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Originally Posted by Paranoid freak

Most mothers don't hate their children. They may hate what they do or say. They may hate that their children do not live up to their potential. Mothers often inherit a legacy of perceived or actual abuse from their parents and don't know how to break the cycle. Do your best to repair the relationship before she dies or you will regret any misunderstandings of the past. Hope this helps someone.

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I don't think I'll ever regret getting far away from my mother and our misunderstandings even if she passes today or tomorrow because she was just pure poison in my life.I agree that some mothers may be hating that their children don't live up to their potential but not all mothers hate their children for that reason only.jealousy is very prominent in these "mother hating children" cases.

Wow. I don't think mothers hate their children. I think some mothers (a small minority) feel very badly about themselves and the kind of mother they have been, and the pain and sadness and self-deprecating thoughts come out as bitterness toward their kids. Some may also have had really terrible childhoods themselves, and see their children having more opportunities, better homes and if the children do not appreciate those things, they resent that pattern of taking things for granted and might even be jealous.

I have no personal experience with this - my mother and I are close, my son and I are close, my grandmothers and I were close...

But there have been times when I didn't get along with my mother - she was my safe place to fall and sometimes I took things out on her when I shouldn't have when I was younger and less mature, she felt attacked...

If you feel your mother is hateful, consider for a while that she might be in pain. Try to understand what hurts her so much. It might help.