This is really ridiculous; simple because you are thowing stones and probably doing the same thing. I can truly relate, I'm in love with a married man as well. I have been married myself for seven years.. I love both men. You really can't talk unleast you've walked in the person's shoes. It's hard to let go especially if you truly love the person. I tried to let go several times and love brought me back. But truly there's no future in having affairs. So let it go. It may hurt but find something you love to take your mind off him. As days pass you'll eventually forget about it. :)