Ask Me Help Desk - Is it considered rape?

Okay, the house key has to go because he know you need it for your escape - it's a type of control he has with you. Remove all control ties! Do not text, call or talk to him. Lets him him know your done with whatever started.
Picture this; your in a hurry to get somewhere. There's a dark eerie alley to walk through, ( the house key is the metaphor to my point meaning the alley. ) Do you walk down the alley even though you most likely will get hurt. Is that destination really that important?

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Originally Posted by liz28

You need to clear up alot of things because I answered your other thread but now I am more confuse. What about the other guy your seeing? And if your dating the other guy why are you holding on to this neighbor?
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I am dateing someone now and I have been keeping myself away from there. The thing is is that we were having sex when I first started talking to him about it I was on pills I am not anymore but I do nor remember that night it happened. But now we did it a lot because of my issues saying no because I'm afraid to get hurt. Now that I realize how wrong it is I am staying away at least I am trying.

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Originally Posted by chuff

Have you told anyone about being raped by your father yet? Your behavior is a result of that and the emotions that control you now. Good news is you can turn this around but the first step is getting help. What would you mom do if you told her?

I have tried to tell me mother but she doesn't believe me on him beating me or him rapeing me she didn't believe my sister when her friend and her friends mother told her that they witnessed me father beating my sister either!

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Originally Posted by Crista

Okay, the house key has to go because he know you need it for your escape - it's a type of control he has with you. Remove all control ties! Do not text, call or talk to him. Let's him him know your done with whatever started.
Picture this; your in a hurry to get somewhere. There's a dark eerie alley to walk thru, ( the house key is the metaphor to my point meaning the alley. ) Do you walk down the alley even though you most likely will get hurt. Is that destination really that important?

... no its not

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Originally Posted by shannonbug

i have tried to tell me mother but she doesnt believe me on him beating me or him rapeing me she didnt believe my sister when her friend and her friends mother told her that they witnessed me father beating my sister either!

I'm going to go out on a limb and tell you that she believes you. Your mother is a very lonely woman, it is the one thing in life she fears more then anything. She fears it so much that she's willing to put up with abuse of her children so she doesn't have to face the loneliness of being by herself.

My guess is, if he beats you and your sister, he's beating her as well. Has she ever told him what you have said. The reason I ask is, because if I was dating a woman, and her children made up stories about me, as your mother is claiming, that is the moment I would end the relationship. To your mom, it doesn't even strike her as odd, that a guy would stick around with these kind of alegations, so therefore, in my opinion, she must really know but be afraid to admit it.

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Originally Posted by chuff

I'm going to go out on a limb and tell you that she believes you. Your mother is a very lonely woman, it is the one thing in life she fears more then anything. She fears it so much that she's willing to put up with abuse of her children so she doesn't have to face the loneliness of being by herself.

My guess is, if he beats you and your sister, he's beating her as well. Has she ever told him what you have said. The reason I ask is, because if I was dating a woman, and her children made up stories about me, as your mother is claiming, that is the moment I would end the relationship. To your mom, it doesn't even strike her as odd, that a guy would stick around with these kind of allegations, so therefore, in my opinion, she must really know but be afraid to admit it.

I am not sure what to do about her she just won't believe anyone. I am not lying neither is my sister she doesn't live with me anymore. My mom is making up stories to get me to stop talking to people and ask them for advice and its people I have known my hole life! She wants me to deal with everything on my own.