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  • Nov 22, 2010, 05:23 PM
    How to Stop Being Used By Guys
    I always seem to attract guys that can never make up there minds. They are always the ones who chase after me initially until they get me and just around the time when I decide that I like them back and want a relationship they bale. But then the weird part is, they always come back again and apologize and try to get back with me. Until it gets to the part where I want a relationship. Then they bale again. I've been told that I'm too nice, but I don't know how to be mean. It's really not who I am in general. I hate being mean to anyone. Do I just have to be treated by crap by every guy I like because I'm not mean to them? I seem to have the problem of liking unavailable guys. Maybe it's because deep down inside I'm scarred to love someone and be serious with them. It just seems that everyone either gets married and their marriage falls apart and ends with divorce, or people stay together, but they're not really happy together. How do I get over this and how do I attract guys that won't walk all over me and treat me like I'm just their for their convenience. I seriously feel I have issues in this area. I'm good at everything else in life besides relationships. I'm a hot mess when it comes to dating :~
  • Nov 22, 2010, 07:38 PM
    I wish

    I think it sounds more like you haven't found someone who matches you yet. I know it might sound cliché when we say that you haven't met the right person.

    My 2 cents is that when you find someone who matches you well, then you won't have so many doubts floating around.

    As for being more mean or nice. I would say, just be yourself. If the other person can't accept for being yourself, then the relationship isn't going to last long term anyway.

    Just keep meeting more people to increase your chances of meeting someone. What I would suggest is that take more time to get to know the other person before deciding to enter a relationship. There's no reason to rush these things.
  • Dec 14, 2010, 07:05 AM
    I'm the Same wayy! You need to look into them more then just the sweet words and persuasive conversations. Look at how they treat you, and your family. Most of the time, if theyr'e good around your family, they're good for you. But don't hold my word to that, its not always truee! Try to figure them out, keep them waiting. If they REALLY want you, they'll wait until you're ready to date. Don't fall too deeply. Don't go back!

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