My friend Steve* asked me out about three weeks ago. We've known each other since last year and my friends tell me that he has liked me since. I went to a concert with him and other things like ice skating and movies. I never really had feelings for him and when he asked me out, it was so sudden and surprising that I couldn't say no.. I should have though; it would have made this situation a lot easier! We already kissed and held hands outside of school but I just can't do that in school. I don't think it's because I'm not comfortable with the whole boyfriend thing, but if I really had feelings for him I would act different. And everyone asks me if we're dating and my friends seem happier than I am. When I see him in the hallways I get that nervous feelings. Not the butterflies head over heels thing, the awkwardness. And Whenever I hear about a couple in school only lasting a week or two, it's really annoying. But know I understand why. I want it to last longer than a month but it's Obviously not good if I keep worrying about this every night. I'm happy when I'm with him, but it's totally different. I don't know what to say that will let him down easy and when to do it. I know this is long and probably boring for most of you but I really need the help. Please and thank you!! :) :)

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The main thing is to be honest with him and also yourself. If you have no romantic feelings for him, tell him so. You may also tell him that you can remain friends, if you want. The main thing is to be honest. You will feel much better about yourself. Good luck and God Bless...

Thanks so much guys for the advice. It helps to hear the truth instead of what I want to hear.

You need to let him know NOW that there's nothing there. It's not fair to you or him to let this relationship keep going on as a lie.
It may hurt him now but not as much as it will if you keep waiting and letting him get more attached.
Good luck, breaking up can be hard to do.

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Originally Posted by molly135

My friend Steve* asked me out about three weeks ago. we've known each other since last year and my friends tell me that he has liked me since. I went to a concert with him and other things like ice skating and movies. I never really had feelings for him and when he asked me out, it was so sudden and surprising that I couldn't say no..I should have though; it would have made this situation a lot easier! We already kissed and held hands outside of school but I just can't do that in school. I don't think it's because I'm not comfortable with the whole boyfriend thing, but if I really had feelings for him I would act different. And everyone asks me if we're dating and my friends seem happier than I am. When I see him in the hallways I get that nervous feelings. Not the butterflies head over heels thing, the awkwardness. And Whenever i hear about a couple in school only lasting a week or two, it's really annoying. But know I understand why. I want it to last longer than a month but it's Obviously not good if I keep worrying about this every night. I'm happy when I'm with him, but it's totally different. I don't know what to say that will let him down easy and when to do it. I know this is long and probably boring for most of you but I really need the help. Please and thank you!!!:) :)

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I think that if you don't really like him, you should probably let him know that. It seems that he really likes you, so you should probably let him down very easy. It doesnt seem fair for you to keep dating him when you dont like him though.

OK ill try. Its gonan be harder to tell him than think about it :( but thank you!

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Originally Posted by molly135

My friend Steve* asked me out about three weeks ago. we've known each other since last year and my friends tell me that he has liked me since. I went to a concert with him and other things like ice skating and movies. I never really had feelings for him and when he asked me out, it was so sudden and surprising that I couldn't say no..I should have though; it would have made this situation a lot easier! We already kissed and held hands outside of school but I just can't do that in school. I don't think it's because I'm not comfortable with the whole boyfriend thing, but if I really had feelings for him I would act different. And everyone asks me if we're dating and my friends seem happier than I am. When I see him in the hallways I get that nervous feelings. Not the butterflies head over heels thing, the awkwardness. And Whenever i hear about a couple in school only lasting a week or two, it's really annoying. But know I understand why. I want it to last longer than a month but it's Obviously not good if I keep worrying about this every night. I'm happy when I'm with him, but it's totally different. I don't know what to say that will let him down easy and when to do it. I know this is long and probably boring for most of you but I really need the help. Please and thank you!!!:) :)

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That's exactly my problem as well! Accept mine is worse because I told my boyfriend I liked him, but when he asked me out I completley freaked and I don't like him too much anymore.

Wow. The same thing happened to me today. I googled it to see if anything popped up and this popped up. This guy asked me out yesterday and I cared about him but I didn't like him like that, but I found myself saying yes anyway. He told me how much he liked me and today in school we held hands and everything and then after school he frenched me and was really getting into it. I always wanted to kiss a guy but there were just no sparks with him at all. I really didn't like him that much from the begininng. So I broke up with him and I felt so guilty because I knew how much he liked and cared about me and I totally crushed him. It hurt him now but I knew he'll eventually move on and be glad I was honest, better to end it than to make it worse by having him get more attached to you and you still not have feelings for him. So its cool we had something in common, but not so cool that it was this particular issue we had in common. I don't know why I started dating him in the first place. That was a huge mistake. :( Now I think I might have even lost him as a friend. But I hope he gets over it.

I have the same problem. At the beginning of the year this guy asked me out. I thought he was cute so I said yes; we've only been on 2-3 dates and I really like him as a friend, but nothing else. I wasn't exactly sure how I felt until he kissed me. The only thought in my head was "when will this be over." (I know that sounds really bad!) I really do want to stay friends with him, and I haven't told him yet, but I know I have to! It's a lot easier thinking about doing it, then actually doing it. But the guy is going to be more hurt if he doesn't find out from you! My problem though is that some of his friends are telling me that they thinks he's in love with me. Kind of creepy since we haven't been out more than 2-3 times. So I know what your going through. I used to think that girls like "us" were kind of crazy, but now I know what its like. Let him down easy, if he does really like you it will be harder for him to agree to be just friends, but it sometimes can work. :) Hope this is helpful. It prob. Is a little repetitive.