I guess the only reason you thought some posts was nasty because it spoke the truth and some people run away from that. People can only give you their opinon because the choice is still yours because it's your life.

If someone sees another human being rushing as fast as they can over the edge of a perilous cliff & they stop a moment to ask "What should I do?", it's only concern that makes the answer be "STOP! You are heading toward a disasterous fall which could cause you even more damage (some may be permanent & certainly irreversible), than that which is making you think right now that fall will be a good thing for you!".

You want nasty, read some of the comments to others in your situation.