Thank you very much for your response HelpNow! I love that saying, that is perfect. I will take your advice I think, I just hope I get over him someday soon. Good luck with your new relationship...

Well, I am in the exact situation as you were, just it's even kind of worse that we kind of already are friends with benefit. We've known each other for years, but this was just a recent thing. From the first day he was kissing me he told me he wasn't for a relationship, but still I got trapped in that. Now I want to be out of it. So did you keep in contact with that guy? Or you just totally lost contact with him

No more contact with him. Not worth the hassle to be honest.

Does it just all end this way, it's really hard to give up, but it has never been a relationship. I think I really need to wake up and make it clear with him. I am quite agree with you that if a guy said from the beginning he didn't want a relationship then it means he just wants to be in the play field for a while. I don't know why I feel that me and him might be together years later, but not this time. It's really a strange feeling, but since nothing would come out at the moment, then I should keep on looking for other men instead of keeping on falling for him. I am really a bit scared though.

hey i just want you to know that i def get your situation because mine is similiar. He seems like he just likes leading you on, he is playing way too many games so why dont you reverse the field. He hangs out with you one day to later on write you an email saying how he pretty much can't continue because he enjoys being a manwhore. He has you exactly where he wants you because he knows that you like him enough to keep going back like us girls typically do. Sorry hun but he has someone else because why doesnt he call you instead of writing an email [have you spoken to him on the phone], if him already being in a relationship is definately not the problem then he is a coward because he should tell you face to face instead of playing tongsil hockey all night, no offense. You are wayy too pretty to be played with, you need a real man not a coward that beats around the bush. Its pretty clear that he doesnt want nothing but a bootycall because i bet if you let it get further thats all he will be wanting but hey why mix love with sex if you know how to keep them seperate then go for it we all have needs.
Good Luck <3

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Originally Posted by t00stellar

why mix love with sex if you know how to keep them seperate then go for it we all have needs.
Good Luck <3

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That is the problem, I don't know why I can't separate them, it's really if I keep on sleeping with someone especially I really like this guy, I can't never separate sex with love.

I read this and had to comment, just because he doesn't want a relationship does not mean he is involved with someone else. Yes, this may sometimes be the case, but some guys are scared of commitment. Some have been so hurt in the past that their opinion of certain women has changed so much that it is difficult to let their guard down. Im sure this guy likes you a lot, but is just scared of getting into something serious. Do not contact him, let it go, and if he comes back, you have your answer.