap but time will tell if nothing else
He is not a loser he has his own bills and things he has to pay for to live. And FYI there is nothing wrong with a gift from wal-mart at least he got you something and did not forget. He tried give him some credit. Like someone else said if you think you should get more then find someone else if he can not give you expensive things that you want at least he is tryingQuote:
Originally Posted by tryintolive69
Umm I'm a girl and just to let you know it's not always about us we just think that we need more than we already have to tell you the truthQuote:
Originally Posted by Cunning is I
Say that for yourself not all of us girls think that way... I know I don't and I know a few other girls who think the same as meQuote:
Originally Posted by shelbybelle13
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Originally Posted by shelbybelle13
Sometimes it's better to remain silent and be thought ignorant than open your mouth and prove it.
I think the line goes it is better to remain silent so you appear intelligent than open your mouth and insert foot.
It does sound better that way nohelp.
But from what I understand it goes
Better to keep your mouth closed and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt
Communication MAN! That's where it all begins and ends.Quote:
Originally Posted by gabriela_dc
However.. what happened to the old phrase "Money does not buy happiness?"
IF you are spending more on him then he is on you then.. well you are being less cheap then he is! BUT why does HE have to spend more money on you? I find that statement misleading as you are assuming your spouse (being a male) in which he HAS to spend more money on you because that's the way it is!
The amount of money I spend on my girlfriend.. she has not even spent 1/10 on me. This is the FIRST time I have ever thought about this. WHY? Because I love her and it comes natural to me to want to splurge on her. But that is just the kind of guy I am, I would never of thought to make a thread like this and accuse my girlfriend of being cheap because I spend more on her.
Just saying! :p Think about it!
Who spends how much also depends on the financial status of both parties. If I make $2,000 a week and give my boyfriend $200 gifts, no big deal.
If he makes $750 a week and gives me $200 gifts it's another story.
Beautifully said. I would give you a positive rep for that comment but I am too much of a newby to be able to :p!Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
Plus if the guy has a house and a car and only a mediocre job.. then maybe you should give him a little slack.
If you are looking for getting spoiled go date an old guy. :D
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