It's a honest question. What could Adam Lanza's mother have done differently? With any other child, she might have been doing everything right. And how do we know if we are raising our kids so they end up misusing a gun (or knife or brick or... )? I watched my bil raise his two daughters badly, but I kept my mouth shut because who is to say my way would have been better? Now those two daughters are over 20 and have terribly messed up lives. Should I have said something?