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  • Oct 9, 2006, 02:10 PM
    beautifuldiva
    It was odd to you but not to her because as I suspected she probably is telling you this hoping to envoke some kind of intrigue or interest from you!!
  • Oct 9, 2006, 02:14 PM
    styler1972
    Yes, I see your point.. :)
  • Oct 9, 2006, 02:16 PM
    beautifuldiva
    Haha well this was yesterday right? Have u talked to her yet?
  • Oct 9, 2006, 02:19 PM
    styler1972
    Yeah... lol!! But no, I will not see her until wed or thurs... our children play in the same soccer league.. I see her only during practices and games.
  • Oct 9, 2006, 02:21 PM
    beautifuldiva
    Ah OK cool! Awe that's sweet are yalls kids friends? Oh and it's probably best that you don't see her too often... as nothing should be rushed and its easier to keep the kind of conversation you want to have with her casual... until you get some answers ;)
  • Oct 9, 2006, 02:28 PM
    styler1972
    Kind of.. Her youngest is 5, loves my oldest who is 12 and chases her around the field..
    The children that play soccer are not on the same team. Her son is older then mine and they have never met. No your right but I need to grow some do something soon.. Soccer season is almost over!
  • Oct 9, 2006, 02:50 PM
    beautifuldiva
    HAHA OK well u better get on the ball mister!! Jk jk
  • Oct 13, 2006, 11:13 AM
    styler1972
    Well I saw her the other day and of course she just took my breath away.. She hasn't really been coming around a lot lately and just showing up minutes before it's over to p/u her boy.I understand that she might be busy but I know if I was interested in someone, I would make an effort to go a lot to see that person... But she did approach very close to where I was standing around talking to other parents.. She said hi to some mom 1st then looked over at me and said hello. I went over to her and started talking to her. She asked if anything was new with me. I was just lost in her eyes... I asked how her new Spaniard was doing and she qucikly responded with a I don't know haven't talked to him answer. Then we started chatting about other things and I asked about her BF in P.R. and she said she was just there last week with him.. Then I don't know how we got to that subject but she started saying how he is kind of a nerd,never partied, wealthy, very conservative... He's so totally opposite from me. Then she said I got to go, see you later.That was the end.. As much as I wanted to take that next step to ask her for her number, email or even a myspace name. I couldn't do it.. I just didn't feel any vibes from her like I have felt when other girls were interested in me. But it's probably for the better beacuase she does have a BF.. I'll get over it especially when this soccer thing is done and I don't have to see her anymore... It's just I haven't been interested in a woman like this in a very long time.. But I do feel a little intimidated because she is more successful then I am, drives a better car then I. I am not about money or power... ETC. etc.. I feel she deserves someone like that guy in P.R. who is smarter, wealthier, handsome, and baggageless. All I could give is my heart and soul and these days that's not enough to please anyone I notice... OH well!!
    You know, it's so easy to answer and relate to a lot of other people's problems but when it comes to myself, I suck!!
  • Oct 13, 2006, 01:02 PM
    Gillion
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by styler1972
    I do feel a little intimidated because she is more successful then I am, drives a better car then I. I am not about money or power... ETC. etc.. I feel she deserves someone like that guy in P.R. who is smarter, wealthier, handsome, and baggageless. All I could give is my heart and soul and these days thats not enough to please anyone I notice... OH well!!!
    You know, it's so easy to answer and relate to alot of other people's problems but when it comes to myself, I suck!!!

    You have a serious problem that goes way beyond this lady. All she did was to bring these issues of yours up to the surface.

    Your self esteem is low

    Forget this lady and focus on the REAL PROBLEM THAT IS YOU

    You need to find that thing that makes you whole inside and no woman can ever do that for you.

    If you will look at a woman and compare her apparent material success and her beauty and say that these are the reasons you are not worthy of her, then you have lost the race before you got out of the starting block.

    My advice to you is to heal yourself.
  • Oct 13, 2006, 01:31 PM
    styler1972
    Excuse me but I am actually fine THANK YOU. I live a very happy and healthy life and just because I decided put all my money into my children's future like baseball,soccer,football,music, pvt schools,dance, Skiiing,College tuition, instead of driving a BMW that doesn't mean I have a problem.. Yes, I drive a piece of crap mazda with rust coming out and it does not bother me one bit. I don't work overtime or two jobs because I like being around my children and I rather be with them then hiring babysitters. But it seems like the guys she talks to besides me all drive Mercedes and BMW's.. That's all... We are just different people and most girls who make a lot of money don't usually look for men who make less money,less successful..
  • Oct 13, 2006, 01:42 PM
    styler1972
    You know GIllion.. By reading my last comment.. It does make me look like a shallow person.. I think it's funny.. Maybe I shouldn't have written it like that but thanks for your concern...
  • Oct 13, 2006, 01:43 PM
    styler1972
    I meant today's post...
  • Oct 13, 2006, 01:47 PM
    Gillion
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by styler1972
    Excuse me but I am actually fine THANK YOU. I live a very happy and healthy life and just because I decided put all my money into my children's future like baseball,soccer,football,music, pvt schools,dance, Skiiing,College tuition, instead of driving a BMW that doesn't mean I have a problem.. Yes, I drive a piece of crap mazda with rust coming out and it does not bother me one bit. I don't work overtime or two jobs because I like being around my children and I rather be with them then hiring babysitters. But it seems like the guys she talks to besides me all drive Mercedes and BMW's.. That's all...We are just different people and most girls who make alot of money don't usually look for men who make less money,less successful..

    To be intimidated... means to being fearful.

    You are fearful of this woman.

    Why ?
  • Oct 13, 2006, 08:59 PM
    styler1972
    Maybe I shouldn't have said it quite like that. I did sound like whacko.. She's the type of girl who enjoys going to fancy restaurants, away to trips,clubs, theatre all that ritzy stuff. SHe drives a fancy car and I drive a S**T box.SO by that I wouldn't want to be like a scaveneger to have her pay not drive my car and not be able to take her to fancy restaurants, trips etc. all. Maybe that is not a good way to think but can't help it.I bet a lot of men who do have some pride and would feel like that.She is a good mom and a great heart and berry HOTT!

    I did realized she is not active that much in the kids extra actvity. The guys that she talks to all seem to have all her quality.. good career wise.. I'm just a dad and would feel boring to her because all I do is drive from baseballfields to soccer fields and sit at boring ballerina dance lessons with a bunch of loud little girls (very nice kids) but UHG. Then when I'm not doing that I coach travel baseball for a bunch of 8 yr old boys! But I would have to say music is my favorite class to listen to.! Then I want to come home,crash, go on the net for a few and watch some sports... Hey, I have only a few years left with my kids before I'm not so cool anymore to them.. When I'm done then watch out, I'm going to Jamaica for 4 months when they leave on their own..! I understand and I respect your comment Gillion. I guess I do in some point have some issues but I am happy with what I am.. I just wouldn't mind some attention once in awhile from an adult and when I felt a little of bit at first, yeah I got excited.It's been a couple of years since I have been with anyone and I did a couple opportunities this summer but I passed because I found out they were drunks. I'm sorry, I keep babbling.. going to bed.. But she was HOTT!!
    Staying positive!! Peace
  • Oct 14, 2006, 03:46 AM
    talaniman
    Dating does not lead to marriage all the time but should be fun. You can't be intimidated by what people have or do, after all what have you got to lose by asking someone out? If you let your fear of rejection stop you from the fun of life, you should work on that. A date is not a life long adventure, unless that's where you let your mind take you.

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