Ahh but it was a nice read indeed

I actually think this is a good thing.

I'm a fairly rich guy, and my big fear when I'm with girls is that they only want me for my money. Because of that I have a strict 50/50 rule when it comes to eating and going out- either split it 50/50 or each pay their share.

Now "secretly", If I spend more I always suggest we each pay our share, but if she spends more, I normally say "50/50" because for me it's not about the money, its about the principle.

The apartment and car situations however are where I get a little iffy.

I bought my wife a car (before she was my wife) because she couldn't afford it (shes a teacher), and set up payments so she would pay me back (although she wasn't paying the total price- I paid the down payment which was almost 1/2 the car price). However, for me it was a "I don't like to feel like I may be getting taken advantage of". Seems like you should at least suggest that you split the car rental too?

The apartment situation is also iffy, but it depends on the details.

If I was with a girl and she wanted to go to a 800 a m/o place and split it, but I wanted to go to a $1500 per month, then I'd say "you pay 400 (half of the 800) and I'll pay 1100- HOWEVER, if the girl pushed for the 1500 per month place even though her old one was only 800, I'd expect her to pay $750 a month.

Does that rationalization make sense?

I only bring up me as an example because I don't know what the purpose behind the 50/50 thing is. Maybe he's trying to take you for granted and get what he can out of you, or maybe he's just being cautious and fears being taken advantage of. If it's the latter, can you blame him?

Theres a lot of those people out there.... trust me.

and financial problems were NEVER a problem in our marriage. What we did was we each had our own account, and we had a joint account. We each put in enough to cover general expenses in the joint, and spent the personal accounts as we pleased (so we never had to stress out with eachothers purchases as long as they were putting in their fair share.

Yeah I bought our boat and motorcycles with my "own" money, and I took her on "dates" with my "own" money, and the such, and she was never spread "thin", but for us, that worked great.

We certainly had our problems, but money was NOT one of them!

Wow! I'm getting new opinions on old posts! Just to give everybody an update, I broke up with the bum almost a year ago. After living in one apartment on Long Island, he wanted to live closer to the city so I agreed to move with him to Forest Hills, Queens. We made it there for about 5 days until he complained to me that I had put on too much weight and that he wanted me to lose 10 lbs (I was a size 4). Anyway, needless to say, he's probably torturing some other girl as we speak. Either way, I don't care! Good riddance!

God, I hate when people resurrect old threads! Anyway, I'm glad you dumped him. I'm a size 4, and I'm fairly scrawny. Who needs that crap?

Was there a happy ending to the story? Have you met a nice guy? I'm the eternal hopeless romantic :)

Oh, it reminds me one of my ex.
I dated this good looking medical doctor for years who personally owns multi million dollar business. He also tried to apply the 50/50 principal at the first date. I felt insulted, and I did not feel like I was treated as a lady, even though I have been always financially blissful. I said "You buy dinner, and I buy desert". Since then we took turns to pay bills. I tired to be fair, and we did almost 50/50.

I was interested in him, not expensive restaurants, we went to all fun places, and had all kinds of fun, and he cooked home meals for me often (he is Italian American). However when he went out with his friends, he surely went to upper scale place.

I like to go shopping, but he hated it, we never went out for clothing/shoes shopping together except grocery / book / cds. I normally bought stuff for him whenever I shop with my girl friends. Not a big deal. We decided to learn new things together, he paid the dance lessons for 2 of us, and I paid another class for him too. One strange thing was, I bought a digital camera for him for Christmas, but he refused it since it was too expensive (?? ), and I got kitchen stuff for Christmas (?? ). I received flowers very often though.

The problem was he was emotionally stingy, in terms he needed to take more than give. He needed full time attention from me. If I took my work or girl friend as priority, he was very upset, started to accused me in a very subtle way, and eventually took me to a guilt trip. When he needed to talk to me, ha had to call me 2, 3, 4 am to wake me up & talk to me to make sure he was loved enough. What the hell! I broke up with him to finish the emotional torturing, but he did not let me go. He came back to me on and on for years to checked me out if I was single or not, disturbed and shook up all my emotions. He certainly knew how to talk, and I took him back twice since he was crying and begging indeed.
However, he constantly sucked up all my energy, drained my happy spirit, and made me exhausted all the time. I could not stand it, and ended it finally. He proposed me in a half way (without ring!), but I turned it down. I wanted my life back. My girl friend still calls him psycho.

So I learned my lesson. When a man is not willing to offer at the first date, he is not worth for second date. He certainly has an issue. I do not care what other people says.

My boyfriend is so tight its unbelievable he's on 23k a year and I am a student, we v been together for 1 year n 3 months and he gets my bithday and valentines card from the pound land.