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  • Mar 14, 2014, 03:22 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bizzlelover View Post
    I'm not very easy to impress. He is not a perv, I have talked to Muslims who have said that it is normal for a guy in their religion to like younger girls, also I've been told that he wouldn't be to hard on me if I messed up because I am younger. We are waiting until I'm 18, he has already proposed and we plan on marrying when I am 18.

    Btw he doesn't go to school, he has graduated high school and collage.

    You've been "dating" for 2 months and he already proposed? Wow, he's good! Most of these guys groom their prey for years. You fell for it in 2 months!

    Do your parents know you're engaged? How do they feel about it?

    So what do the two of you have in common? What do you talk about, other than getting married as soon as you turn 18? Where will you live, in Canada or Pakistan? It would be easier for him if you moved to Pakistan, since it's acceptable for grown men to seek out children as brides in that part of the country. Do you have career aspirations? If so, put them to the side. Once you're his wife, you're his property, and you must obey him. If he doesn't want you to have a career, you won't. Doubtful that he'll convert to Christianity either. As a muslim he has more control over his young wife. His religion gives him the right to be your master. But then, it seems like he already is.

    Also, it's college, not collage. Collage is a group of cut out pictures pieced together to make art.
  • Mar 14, 2014, 03:25 PM
    Alty
    I have to add this. I talked to my 11 year old daughter about your post. I asked her if she thought it was okay for a 12 year old child to date a 17 year old. Her reply was "He's almost an adult and she's not even a teen. Why would she want to date him? Why would he want to date her? That's just stupid. What's wrong with her? Why does she think this is okay? Is she not very smart?"

    So much for you being mature for your age. Seems like my 11 year old is far more mature than you, and I can tell you, as her parent, that she's not at all mature for her age. What does that say about you?
  • Mar 14, 2014, 03:27 PM
    bizzlelover
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    I always love it when a child comes here and the first thing they post is "I'm very mature for my age". A truly mature person doesn't have to tell anyone that they're mature, they prove it by their actions, and words. You didn't prove your claim.

    Bottom line, the internet is a scary place. We get a lot of posts from Pakistan, from guys in their 20's asking when they can marry the 8 year old they are in love with. How long do they have to wait to have her? Is two years enough? They never even question that a relationship with a grown man and a child, is sick!

    How do you feel about pedophiles? Are you okay with men grooming children so that they can molest them? What's you're take on that? After all, you're very mature for you age, so prove it. Let's discuss the cold hard facts here. You're a child, he's almost an adult (if he's really 17 and not older). Do you think it's okay for an adult to show romantic interest in a child? If so, why? If not, why? Show the maturity you claim to have.

    I do not believe that it is right for a grown man to be with a child, that is why we are waiting until I am 18 to marry. An adult should deffiantly not show romantic interest in a child, but I personaly believe it is fine if they do not have a age difference more then 8 years, and the child is old enough to understand.

    My boyfriend is Muslim and is from pakistan, however he does not believe in marriage before the age of 18.

    I said that I am mature for my age because sometimes my word choice can be a little... off I guess, and it makes people believe I am immature. I know you may say 'well if her word choice is a little off she is not mature' but I do know what to say, but I don't always write them down.
  • Mar 14, 2014, 03:29 PM
    J_9
    Would you want to date a 7 year old?
  • Mar 14, 2014, 03:30 PM
    Curlyben
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    Enough is Enough.
    As you are NOT listening to reason this thread is OVER.

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  • Mar 14, 2014, 03:41 PM
    Curlyben
    Just to demonstrate my point that you continually ignore:
    Child Grooming And Sexual Abuse By Pakistani-Heritage Men Is A Problem That Needs Adressing, Say MPs
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...ink-drugs.html
    Rochdale sex trafficking gang - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
    Gangs, Girls and Grooming: The Truth | Standpoint
    Police and social workers must recognise issue of sexual grooming by Pakistani men - MPs - Telegraph

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