Ask Me Help Desk - I'm a 14,girl and I had sex for the first time& I need advice!?

I'm a 14,girl and I had sex for the first time& I need advice!?

Im 14 &i had sex for the first time it was great I love him but I need advice.. My parents are never around and I would feel comfortable discussing this with them anyway. I don't have a doubt in my mind IK I am NOT pregnant. But I just need too know full details. We used a condom, but.im not on birthcontrol.. And I think.I should be right? Please help me! I don't want to put myself in a situation I can't handle.. :) helpp plzz... Btw he's older and way more experienced.. & I don't want to be the stupid one in the process

*wouldnt!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Merp_lova

I dont wanna be the stupid one in the process

Sorry, but you already are, having sex at 14! You also say he is older How much older?

You may love him, but does he love you? No form of birth control is 100% effective. So NO ONE should engage in sexual intercourse until they are physically, emotionally and financially prepared to have a child. At 14 your body is still growing and becoming pregnant could have serious health issues to you and the fetus. At 14 you are not emotionally ready to be in a committed relationship (yes I know you THINK you are). And at 14 you are not likely to be able to support a child and neither is he.

But if you want to be on birth control medication, then you need to tell your parents.

Is it the 20 year old from your other thread?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ng-672725.html

I hope he enjoys his time in jail, and being a registered sex offender. Hate to say I told you so, but this guy is a pedophile. So much for him respecting you, and not pushing you to do anything.

I'm not going to give you advice. You didn't listen the last time and now you're having sex. You're on your own.

Is this the same guy? You said he wasn't a pedophile, but if he seduced you (and no matter how much you may have agreed he did seduce you) then he is very likely to be a pedophile.

This is classed as rape.. U do know this right..
No matter how much u agree to having sex with him... Hes a lot older and your underage.
And as thick as darling.
Stay young be a kid... u don't need a boyfriend. Stop being a tramp

On the OP's other thread she stated that this is a different guy, 17 years old.

Quote:

Originally Posted by doratheexplora

This is classed as rape.. U do know this right..
No matter how much u agree to having sex with him... Hes a lot older and your underage.
And as thick as darling.
Stay young be a kid...u dont need a boyfriend. Stop being a tramp

Name calling is not necessary and is, in fact, discouraged. Who is and who is not depends on who is making that judgment call. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family...e-689103.html;; https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/medica...ml#post3217691.

Some say all unwed mothers who remain sexually active are tramps.

Text speak is also discouraged.

First how do you know you are not pregnant, condoms have a 3 to 10 percent failure rate.

If you are going to be having illegal sex, you need to be on birth control pills and use condoms, and you can still get pregnant but there is less chance.

She's still under age..

Quote:

Originally Posted by doratheexplora

Shes still under age..

I have to ask. How old are you?

Quote:

Originally Posted by Alty

I have to ask. How old are you?

I don't know, but she has a child and is sexually active (in case that matters).

She was asking on my behalf actually as I have never used this site before.
Until now
I have a child I was married but he left, so I'm now an unwed mother and my business is my own what I get up to.

Quote:

Originally Posted by ladyloo

She was asking on my behalf actually as i have never used this site before.
Untill now
i have a child i was married but he left, so im now an unwed mother and my bussiness is my own what i get upto.

Who was?

Never mind.
A friend asked a question for me on her profile.
Its over now, done and dusted :)

Quote:

Originally Posted by ladyloo

Nevermind.
A friend asked a question for me on her profile.
Its over now, done and dusted :)

Unless it's the person that posted here, whose age we asked, it matters. Now you're here responding as if we asked you a question, which we didn't.

LadyLoo and Doratheexplora are sharing the same internet connection. So they are either at each others house doing this together or of course the same person using the same computer

So it is Dora that LadyLoo is referring to..

They both posted within a short time of each other to this post.

I'd like to begin my input with this..

Quote:

Originally Posted by doratheexplora

Shes still under age..

By what standard? The age of sexual consent used to be 14 years of age where I'm from, so take the biased opinions somewhere else please.

Now, onto more important matters.

Merp,

At 14 years old you are far too young to be having sexual intercourse. You may or may not be by a legal point of view. However, from your parents point of view I would hope not. That is just my opinion, although I think talking to your parents about this is a great idea. Talk to them, ask them their opinion and if you insist of having sex and they do not allow it I would hope you'd obey.

Sex is not something to play around with, you'll hear it time and time again, but one more time can't hurt. Sex leads to pregnancy, whether you're protected or not. You can still get pregnant using both a condom and birth control.

You need to ask yourself if you're ready to have a child, because having sex risks that. The best birth control is not having sex at all.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

LadyLoo and Doratheexplora are sharing the same internet connection. So they are either at each others house doing this together or of course the same person using the same computer

So it is Dora that LadyLoo is refering to..

They both posted within a short time of each other to this post.

And this is somehow allowed? So which of the two names is judging which is a "tramp" and who is not?

If you're going to use two user names you have to be smart enough to remember who you are at any given time. Apparently that's not the case.

It also appears that one screen name has given the other an "approve" for the very bad advice about the OP's age. (I just figured out a way to increase my rating.)

Love it!

Quote:

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

And this is somehow allowed? So which of the two names is judging who is a "tramp" and who is not?

If you're going to use two user names you have to be smart enough to remember who you are at any given time.

It is possible that multiple people can share a computer. If they do we encourage them to have their own accounts. So its not clear here what this situation is.

Quote:

Originally Posted by ScottGem

It is possible that multiple people can share a computer. If they do we encourage them to have their own accounts. So its not clear here what this situation is.

Then it's my mistake - I just always flash back to the person who posted in one name and then argued with herself in another.

One name was used only to argue and give "reddies."

So - I don't need to know but did one user name give the other an "agree"?

Quote:

Originally Posted by Merp_lova

Im 14 &i had sex for the first time it was great I love him but I need advice.

The sex may have been great for you, however at 14 years old, pregnancy will be terrible and labor and delivery will be the most painful experience of your life.

Quote:

Originally Posted by J_9

The sex may have been great for you, however at 14 years old, pregnancy will be terrible and labor and delivery will be the most painful experience of your life.

This is an excellent point, I just wish teens would realize this before it's "too late".

Quote:

Originally Posted by C0bra_M3nace

This is an excellent point, I just wish teens would realize this before it's "too late".

I totally agree. I wish teen girls could spend one night with me in the Labor & Delivery department. Many of these girls end up with cesarean sections because their pelvis is too small to accommodate the baby coming out vaginally. Many of them also suffer from PIH (Pregnancy Induced Hypertension), meaning that they have high blood pressure caused by pregnancy. I've seen girls this age have seizures because of this.

It's very sad that they feel that the sex is fun, but they don't consider the consequences to their actions. Most of these girls never finish school and end up on welfare and, of course, the father of the baby doesn't support them because babies are hard work and Daddy is emotionally too young to help out, so he goes out to party while leaving the girl alone to raise a baby.

In all honesty, in all my years of doing this, I've never seen a boy stick by a girl after she has had the baby. She ends up raising it alone.