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OK, I'm 13 years old and me and my boyfriend had sex. He was a virgin to.We lost it in June. We used a condom the first and third time and had unprotected once. NO IM NOT PREGNANT!( I took a pregnancy test)It been about 2 months since I lose my virginity. But my period been very light. I used to bleed VERY heavy like I was Anemic. But since I lost my virginity, It been very light. Can any one help me?
You gave your virginity to someone and you're only thirtteen years old.
I would suggest seeing a Doctor.
There could be a number of things
Wrong. I'm not a doctor or a nurse but I can still say see a doctor.
Sex at 13? Wow.
I really don't want to say much. Kind of holding my tongue here.
See a doctor.
Close your legs till your 16. Then its legal.
How old is this boy and how sure are you that you were the first for him?
Let me add this.. it was stupid to have sex at thirteen years old.
Second what is even more stupid is having unprotected sex.
You could easily have gotten pregnant or an STD to say nothing about a bad reputation.
You need to make better choices in your life or you'll end up pregnant, with a baby your mother will have to raise.
Get a clue.
I know, Yeah I'm 13. But
I was ready for sex.
No need to judge.
And YES HE WAS A VIRGIN.
He is the sweetest most senative guy I met
And the first boy to treat me rite.
And I agree I was stupid for having unprotected sex.
YouTube - Always and Forever.
And if you keep on having unprotected sex that song will be "Rock a Bye Baby.". Go see your Doctor and try to think with your brain and not your hormones.Quote:
Originally Posted by itscrissy1
YOU ARE 13!! You haven't even experienced life yet to know if boys treat you right. You were ready? Does that mean your ready to have a baby? Because having sex means being ready to have a baby.Quote:
Originally Posted by itscrissy1
Not only have you just done something you will regret later in life. Now next month wwhen this boy dumps you and tells everyone what he got out of you. You will then have boys linning up so they can use you next.
Im not judging you. Im telling you Facts. Any 13 year old who thinks they are ready for sex needs a wake up call! I hope your mother finds out about this and puts you on lock down!
Im not going to have Un protected sex unless I want a baby
And no I don't want one.
I have school to worry about. I got condoms.
And yes I know condoms don't always work but Im getting put on BC soon.
But she's in love aimee! You better stop it with the sex and act your age which is thirteen. Next week he'll move on.Quote:
Originally Posted by aimee_tt
There have been pleanty of women and girls who have been on 3 types of birth control and have gotten pregnant. Just because you don't want a baby doesn't mean you won't fall pregnant. The only way to NOT fall pregnant is to stay away from sex.
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Originally Posted by Kitkat22
But look. He won't move on. I got this boy wrapped around my finger.I broke up with him once in may. Anhe he cryed,skipped school and set in the pouring down rain all day were me and him first kissed. He also cutted himself. Don't comment on the fact he did do self harm ***. That is one boy that truly cares. He is 15 by the way.
You need to learn how to spell. This boy will be gone in a month. He got what he wanted. See a doctor. Good LuckQuote:
Originally Posted by itscrissy1
Do you honestly think a 15 year old hormonal boy is going to stay with you because he cut himself.
How do you know it wasn't all an act to get you to sleep with him.
OH an if this gets out he could be charged with rape. If you don't want your boyfriend in jail id stop the sex now!
If you get pregnant he will be put I jail and you will be a mummy all by yourself.
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Originally Posted by aimee_tt
What if I say the 3 times we did have sex, He didn't ***.
He didn't finish?doesn't matter! He still penetrated you.
If a man raped your best friend but said 'but I didn't finish'. Would you say OK he didn't rape her?
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Originally Posted by aimee_tt
Its not Illegal were I live. Trust me. If it was. All the boys were I live would be going to jail.
It wasn't ****ing rape!! Oh my ****ing god. I go on this site to ask a simple question all I get it *****ed at? Like seriously!!Quote:
Originally Posted by aimee_tt
Im like his 1st actual GfQuote:
Originally Posted by aimee_tt
What is the age limit girls can have sex there?
If your under the age of 18, and you have sex with a person over 18, its rape. Other then that, its legal.Quote:
Originally Posted by aimee_tt
Temper temper, this is why little girls shouldn't have sexQuote:
Originally Posted by itscrissy1
Yes I might be a 13 year old girl with a temper. Oh well. IDGAF.Quote:
Originally Posted by aimee_tt
All I asked was 1 question.
If you keep this up I'll guarantee you this, you will get pregnant.
No school for you because you stay home and take care of the baby.
You may marry the guy who is the father and half the time he doesn't work so you live in the projects.
There will be more babies and by the time you're twenty or twenty one , you'll look ten years older.
You'll be stuck and so will he.
Think about it. You can turn your life around today.
Go to school, study hard, make good grades.
Leave the sex alone till you're old enough.
It's your life you can throw it away trying to play grown up or you can go right on giving your body to this guy.
You are the one who has to decide. I hope you make the right decision.
I already made mistakes in my life.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
Dropping out last year.
I'm back in school now.
Rough year, went through separation with siblings
And a lot of other stuff. I will make the right choices.
IDC what it takes to get into college
I already picked what college I'm going to.
To get into a great college you have to study hard.
Don't give yourself to someone just because the urge hits you.
If you want to go on to College you better make some drastic changes.
Its great you want to go to college. But if you keep this up now you may not make it to college. Yes you can use protection but what if it fails? Do you want a baby ruining your plans?
We can't force you to do anything. But please think about what were saying. Don't cut yourself short. Let yourself have a bright future ahead!
I have.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
I stopped
Cutting myself
And drug use.
Yes I know what u you are thinking.
And I don't have really the best of people to grow up around ):
If you have had two periods since you chose to have unprotected sex, and both periods have been more like spotting, or very light as you said, you could indeed, be pregnant. That's what happens when you have unprotected sex. The test could be a false negative.
The first thing you need to do is get to your Doctor, and have a pregnancy test done. If you aren't pregnant, there is still something happening that has caused your normal period flow, to almost stop, and that needs to be addressed as well.
You ask, "Can anyone help me out?", and the fact is, you have already been helped out with some very good, point blank advice, about the dangerous choices you have made, and as well, how to change your life around.
When you start having sex, no matter what form of birth control you use, you risk, by choice, getting pregnant. The only surefire way not to get pregnant at age 13 (or any age) is to not engage in sex. It really is that simple. Your anatomy is no different than the anatomy of the female species since the beginning of time.
What you do when you choose to be sexually active, is risk losing every dream you've ever had for your future. While your non sexually active friends concentrate on school, and go on to college, you may very well find yourself instead, in a delivery room in a hospital screaming your head off while a baby pushes its way through you into the world. And that is the easy part. Raising a child at your age requires the help and expense of many, including anyone who pays taxes. If you think you can have it all, you can't. Why risk hopes and dreams by choosing to have sex.
More importantly, why bring a child into the world, when you are legally a child still yourself. You think that, from what I've read, that losing your virginity is a ho-hum sort of event, and even though you are new to having sex, you had sex three times, and left yourself wide open for pregnancy on one of those three times. Each time you have sex, you risk pregnancy even with protection. Without protection is like holding a loaded gun to your head and playing chicken.
I think you can stop. If you aren't pregnant, make a promise to yourself to not have sex until you are at least five years older than you are right now. Choose your partners carefullly when you are ready, and don't settle for bragging rights to having a boyfriend you can wrap around your little finger, or for a boyfriend who is mentally unstable as yours is, when he cuts himself because he's upset. Do you see what I mean by this being more of a risk than you realize? Think of the path you are on, and the people you are on that path with, and do you really want a lifelong commitment at age 13 to an immature boy, and a baby?
Turn this around. IF you aren't pregnant, write out a list of the things dream about accomplishing. Open your world to possibilities, instead of shutting them out. What do you want for your life, what do you want to be when you go to study at college. How are you going to get there, save money, take on a part time job, etc. What are you willing to do for yourself, while it is still (hopefully) a wide open world of possibilities where nothing and nobody can stop you from reaching any goal.
If you have such a list, I'd like to see it. Let's see if there isn't more to you than what you have said so far, including my suspicion that you probably agree with some, if not all, that has been said to you so far.
Take this to heart. Read what jake has written and read it more than once. Make that list.
Nope, you're wrong. It doesn't work that way.Quote:
Originally Posted by itscrissy1
Unless you're in a state where the legal age for sex is 13, you're both doing something illegal.
Nice try though. They have laws for a reason. The reason that they have made it against the law for a 13 year old to have sex is because a 13 year old doesn't have the common sense, maturity, or intelligence to make these kinds of decisions.
You're a child, act like one. Keep your legs crossed.
Where is your mother and father when this is going on?
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Originally Posted by Kitkat22
My parants are divorced. I never see my mother. My dad knows I have sex but he don't like the fact that I am.
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Originally Posted by itscrissy1
You need to be removed from his Custody if he allows you at thirteen to have sex and do drugs.
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Originally Posted by Jake2008
This is ggod advice. Think you so much. I have choosed my future of going to college, and starting photography. Im very good actully. I have a friend that wants me to take pics of her.I DO agree that I have grown up what too fast but I am getting raised wrong and I been trough a lot
With a addiction to self harm and drug use. I havet done self harm sense June and I haven't done drugs in along time.
The only reason my boyfriend did self harm was because I broke up with him.
It wasn't that bad. It looked like cat scratches when I see them.He is not immature. But yet not fully mature. And I'm not ether.
I hope you do get good grades and you attend College and get away from the way you are living now.Quote:
Originally Posted by itscrissy1
Think youuuu ((:Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
Lol.
I start 8th grade Monday.
I have to do credit retraval though.
It's a class for people who need get there credits.
I dropped out in 7th grade which was a HUGE regret.
But I had to do it.It was family issues and I was going to get jumped by
Like 5 girls.Other then that, I hope my school year is great (:
You don't understand my living situation.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
Im not moving back in with my mom.
She is a horribale slut that used guys.
Im better of living with my dad.
I get my own money, I get fed healthier,
He is finacely stable. He has to pay 1300 dollars
A month for rent to my gma and still manages to pay for things
Me and my little brother needs.
OK.. I understand. You are so young and you need guidance. The fact that he knows you have sex and doesn't stop it makes me wonder why he doesn't. You have a chance to be anything you want to be. Leave the boys alone young lady!Quote:
Originally Posted by itscrissy1
If you don't you'll have a child before you're ready and then all the things you planned for yourself will be gone. Sex at thirteen years old is inconceivable to me. You have set yourself to be used by every boy who knows this. Stop the messing around with any boy and concentrate on your dreams.
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Originally Posted by Kitkat22
I only had sex 3 times with one boy.
But when my dad did find out,
He wasn't too happy that I had sex.
He was yelling at me and calling me a whore and ****.
He ended up buying my condoms and said he didn't want me
To have sex. He said in a emergcy situation?
I think your dad did the right thing there, name calling aside.
What he's telling you is, it is hard to stop having sex, once you start. You could go out 100% determined not to, but find yourself in a position where it is just too hard to say no. At least, on the chance that that could happen, you will have protection. So, he's saying tuck them in your purse, he likely doesn't want to see you sexually active, but, he cannot control you 24/7, and at least this way, you won't be pregnant. I think everybody agrees with your father that it is far better for your future, if you don't have sex.
Prove him wrong. Do well at school, cut the sex completely, and when you graduate high school, and head down that path to college, hand him back the condoms and say you never needed them. I think that would be music to any parent's ears.
As to the list. You're already on your way. No sex. Do well at school. Plan and work hard to get into college. Recognize photography is a talent.
Have anymore to add to the list?
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