Guys have been facing this problem for ages. Why should it be different when women face the same choices?

What do you do with her when she is there? You can't just give up. You can't spoil her either, but as was suggested try doing things with her like bake cookies, invite her friends for a sleep over, etc...

I don't think she is giving up, nor should we infer she is. A guy in the same situation would be giving up would he?

I agree but she seems so concerned that her daughter wants to be with dad all the time. I'm sure she feels perplexed a lot of times where she wants to take her back to dads to make her happy.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

I agree but she seems so concerned that her daughter wants to be with dad all the time. I'm sure she feels perplexed a lot of times where she wants to take her back to dads to make her happy.

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I am not giving up! I am just in a bind and not exactly sure what to do. I want my daughter constantly she is my whole world. When I am with her she has my undivided attention I am constantly doing things with her like baking cookies and coloring etc.. But she always seem down when she is with me and all I want is for her to be happy. As for my boyfriend she loves him and has even called him daddy. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months my stbx and I have been separated for over a year my boyfriend was and still is a mutual friend.

It's a process that she must go through that will take years in all likely hood to be comfortable with. I think the main issue is the way you deal with those confusing, perplexing feelings. That's a process to just to get through the self guilt and doubt that what you are doing is the right thing.

Few have the option of doing what they want as break ups and divorces makes two different factions that must compromise with each other. Sometimes its messy, sometimes it amicable. Its always emotional though.