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  • Jun 26, 2009, 06:06 PM
    Just Dahlia
    My Aunt died yesterday
    She was the first of six. I don't have a question, I just needed to say it to someone. I just got back from the Family Reunion where she seemed to be fine.

    GOD works in different ways I guess. I really loved her, and she wasn't sick that I know of.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 06:21 PM
    danielnoahsmommy

    I am so sorry for your loss. G-D bless!
  • Jun 26, 2009, 06:26 PM
    Wondergirl

    I too am sorry to hear that.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 06:26 PM
    Clough

    My condolences to you on your loss, Just Dahlia!

    We never know the time when it will happen...

    God's Love and Peace to You!
  • Jun 26, 2009, 06:43 PM
    Wondergirl

    I've lost most of my parents' generation, and now death is beginning to touch mine. I guess that's how it goes, but it hurts all the same.

    I do wish you good memories, Just Dahlia. Be sure you talk about her and remember her often.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 06:45 PM
    Just Dahlia
    Thank you all so much, but I just can't stop thinking... who's next, I can't bear to lose more. My Mom and Dad are older than my Aunt Maxine.

    I'm sorry.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 06:53 PM
    Clough

    I know how you feel, Just Dahlia! My parents and other relatives of their generation are long gone now. Michael Jackson was two years younger than me.

    Gives a person pause and cause to think...

    No need for you to apologize. This type of thing is what people commonly think about.

    How old are your mom and dad, please?

    Thanks!
  • Jun 26, 2009, 07:22 PM
    Just Dahlia
    My Mom is the youngest. She was 21 when I was born, my Dad 25. I was born in 1959. I'll be 50 on Christmas.

    I think I need to just go find something to watch on TV, (which I rarely do) just to think of something else.

    I'm really not good with death, it is just so permanent.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 07:25 PM
    Clough

    Do you believe that death is the total end to somone's life or maybe the beginning of something else?

    Thanks!
  • Jun 26, 2009, 07:31 PM
    Just Dahlia
    I always hope that it's not the end, but it's the end for me (the person who is still alive) So I guess that's being selfish. I will never see them again.

    I believe there is something, I'm just not quite sure what. I can't believe that G-D would just send someone into nothing, but who knows.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 07:34 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Just Dahlia View Post
    I always hope that it's not the end, but it's the end for me (the person who is still alive) So I guess that's being selfish. I will never see them again.

    I believe there is something, I'm just not quite sure what. I can't believe that G-D would just send someone into nothing, but who knows.

    I cannot believe God would create us to end this life in nothingness. We have learned so much as we live our lives. Is that all in vain? Are families and friends and lovers never to meet again? I don't believe it.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 07:37 PM
    Just Dahlia
    OK, I going with that, That makes me feel better and I've almost stopped crying.:(
  • Jun 26, 2009, 07:41 PM
    Clough

    I don't think that God wastes anything. There must be another beginning and/or continuance to what we are. I am a Christian who has been involved in many denominations because of being a leader in music in churches.

    Because of my involvement in so many denominations, I have been confused a number of times because of the differences in the belief systems. However, I've always held to what I believe to be a fact, and that would be some sort of afterlife for us.

    I have no doubt that I will meet my loved ones who've passed on again.

    When I witnessed my mother's death in 1997, I knew in my heart that she was then okay. It was her suffering before death, that became unbearable for our family.

    Thanks!
  • Jun 26, 2009, 08:01 PM
    Just Dahlia
    I'm so sorry for your painful loss
    I'm Catholic by birth and then raised in many different religions.. ending up with Judaism.

    They all had the same story except for the 'Jesus' thing. Not to make light of that.

    I can't help but believe there is something else.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 08:07 PM
    jmjoseph
    God bless you. I'm sorry for your loss. I try to get out all of my pictures of that particular person, and remember them, and how they affected or enriched my life. My godmother( great aunt) just passed away in February. That's what I've been doing.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 08:08 PM
    Clough

    Where I'm house and dog sitting right now, she is a Christian and her husband is Jewish. I've asked here if Jews believe in an afterlife, and she has said yes, that they do.

    I'm "sticking my neck out here", but of course, there is something else.

    What do your church beliefs say about some sort of afterlife?

    Thanks!
  • Jun 26, 2009, 08:15 PM
    321543

    May we always remember every day all the joy and great blessings that (?) brought into our lives on a daily basis. ( her ) memory shall forever ever live on through every one of us through each passing day .

    You are sorry is so lame if you think about it . That is like one of those un spoken things . That only makes you more depressed during bad moment already.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 08:23 PM
    Just Dahlia
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Clough View Post
    Where I'm house and dog sitting right now, she is a Christian and her husband is Jewish. I've asked here if Jews believe in an afterlife, and she has said yes, that they do.

    I'm "sticking my neck out here", but of course, there is something else.

    What do your church beliefs say about some sort of afterlife?

    Thanks!

    I (We) believe in afterlife.
    But I don't understand what the previous poster was trying to say.:confused:
  • Jun 26, 2009, 08:49 PM
    Just Dahlia
    I want to thank you all for helping me through this, hopefully my family will pitch in and maybe call me.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 08:53 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by 321543 View Post
    You are sorry is so lame if you think about it . that is like one of those un spoken things . That only makes you more depressed during bad moment already.

    Why is that lame? We ARE sorry. We all experience death and losing loved ones. The kindest thing to say is, "I'm sorry." If she were next to me in real life, I would give her a hug too and a kiss on the cheek.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 08:59 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Just Dahlia View Post
    I want to thank you all for helping me through this, hopefully my family will pitch in and maybe call me.

    When my father died, my family wrote a book about him. Each person included a page or so of memories (like my son who remembered Grandpa pushing him in the swing in the back yard and my other son remembered driving Grandpa to the store and feeling like his special chauffeur). One grandchild drew a front cover and another one did the back cover. My sister took all the pages and covers to work, made color copies, and bound them into booklets with a plastic spiral binder. Every relative who had contributed got a copy.

    We planted a tree in his memory.

    Every conversation includes him in some way, shape, or form. He continues to live in us, his family.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 09:15 PM
    Just Dahlia
    That sounds wonderful.
    I'm still young (50) I have time (I think) to do similar things.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 11:31 PM
    Clough

    I think that the book thing and other types of memorials sound like great ideas!
  • Jun 27, 2009, 01:28 AM
    Stringer

    May God bless you Dahlia.
  • Jun 27, 2009, 06:11 AM
    jmjoseph
    321543, What's up with the lame business? We came here to console. The DEFINITION of sorry is to give sorrow.
  • Jun 27, 2009, 06:25 AM
    redhed35

    Hey dahlia,I'm sorry to hear about your aunt,a sudden death is always hard to get your head around..
    I think what poster 321543 was trying to get across is sometimes saying sorry just seems so little compared to the loss..
    Maybe I'm wrong.. in any case,I am sorry for your families loss.
  • Jun 29, 2009, 06:16 AM
    KUXJ
    A gentle breeze touched my back
    I went to look but did not react
    My aunt was there letting me know
    She cared

    Though my heart is heavy with thoughts of her
    Not a word was spoken
    Just thinking 'bout her

    She smiled and nodded
    She loved me I knew
    I knew it was then
    To go on
    Go on for her

    Just Dahlia, I am so sorry for your loss
    Please accept my sincerest condolences

    K
  • Jun 29, 2009, 08:32 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Just Dahlia View Post
    I always hope that it's not the end, but it's the end for me (the person who is still alive) So I guess that's being selfish. I will never see them again.

    I believe there is something, I'm just not quite sure what. I can't believe that G-D would just send someone into nothing, but who knows.



    When my husband died someone said to me that we don't mourn the dead - we mourn our loss and there's a difference. It took me a long time to understand that.

    Grieving is a long process with many ups and downs.

    I wish you well -
  • Jun 29, 2009, 08:34 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by 321543 View Post
    May we always remember each and every day all the joy and great blessings that (?) brought into our lives on a daily basis. ( her ) memory shall forever ever live on through each and every one of us through each passing day .

    You are sorry is so lame if you think about it . that is like one of those un spoken things . That only makes you more depressed during bad moment already.



    I don't know what losses you've suffered in your life or, for that matter, what it is you are trying to say here BUT I found that people who simply said, "I'm sorry" touched me more than those who rambled on and tried to find words that simply weren't there.
  • Jul 6, 2009, 11:48 AM
    JudyKayTee

    Coming back just to see how "Dahlia" is doing - OK (I hope). Or maybe just better?
  • Jul 6, 2009, 01:43 PM
    Just Dahlia
    I'm doing good JudyKayTee :)
    Thanks for asking, I've been keeping busy.

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