Are you following your own advice? (Hint: The answer is "no".) BTW, many people have been converted after long periods of discussion. C.S. Lewis comes to mind, for instance. With Athos I am trying to learn to be steady, truthful, and as kind as the situation allows. Wouldn't hurt things if you would jump in on the side of the truth from time to time. Your reluctance to do so is baffling.