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Employer got caught stealing

Please help me I don't know what to do first time in my life happen to me this. I got caught of my employer stealing their coins from their house.. he let me go and say go home and relax after 2 days now no cops calling.

Ok, You stole or your boss stole.

Your post is just not clear.

Who called the police,

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Ok, You stole or your boss stole.

your post is just not clear.

who called the police, ?

Sorry english is not my first language... I stole their money

Ok, police can take weeks to get around to coming to talk to you. Or they may go though grand jury and just get a warrant for you.
Or of course boss may not want this public, ( hurt his business) and may have not reported it

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Ok, police can take weeks to get around to coming to talk to you. or they may go though grand jury and just get a warrant for you.
Or of course boss may not want this public, ( hurt his business) and may have not reported it

Im so nervous and feeling sick right now. I txted her wife that night after her husband let me go from his house.. he still nice at me after happened but I do understand why he upset and disappointed.. anyway I txted her wife and I apologize to the rest of the family what I did.. and she repliedme that she's disappointed what I did.. now she said what she wants for me is to return the money I took.. and just be honestand take responsibility..

Sounds like if you give money back, they are not going to do anything,

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Originally Posted by Clair14

Im so nervous and feeling sick right now. I txted her wife that night after her husband let me go from his house..he still nice at me after happend but i do understand why he upset and disappointed..anyway i txted her wife and i apologize to the rest of the family what i did..and she repliedme that shes disappointed what i did..now she said what she wants for me is to return the money i took ..and just be honestand take responsibility..

Please what I'm going to do? Am I going to call them and talked to them? And give the money? Or I just wait until they call me?

Give the money back. That's what they asked for so why are you unsure? Give it back.

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Originally Posted by Clair14

Pls what im going to do? Am i going to call them and talked to them? And give the money? Or i just wait until they call me?

But the problem is I am doing this very long time with them but when they caught me I just told them I just did only one time and I did it again that's when they caught me.. do I tell them that I've been doing this very long time

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Originally Posted by odinn7

Give the money back. That's what they asked for so why are you unsure? Give it back.

If I'm going to return the money do I show up to their house without their permission or call them first before I meet them

It's almost like we're supposed to feel sorry for you... but here you are saying that you have been doing this to them for a long time... and from what you said, they sound like decent people. However, I think you are only upset now because they caught you... otherwise you would still be doing it to them

Call them and tell them you want to return it..

All I can tell you is to give them the money back... what you say or do after that is up to you.

[QUOTE=odinn7;3386818]It's almost like we're supposed to feel sorry for you... but here you are saying that you have been doing this to them for a long time... and from what you said, they sound like decent people. However, I think you are only upset now because they caught you... otherwise you would still be doing it to them
I know that its wrong thing to do but I learned a lesson for this I thought they never caught me... ps help me I really feel sorry and I'm aware what I've done.. I just don't want to have a criminal record.. I know its my fault I just don't know if I will going to tell all the truth or just stick what I said And return the money.. after this I never do it again for sure because I don't realized that it is hard and scary... Please I know you are mad at me too please just want help..

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Originally Posted by odinn7

It's almost like we're supposed to feel sorry for you....but here you are saying that you have been doing this to them for a long time....and from what you said, they sound like decent people. However, I think you are only upset now because they caught you....otherwise you would still be doing it to them
I know that its wrong thing to do but i learned a lesson for this i thought they never caught me...ps help me i really feel sorry and im aware what ive done..i just dont want to have a criminal record..i know its my fault i just dont know if i will going to tell all the truth or just stick what i said And return the money ..after this i never do it again for sure coz i dont realized that it is hard and scary... Pls i know you are mad at me too pls just want help..

Please help me I'm not that bad person.. is just I was attempted to do this stupid things for the past month because of financial difficulty. I hope you could help me what is the right thing to do.. I love this family but the stupid thing I did I lose them.

Go knock on the door with the money, whatever you took and whatever you can of what you have taken before.

Don't say ONE word of excuses about your finances. Just say 'I'm sorry' and leave.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

Go knock on the door with the money, whatever you took and whatever you can of what you have taken before.

Don't say ONE word of excuses about your finances. Just say 'I'm sorry' and leave.

What if they going to ask me question how long I been doing that to them.. im willing to tell the truth but I'm scared maybe they are going to call the police

What if, what if. You don't have the luxury of sitting around wondering. The sooner you go, the better. They sound like very nice people. HIDING and worrying and waiting and making yourself sick is far worse than knocking on their door.

And texting an apology is cowardly. Sorry. You ALWAYS apologize in person. You hand them the money, you say you are sorry, and you turn around and walk away. If they call you back to talk, you go back and talk. You make NO EXCUSES.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

What if, what if. You don't have the luxury of sitting around wondering. The sooner you go, the better. They sound like very nice people. HIDING and worrying and waiting and making yourself sick is far worse than knocking on their door.

And texting an apology is cowardly. Sorry. You ALWAYS apologize in person. You hand them the money, you say you are sorry, and you turn around and walk away. If they call you back to talk, you go back and talk. You make NO EXCUSES.

Ok, I will go and give the money as soon as possible. But my problem right now how much do I give to them.. am I going to give to them the amount that I told too. Because I don't tell them the amount I took before...

I'm not so sure it's the amount that is as important as the gesture.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

I'm not so sure it's the amount that is as important as the gesture.

Thank you so much for your help.. I hope its not too late until tomorrow because I'm currently looking for help to borrow a money

Just go with what you have.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

Just go with what you have.

I have a huge problem now... my employer called me and he found out the his missing a lot of money and je said I'm going to tell the truth because he doesn't want to be worse for me to involve the police... So he wants me to call tomorrow to tell how much I took.. it is OK to tell on the phone with him because he said they are not going to be in the house tomorrow

They most likely already know, just trying to see if you will be honest.

So call them, tell them, and tell them exactly when you will pay them back

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

They most likely already know, just trying to see if you will be honest.

So call them, tell them, and tell them exactly when you will pay them back

I called them and he said that his going to wit my call tomorrow. But my thinking is is this a trick for evidence why I can't tell them personally

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Originally Posted by Clair14

I called them and he said that his going to wit my call tomorrow. But my thinking is is this a trick for evidence why i can't tell them personally

Please don't know what to do now.. im not really sure what his on his mind.. why he said that I don't want to get worse for you by involving police.. is that mean that there is posible he can't call the police if I'm going to pay

You know... if he was going to call the police, he would have done it.

You keep coming here pleading for help but we have told you what to do. You were big enough to steal, now be big enough to do what you have to do and face the consequences if necessary. You keep coming here asking while you should be dealing with these people instead. The longer you wait, the more likely it is that they will call the police.

You should consider yourself lucky really because had you been working for me and done this, I would have called the police. Thank whoever you believe in that these people seem to be trying to work with you and take care of what you need to do now.

Call them when you have the money to return to them. Let them decide how it will go from there. It just sound to me that they are more disappointed with you actions than actually angry. Get the money together that you owe them then call them. If you were in a position of trust, it would be disappointing. But it actually sounds like they will forgive you, and probably even give you your job back. Do the right thing. It is always best.