Originally Posted by
starbuck8
Honey, I don't know why it is hard to think of reasons. The reasons are right in front of you. He cheats, lies about it, and lies to other people that he only stays because you're so weak without him that you will kill yourself. Also, your sex life suffers, because he can't get hard, but then masturbates after you've gone to sleep. There are your reasons.
I know you are probably thinking...but she doesn't know the emotional bond we have. He is great when we are together, and we just click on an emotional level. Well, I do know. My ex and I had that bond. We were best friends, we could tell each other anything, we never fought, we just didn't. All of our friends used to comment on they would die to have a relationship like ours. We would sit for hours on end, at least 3 or 4 nights a week and just talk, and laugh, sometimes cry. We went on beautiful trips together. We would spend days, just the two of us on a boat floating around, and then sit on the beach at night and would just tell each other everything, or so I thought. We were joined at the hip. We really didn't go many places apart. It's not like we didn't make time for our separate friends, but most times we were together, enjoying golfing, or fishing, things like that. He would go to work in the morning, and come home everynight. His son, him and I would always sit and have dinner together. My point is, I thought I knew everything there was to know. But, he left out a few details. When I thought he was hard at work, he really was "hard" at work! See he was the boss. He would let his employees know what was on the agenda for the day, and off he would go to cheat on me. Not with just one girl, not with two, but countless. Then he would come home to me, and everything was normal....when in fact it wasn't. I was heartbroken when I finally found out.
So you can talk to him until you are blue in the face. He can make you all the promises in the world. Mine used to tell me he would NEVER even think of cheating on me or lying to me, because it had been done to him. Classic line by the way. Your guy just isn't going to up and change what he's been doing, trust me he won't. He may for awhile, but eventually he will go back to what he's doing. By that time, you will be in so deep, you won't be able to see the light of day. Your self esteem and self worth will be shot to hell, and you will be left with more of a broken heart than you would if you left now.
Please think about this. I don't want someone else to go through what I had to.
