Children can sense any type of emotional problems you may have, by staying in a relationship with someone you do not love is only going to hurt them. When they get old enough(7-8) they will realize about how it is and how there is no love, which will only prevent them from having a healthy relationship in their lives.

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Get strong stand on your own feet, get child support from both men and move on. Easier said then done.

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I know that. But you have done this the easy way already, and seen, and felt, the results. It won't get easier if you stay with the path your on?

Get some help first, and do what you need for yourself. That's a start in the right direction.

It's a big task in front of you, and you can do this just start slowly. Stay away from the married guy though.

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Children can sense any type of emotional problems you may have, by staying in a relationship with someone you do not love is only going to hurt them. When they get old enough(7-8) they will realize about how it is and how there is no love, which will only prevent them from having a healthy relationship in their lives.

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I have to spread rep but I'll agree with you there.

Moving on and getting help is easier than you think. When you try to move on it seems like you can't but that's only your mind playing tricks on you. All you need is two things: (1) a personal commitment to change and (2) a good plan for where to go and how to get there. How are you going to improve your life if you don’t take action?

Many people are just afraid to start over because you are too familiar with who you with but you must come over that fear. Yes, I'll be the first to admit that it is a scary process but it is worth it in the end. In this case your kids should be the motives but it will be hard for them too.

Talking to a therapist and joining a support group will help turn you around and boost your self-esteem and they do have many self-health books to help you along the way.

Take it from someone that started over with a child, started over is easier said then done but it is can be done. In your case it will be harder with the kids but many others have done it.

Yep, take my fiancé for example. She has 2 kids by another man, who was her husband and she had to start all over and now we live together and are engaged. So there is hope :)

Hey busy girl... youve made an enormous step just letting people know what's happening in your life.. and people will be judgemental... me included... although I'd like to think otherwise. You are a woman (strong)... nuturing beautiful children... the highest job of all!!
There's no point 'waiting for prince charming'... how much will you hate yourself in the future for sticking around with a loser? (anybody can get a loser)... and having the hassle of being with a partnered loser?
You deserve better, your children deserve a happy mother... who is the most important person to them
I wish I could wave a magic wand to give your family the beautiful life you deserve... immediatley... but it will happen.. 4sure... but you need to go down into that hole and be hurt and sad then all of a sudden something gorgeous will happen... just believe that...
It just won't happen with cheaten losers... it will happen with yourself... then someone will come along and share an extraordinary life with you and your kids... BELIEVE IT!!

Thank you so much! That was so encouraging. I can't think of any other words to explain... LOL (very unusual).

Hey, I'm cheerin' 4 you! Just don't f**k up again with a drongo (aussie for dead-beat)...
What is your passion? There's got to be something... designing clothes, saving wildlife... whatever... 'follow your OWN rainbow'...
Cheers Seahippie