I have to say, you are blind.

You feel threatened by a 15 year old girl, but don't see the part her father plays in all of this?

She's rubbing against him, does he stop her? Since you said they often fall asleep in each others arms, I'm guessing he lets this happen. I'd be more worried about him then her.

So you want to marry a man that lets his child fondle him? I wonder why she's jealous of you. Many sexually abused children end up feeling like they're in love with their abuser, especially when it's a parent. This relationship between father and daughter is disturbing.

I'm not saying that he's sexually abusing his child, but he's obviously not doing anything to stop her sexual advances towards him. I have to wonder why. You should be wondering too.

Stop feeling threatened by her and find out what's going on to make her behave this way. This is a huge red flag! I wouldn't accept a ring from this man until I found out what he's been up to with his child.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Stop feeling threatened by her and find out what's going on to make her behave this way. This is a huge red flag! I wouldn't accept a ring from this man until I found out what he's been up to with his child.

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I personally would be packing my bags (or his) instead of posting on AMHD.

Wonder where the mother of the child is in all of this. Shudder!

It might be a little late to post something on this matter but I couldn't help it after reading everything. I can tell you from personal experience that this is NOT normal father / daughter behavior. I was in the very same situation you are in. My husband and his daughter were the same way and red flags went up everywhere, but like you I chose to think I was over reacting and that I was making something out of nothing, completey in denial. I married this man and after two years of marriage I did find out that my husband had been molesting his daughter from the age of 12 - 18 and she eventually thought she was in love with him. Trust me when I tell you this is not normal and you need to get out.. Marrying this man will only make it worse for you because even when the truth comes out, he will always chose her over you.

These men are sick, sick, sick and you can't help them and you certainly can't fix them. There's a lot more to this than what you see. My husband was molested as a child and used that as his excuse for doing what he did to his child. I personally think he should be in prison for what he did but no one, not even his victim will turn him in, so he gets away with it... very sad situation for the child