From my understanding, if you're stressed your period delays.
But how am I suppose to not worry if I haven't gotten my period?
I'm worried I might be pregnant. :(
Does anyone know how long it can delay even if you are stressed, like a certain amount of time? I hope it makes sense and thanks in advance :)



By the way, I didn't know what to put it under as.

Please give more details, date(s) of sexual activity, last period date.

Yes, stress can delay your period. There is no set time limit, also, it doesn't always happen. Just because you're stressed doesn't mean that you'll miss a period.

How late is your period? If it's at least 2 weeks late it's time to take a pregnancy test using first morning urine. It very well could be pregnancy since you're sexually active.

The way you avoid worry is by either not having sex or getting on the pill.
Worry is bad for your whole body and mind.
Being saddled with a child at your age is not worth having a few moments of sex!
And the guy, whoever he is, doesn't care enough to think of all this too.

I see from other threads that you are 14 and had a stomach pain. Are you sexually active? Have you seen the doctor about that pain?

Yes I have seen my doctor, but she says I'm perfectly fine. I don't think anxiety is the only thing wrong with me.



I'll take the test in a week or so.

Are you sexually active?

Yes

Maybe you shouldn't be... obviously there is too much stress here and you are too worried about being pregnant AFTER you already have sex. You should probably not be having sex until you are ready.

Thank you. I'll keep that in mind.

No one (especially a 14 yr old) should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are prepared to have a child. Clearly you are not.

You should have considered the possibility of being pregnant before you agreed to sex.

Now, all you can do is wait until you get your period. Or until you can do a test.

I hope you aren't and I hope this scare will mean you keep your pants on.

I have read your other threads. One of the threads says you were sexually assaulted.

I, probably more than most of the people on this site, understand that, and I also understand why you're continuing to have sex even after being assaulted.

Have you gone to counseling over the assault?

Kiddo, I'm going to post a link, it's the link to my story, and what I did after the things that happened to me, and why. I have a feeling you're having sex for the same reasons I did after I was molested and then raped. Maybe reading my story, and what I learned, will help you realize that you're on a path to destruction that can only end badly unless you stop it and realize your worth.

Will you read my story? Please do, and then come back and talk to me about how you feel about what I said in my thread. Obviously you have underlying issues from what happened to you, and that's understandable. Maybe I can help you understand a bit of why you're doing the things you're doing. Will you do that for me? It's a long thread, but read every post, not only mine, but the posts by the wonderful people on this site that helped me more than they'll ever know. They're still on this site, and I know they'll help you too.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...me-195877.html

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The first post is only "I can."

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The first post is only "I can."

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That's odd.

Wonder what happened to the original post. Is it a site glitch?

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That's odd.

Wonder what happened to the original post. Is it a site glitch?

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I have no idea. I see no "paper trail" of who changed anything. Ben might be able to see it since he can see stuff no one else can see. It's the initial story (which I have never read). Could you reconstruct it and it could be c/p in?

I see other things wrong with that thread. It needs attention.

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Alright, so I might not be as mature as I thought I was, but have you noticed that some people who make mistakes and get told not to do them again (with reasons) repeat them? I'm not like that; I'll learn from them.
I'm not being foolish nor risking our future, I know better. That's why we aren't going to do it anymore.
Thanks!

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You posted that back in January in your first thread. That thread was where you didn't know that having sex at 14 could get your partner (17) arrested for statutory rape. Once this was explained to you (as well as the dangers of pregnancy at your age), you posted the above quote. Well apparently you didn't learn from your mistakes, because here you are back again stressed out because you might be pregnant. It seems you went back and continued to have sex. And, if you ARE pregnant, then that will be proof that someone had sex with you when you are underage. So, you make it very easy for that person to be convicted of a sex offense.

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You posted that back in January in your first thread. That thread was where you didn't know that having sex at 14 could get your partner (17) arrested for statutory rape. Once this was explained to you (as well as the dangers of pregnancy at your age), you posted the above quote. Well apparently you didn't learn from your mistakes, because here you are back again stressed out because you might be pregnant. it seems you went back and continued to have sex. And, if you ARE pregnant, then that will be proof that someone had sex with you when you are underage. So, you make it very easy for that person to be convicted of a sex offense.

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That I didn't see. I only saw the thread where the OP claimed to have been sexually assaulted. :(

You need to stop putting yourself at risk. You're a child. There's a reason children shouldn't have sex.

It was worth all the reading. I can relate the pain, but I'll manage to get through it just like you did.

It's nice to know that I have at least a few people who seem to care even though they aren't my family members.

I'm here for you too :)

Yes we do care about you, but only if you care about yourself. And engaging in the risky behavior you have been does not show a caring about yourself.

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It was worth all the reading. I can relate the pain, but I'll manage to get through it just like you did.

It's nice to know that I have at least a few people who seem to care even though they aren't my family members.

I'm here for you too :)

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I'm sorry that my original post in that thread was edited, my story is gone. I'm glad you read the rest.

The short version of what happened is that I was molested at the age of 5 by my cousin, my babysitter, it continued for years. As a result I became very promiscuous as a young teen, your age. I didn't give a damn about myself, so I let other use me for sex. At the age of 18 I was forcefully raped, and beaten.

I got lucky, I never got pregnant, I had one STD (cured by medication), and most importantly, I met a wonderful man that I married, and I'm still married to him today (our 18th anniversary is on May 27).

I had sex at a young age because I felt worthless. I felt like used goods. Why not let others use me, since I had nothing to offer anyone that mattered?

Kiddo, I understand how you're feeling. I also know that most therapists, or anyone for that matter, don't get it, because they haven't been through it. You can't read a book or an article to understand how it feels.

If you want to talk, if you want help, I am here to listen, and help. I'm not a therapist, I'm not even close. I am a survivor, and I've been where you are, and I did what you're doing. I got lucky, you may not. So let's talk about how we can change that, okay?

I'm happy that you're here for me. It means a lot. But I'm okay. I have to admit that the fact that my thread was edited, my original post removed, set me back a bit. That thread was the hardest thing I've ever written. Now it's gone, and no one that can find it, can find it. But, I'll survive. I'm not worried about me, I'm worried about you.

So talk to me. Tell me why you're doing what you're doing. Obviously therapy isn't helping, mom and dad aren't helping. Maybe I can. I'm offering my past experience to you. Take me up on it, because I for one see a pattern here that I know most other people don't see. That's not their fault, it's their blessing, they can't understand, because they were luck enough not to experience it.

I'm here. Let me be here for you if that's what you need.

As I'm laying down I'm wondering how I should start.

I guess my dad didn't want me when I was a baby. He would hit my mom because I would cry.. Actually he would hit her because of a lot of things. You see, he was an alcoholic, to him it didn't matter where they were. Later on as I grew up him and I got along. There were times when he would hit me too, but I still loved him. I still do and always will regardless of anything.
When I was seven I got caught with an older cousin of mine with my pants pulled down. I'm not exactly sure what happened between him and I but I do remember my parents agreeing to make me sleep at my aunts house (who I didn't really talk to) after I got beaten up first.
When It was time to go to bed and I was there already, I laid in the floor. With tears running down and not trying to make a sound I was talking to my grandma who passed away. I was saying how much I wish she was there for me. After that years passed.
I would talk about what happened when I was eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve and so on until now. But even right now that I'm typing this I'm crying. I'm crying because of how fed up I am to still hold these feelings.

Last summer I had a sexual assault from someone who I thought was a friend. At that time I had a boyfriend (who's my boyfriend now) and I had to tell him what happened even though I didn't want to because I was too scared of what might of happened. I told him the night it happened. The guys dropped me off blocks away from his house and left me like a dog. I ran to his house trying not to cry. But when he drove me back to my house I told him and I let it out. The last thing I said was that I was sorry, but to please not tell my parents. He broke up with me when I had told him and I started having trouble sleeping after that. One day he came to tell my parents thinking he wanted me back.
He told them and they made me report what happened.
Months passed by and I'm at this point. Leaving so much out because there's other things I just can't say not even to you that I can't see.
I'm just trying to keep myself occupied because believe it or not I got into depression and anxiety. I think about suicide but I can't because I question my faith. I can't die knowing that my parents don't trust me that much anymore.
I'm so sick of not being happy the majority of the time. Not even being on the varsity soccer team makes me happy. Not knowing how to express my emotions to my family hurts. I'm sorry if you're confused. I can't think straight right now

And what about counseling? I can't remember if you mentioned that.

I talk to this lady who comes to my school every Tuesday. Her name is Leslie.

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Is she a psychologist or counselor or social worker?

Does that help?

Seems like you haven't learned a thing!
You were asked: “Are you sexually active?” And your answer was “Yes.”

Many months earlier:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/crimin...il-728449.html

“…but have you noticed that some people who make mistakes and get told not to do them again (with reasons) repeat them? I'm not like that; I'll learn from them. I'm not being foolish nor risking our future, I know better. That's why we aren't going to do it anymore.
Thanks!” (#6)

“I wouldn't want to have an abortion if I ended up pregnant. It'd be really difficult to earn money, to find a way to tell my parents as well as his, to find a place that would be confidential, and to focus in school, etc. Therefore, I will not have sex with my boyfriend.” (#8)

From the highlighted words, it looks like you agreed to stop having sex with your boyfriend. I am hoping he did not convince you to look back at what you said, that is if you ever told him that you both should stop.

I really hope he is not the reason for the choices you are making. He might be using you. Don't say that he is nice and responsible like in your other thread because that is how manipulation works.

Like Alty said you have your reasons, but there is no excuse for you to continue doing this. It is in your best interest to stop now. If you can't take care of this by yourself than ask the counselor, “this lady” you see every Tuesday at your school for some guidance. Help is offered on this website too.

This worries you a lot because you know the consequences of being involved in having a sexual intercourse (probably, with a 17 year old) but you are not prepared for them.

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