I know I know but I just can't get her out of my mind everything makes me think of her I've been with her for so long and when I'm with her everything is great. Do you have any idea why she won't even talk about what happened or go out to eat and talk

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Originally Posted by what2do699

i know i know but i just can't get her outta my mind everthing makes me think of her iv been with her for so long and when im with her everthing is great. do u have any idea why she wont even talk about what happened or go out to eat and talk

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I don't know anything more than you've told us, but I would assume it is because she is thinking about this other guy now, and not you. I'm sorry, I know that has to hurt, but that would be my guess at it. You both got involved so very young, and these really are the things that normally happen when you are teenage sweethearts and make a baby. Usually one person in the couple decides they missed out on something, and they leave the other person hurt and devastated, and they move on with their lives. Then, they realise that because of all of this, they have to still stay in contact, without having a relationship with their former love, because there is now a baby involved.

Thanks a bunch but what do I do if she does come back again should I take her back or say no so this won't happen again ?

Listen, you've to accept that the two of you relationship is over. You tried twice already to work things out but they didn't work.

I don't know if it is because of her but I think the age thing is playing a huge part. She wants to be free. She wants to get out there and date other guys but you want to stay and fight. You can keep putting yourself through this instead you need to take all that energy your putting towards her and put it towards your child.

Get off and stay out this rollercoaster ride. She is hot than cold and heartless. She only cares about herself and wants. She is a very confused person and has a lot of growing up to do. All this back and forth between the two you is only hurting your child and the child is the most important party here.

If she doesn't allow you to see your child then take her to court. Accept that you and her are over and really, I mean really, let go.

I just don't think I can

Its just when I'm with her it's the geatest no one ever made me feel that way before and my kid just reminds me of her it's a pain

Instead of saying you "can't" try saying you "can". Think positive instead of negative and your be surprise on what you can do.

Take baby steps and day by day and sooner or later your see a difference not only in yourself but your thinking as well.

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thanks a bunch but wut do i do if she does come back again should i take her back or say no so this wont happen again ?

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You say NO! She will do it to you again my dear. You will end up being hurt further. It's time to stop begging for her to love you like it once was, and start moving on. If you don't move on, this will just repeat itself over and over, until you carry this negavatively in future relationships, and it will cause more problems. You will learn from this, so remember this experience and use it as a helpful tool in future relationships. There will be some! Probably more than one. Use this time to work on getting to love and accept yourself first, and then command, not demand, respect from future relationships that you will have.

If it ever happened I don't think I could say no to her that's my problem. Ilove her so much I don't know why but I do I just need her for some reason. Nothing is ever the same without her.

As long as you keep thinking the way you it will always be easy to take her back. Than she will rip your heart out, throw it on the ground and step all over it. She is heartless.

She knows that she can treat like sh*t and play with you like a yo-yo and no matter what or how low she treats you you'll always be there waiting to take her back. She knows your going call and beg and beg because your weak.

You need to get over your obssession for this girl but you've to want to do it. Your addicted to her and addictions are hard to break but with a lot of will power anything is possible.

Another thing is next November we planned to go to flordia with the kid and go to disney what should I do about that. We have stuff we put away for when we get married... what should I do with that. I'm also is high school and for some reason no one wants to date a 17 year old dad. But she seems to find just weird guys anyone that will say yes. Do u think its posssible that she still has feelings for me?

You can still go to Disneyland with your son. Take him and go have fun. You don't need her for that.

It doesn't matter if you can't find someone right now to be with besides your ex. You need time alone to clear your head. Don't start nothing with nobody while your still stuck over your ex. It's unfair to that person.

Yes, we all make plans but no matter how air tight your plans are things don't go according to plan. Be happy that marriage didn't happen because the marriage would've lasted anyway. Sorry!

I am curious to know what does your parents, family, or friends think about this situation?

My parents think she a confused girl because her parents kind of pushed hard for her to have the baby and she I just unhappy with herself.