Wow, it seems I have some people who are agreeing with me here. I have asked her once again if she would allow me to do this. This time no response though. I have also told her that in our divorce decree that since we have joint custody it states that we will remain flexible when it comes to placement of the kids in regards to these situation. It also states in bold that the any decission must be made with the best interest of the children. I think maybe I might have stuck it to her with that, since this is what the kids want. I think she is just playing the waiting game now. Thanks to all for the input and comments!!