Ask Me Help Desk - Tips for DATING, Relationships! Understanding Women!

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Be yourself, I can't say that enough.

When I was dating, a long, long time ago ;) the one thing I couldn't stand was a clingy guy. If you're calling me 10 times a day just to say hi, after a while I want to change my number.

Buying me a gift every time you see me, not good, makes me feel like I then owe you something.

I'm not like most women though. I hate having a guy open my door for me, I have two arms I can do it myself. I don't like guys that talk down to me because I'm a women. I have a brain, I went to college, before I became a mom I had a career. Talk to me, not at me, listen, you might just learn something. ;)

Just remember, we are women, we're not aliens. Treat a women the way you'd want to be treated and you should be just fine. Above all, never change who you are for someone, that will always blow up in your face.

Have fun, go out, meet people. You'll find Miss Right, sooner or later. :)

So true... thanks for that information. You know Ima be truly honest. I've been thinking that I won't meet someone like my last girl. She had a lot of good qualities that I look for in someone. I worry about that sometimes.

Don't worry about stuff like that. Life happens when you least expect it too. If you constantly worry about finding the one, you never will. Things creep up on you so fast that you won't have time to think about it, you will just react. It is the reaction that decides your life. Just build a life you enjoy and let the rest take care of itself, because it will.

A little story.

I met my husband when we were both 19. I didn't expect to meet anyone, especially not the man I was going to marry.

I had just gone through a string of bad relationships, one after the other. I had decided to take a break from dating. Time to concentrate on myself, my studies, my life.

Well, a friend invited me to a club for another friends birthday party. I really didn't know this person well, I didn't feel like going, but at the last minute I decided, what the heck, go, have fun, dance, mingle.

I met my hubby that night, he bought me a drink, we played pool, it was just a friendship at first but it quickly became more.

I found him when I least expected to, heck, I wasn't even looking, he just snuck up on me.

All my exes had qualities that I liked, otherwise I wouldn't have dated them, but I found the guy that suits me the best, my forever guy. :) We've been together 19 years now (great, now you know how old I am :().

Stop looking so hard, she'll pop up.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

A little story.

I met my husband when we were both 19. I didn't expect to meet anyone, especially not the man I was going to marry.

I had just gone through a string of bad relationships, one after the other. I had decided to take a break from dating. Time to concentrate on myself, my studies, my life.

Well, a friend invited me to a club for another friends birthday party. I really didn't know this person well, I didn't feel like going, but at the last minute I decided, what the heck, go, have fun, dance, mingle.

I met my hubby that night, he bought me a drink, we played pool, it was just a friendship at first but it quickly became more.

I found him when I least expected to, heck, I wasn't even looking, he just snuck up on me.

All my exes had qualities that I liked, otherwise I wouldn't have dated them, but I found the guy that suits me the best, my forever guy. :) We've been together 19 years now (great, now you know how old I am :().

Stop looking so hard, she'll pop up.

Yea that's how my last relationship came about... my and ex kind of just crossed paths and there was a connection, and very good chemistry right off. I didn't force it. It just happen on its own. Then when she went off to college things weren't the same anymore...she didn't think she LOVED me at all, like she thought she did. One night I asked her will me and her be alright by her being off at school, I was just concerned...You know??? She started saying I'm trying to be SERIOUS, she is not ready for that, I'm trying to make her settle. She's confused. She don't know how she feels anymore. Yes my family likes you but still... etc that kind of stuff... then calls me back that same day and said that breaking was something she didn't want to do. But thats when she told that I was way too excited about the relationship, and that me and her need to stop the LOVE STUFF (She calls it)...whatever that means...and that she wants to take it very, very slow...but we can still court and date...its like she completely changed on me...I was VERY CONFUSED and HURT...and things just DIDNT FEEL THE SAME ANYMORE...YOU KNOW??? And meeting her just happened... but at the beginning we HIT IT OFF REALLY WELL... YOU KNOW?? I DIDN'T FORCE ANYTHING... Things happened...

That's how it always happens. Go out, have fun, and be yourself. Don't put on a front. Don't go out looking for love. Just live your life and be happy. You will naturally attract others that are doing the same things.

You will find someone when or where you least expect it.

Be honest, don't play head games.

Flowers! Flowers! Flowers! Makes all the difference.

I was quite a dater. And I always dated a number of people always keeping my options open.

But I remember the 1st day I met my husband. He had brought flowers. That always stood out for me,(usually guys get flowers for B-day or Valentine's day) but he got me flowers and he did not even know me.

Just that one small gesture showed a lot about him and of course I stopped dating...

Good luck!

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Originally Posted by jmw0713

That's how it always happens. Go out, have fun, and be yourself. Don't put on a front. Don't go out looking for love. Just live your life and be happy. You will naturally attract others that are doing the same things.

You will find someone when or where you least expect it.

So true... Thats really what I need to know... just don't worry about and enjoy life the way I want to.