I bet she won't repost.
She wanted us to tell her that he honestly loves her and they will end up living a fullfilling and loving life together.
And that the promise ring won't be the last ring he puts on her finger.

She didn't want to hear the truth because it hurt. Well it will be nothing compared ot the hurt she will feel once this scum bag breaks her heart!

She WILL get heart broken That's why she needs to ended it now.

This guy WILL lie to her until she cuts him off - CUT OFF THE SEX FOR 2 MONTHS AND SEE HOW MUCH HE LIKES YOU.

Many, many married guys will lie, cheat a steal to sleep with a women.

I say STOP, he's married and there's a GOOD reason he is.

She wanted us to tell her how to snare him. No way. This guy will never leave his wife - I see the ring was given Christmas... things changed - has he left? Filed for diovrce? No.

You're being used lady and it isn't pretty.

You have just lowered your own self respect by getting involved with another man.. Think about what you deserve. You deserve someone that is free to be with you. Put yourself is HIS WIFE's shoes. How would you feel.

LEAVE HIM ALONE HE IS TROUBLE.. Save yourself the heart ache and embrassment and go look for mr right not mr right now.

I totally agree, a married man is a no -no

You seem fooled by this man cause he tells you that he loves you. What you need to do is have a discussion about your relationship and where is it leading to. Does he want to be with you or does he want to be with you and his wife and when it gets bad ditch you and run to his wife or end up with you because him and his wife didn't make it? So ask him hear what he says. Then you can probably answer your own question. Him buying you that ring probably means "that it'll hold you into thinking that he loves you so he can have you to his disposal" not meaning it in a harsh way or anything, but I'm just feeling for you and I don't want you to get hurt. Don't put your hopes up to high unless you really know that something is going to be done for you in that relationship.

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You seem fooled by this man cause he tells you that he loves you. What you need to do is have a discussion about your relationship and where is it leading to. Does he want to be with you or does he want to be with you and his wife and when it gets bad ditch you and run to his wife or end up with you because him and his wife didn't make it? So ask him hear what he says. Then you can probably answer your own question. Him buying you that ring probably means "that it'll hold you into thinking that he loves you so he can have you to his disposal" not meaning it in a harsh way or anything, but I'm just feeling for you and I don't want you to get hurt. Don't put your hopes up to high unless you really know that something is going to be done for you in that relationship.

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I politely disagree with this post. While I am the first to advocate that communication is essential to any relationship, its both naïve and unrealistic to think that a person who lies to another, won't or isn't lying to you.

I am with Val - totally disagree with that post!! Did that person see 'married man'?

She has NO BUSINESS BEING WITH THIS GUY!! Until he has divorce papers in hand and his own place.

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You seem fooled by this man cause he tells you that he loves you. What you need to do is have a discussion about your relationship and where is it leading to. Does he want to be with you or does he want to be with you and his wife and when it gets bad ditch you and run to his wife or end up with you because him and his wife didn't make it? So ask him hear what he says. Then you can probably answer your own question. Him buying you that ring probably means "that it'll hold you into thinking that he loves you so he can have you to his disposal" not meaning it in a harsh way or anything, but I'm just feeling for you and I don't want you to get hurt. Don't put your hopes up to high unless you really know that something is going to be done for you in that relationship.

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BAD BAD BAD advice. Never, ever, ever, mess with a married man. Married men/women are totally off limits.

Jut look at who is answering this post here. Marisa is involved with a married man and asking her own advice.

You want to give that girl the advice to stay away from Married men, guess what it won't change anything. If she wants to be with him she still will. So what I am saying if that man really loves her he will get a divorce and be with her but they need to know if that is what they both want, instead of making rash decisions that make everyone unhappy. And when that decision is made she will now if she needs to move on or wait for him to be divorced.

I would suggest that you should stop seeing him unless he gets a divorce. That's the only way you'll know he's serious about u. James.

"ChasingCars disagrees: Most unhelpful - wrong on so many levels. Way too harsh and judgemental and just not nice at all."

Chasing cars, I'm assuming you are in a similar situation and my post hit a nerve?

Good!!

I agree with both of the above so I just put agree. It was a little mean but the advice was good.

What if you don't expect him to leave his wife...

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This is one of the best repsonses i have read to a poster aksing advice here at AMHD since i have been a member. It comes from experience but also offers a great solution to the problem.
I really hope the original poster comes back and reads this post so she can see the damage that she WILL cause to another person!!

Well done Jessie!!

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Well, I was a cheated on wife also. They do not always crawl back. When I was 5 months pregnant with our son, bleeding and on bed rest, I got a phone call from a woman, who expressed surprise that my husband was even married. And so it went, with him cheating with other women three more times. I know he'd never have left me, but I just could not take it anymore. He always put himself, and them, first, unfortunately.

Now, my son's classmates ask him if he even has a father. He's six now.

And you know what? I am now in love with a married man. I know that's a little odd, but you see, no one ever took my feelings into consideration when pursuing their interests, so why should I? Furthermore, I know from experience, after having been the wronged wife, that my position is more positive and joyful.

I would never ask him to leave his wife, because that would mean that someone else gets the fun job-the mistress.