Ask Me Help Desk - Invasion of privacy

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Again, please quote what I said that deserved your "what the Hell" comment involving destroying the photos.

If naked photos of each other works, fine. I truly don't know what the "rare occurrence where a gf sends naked picture to her bf" has to do with this - you're his gf, they were naked pictures. What's the difference?

At any rate, my question remains the same - why weren't they locked?

This sounds like College stuff to me. I've been involved in one of these investigations, but one of the parties was underage.

Well because maybe people don't think that their bestfriends would go into private and personal folders

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Originally Posted by playfair

well because maybe people dont think that their bestfriends would go into private and personal folders

Well, apparently they do. That's why "most people" have passwords for sensitive info, finances, photos, whatever else they want to keep private, including if/when the computer is ever stolen.

What degree assault is the charge against your boyfriend?

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Well, apparently they do. That's why "most people" have passwords for sensitive info, finances, photos, whatever else they want to keep private, including if/when the computer is ever stolen.

What degree assault is the charge against your bf?

Assault with bodily harm, I do believe the friend had gotten a concussion, and there is a password when you first open the laptop if it had ever gotten stolen

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Originally Posted by playfair

assault with bodily harm, i do believe the friend had gotten a concussion, and there is a password when you first open the laptop if it had ever gotten stolen

Concussion? Probably first degree? He needs an Attorney or he's going to have this on his permanent criminal record.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Concussion? Probably first degree? He needs an Attorney or he's going to have this on his permanent criminal record.

In the process of acquiring one right now, thank you for the advice.

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Originally Posted by playfair

your responses are no longer required, how exactly did my story change? i have no reason to make anything up or change the story, how would that help my situation at all? and yes there is a warrant but I am the one who was violated and the friend was the one who was a victim of assault, any reasonable person would snap in this situation, my boyfriends actions were on no level "not deserved"

First, please don't presume to dictate who can or cannot respond to your posts here. Once you post a question you open yourself up for any response as long as it doesn't violate our rules.

Second, no you didn't change your story, but you left out a VERY key piece of info. Also you asked the wrong question. The question you should have asked is what defense your boyfriend can use against an assault charge when the provocation for the assault was the victim having taken revealing pictures of you from his PC. Had you told us about the assault charge I believe our answers would have been different.

Unfortunately for your boyfriend provocation is not a valid defense unless the provocation was being attacked himself. If there is proof he hit the other guy, then he is likely to be convicted. His hope would appear to be either a plea bargain for a lesser charge or hope a judge and/or jury sympathizes with his provocation and reduces any sentence imposed.

And that is why he needs a good lawyer. Even if the friend did break any laws by copying the photos (which I don't believe he did), prosecuting him for doing so will not change your boyfriend's plight.

I sympathize with your boyfriend. I'm not sure I wouldn't have smashed the phone too. At the least I would have removed the memory card and burned it. I also would have told this person that he crossed the line and that we are no longer friends and to stay away from me. But assault? I think I would have drawn the line there.

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Originally Posted by playfair

your responses are no longer required, how exactly did my story change? i have no reason to make anything up or change the story, how would that help my situation at all? and yes there is a warrant but I am the one who was violated and the friend was the one who was a victim of assault, any reasonable person would snap in this situation, my boyfriends actions were on no level "not deserved"

Excuse me? Don't even attempt to dictate if I will or will not respond to your posts.

Go to Court and argue justifiable assault which results in a concussion and then come back and let me know how long your boyfriend will be in jail.

I don't know what's more pathetic - your sending naked photos to your boyfriend, him leaving them in an open folder, the best friend copying them, your boyfriend punching his lights out (and breaking his cell phone, one thing you did mention) or you thinking you were/are the victim.

With luck your photos will get posted somewhere and you'll be back for more advice.

I'd still like to know where I said that the photos should have been destroyed/deleted, which statement you have attributed to me: "why the hell would i even take the photos if he were just going to destroy them?"