Yup. My life has been bad more than once, through choices I made, whether those choices were mistakes or not.
I got pregnant at 17. I was already working to help support my family (not for "fun" money like many teens), and KNEW another mouth to feed was going to be insanity. My family offered support, but I did what was best for my daughter, and myself, and chose adoption. How many people parent that can't afford to?
I ran up credit card debt in college. In my defense, nearly all of the debt was groceries. I had problems where I was told I had financial aid, and it fell through at the last minute. Since I'd already signed a lease, I had to stick out a year in a town out of state from where I'd grown up. I got a job, went to school full time, and worked more than 40 hours every week to pay for rent, school and food. Food was my LOWEST priority, and many days, my only meal was the one I got from the church down the street from me. I should have dropped out of school; instead, I failed everything and had more debt. So... when my lease was up, I DID drop out of school. I sacrificed my education for food in my stomach.
There ARE some situations where I'm more than happy to help someone get out of a bad spot they're in due to their choices---but they have to be doing as much as I am to get them out of that situation. Great example is a family I help. Mother, 2 kids. Mom is a recovering alcoholic and drug user, sober 3 years. She started her road to recovery when the father of the kids snapped one day and instead of hitting her like he usually did, he hit one of the kids. She packed them up and moved to a women's shelter and started the long road to recovery--so that she didn't lose her kids to him. She'd made some REALLY bad choices in her life, but she makes the choice every morning now to get up, stay sober, and earn enough to keep her family. She barely does it. She also has the unfortunate situation of having Crohn's disease (which is a pre-existing condition that will get you denied health care). She does everything she can herself, but sometimes it's not enough. I've sort of "adopted" them, and help them every time I have a chance--with money for bills, with food, with a place to go that's safe with no drugs or alcohol, with an ear to listen, hand me down clothing, etc. This is a woman who made SERIOUS mistakes in her life, and through NO fault of her own is being denied insurance.
So yes, some people can make mistakes and need a hand up. Giving them a hand up is NOT the same as giving them a hand OUT--and there are PLENTY of programs to help most people who need it.
The problem, phlanx, is that most people who make mistakes and get what they need ANYWAY don't learn from their mistakes--and therefore keep making them. Just look at the US Welfare system if you don't believe me.