Ask Me Help Desk - Starby, you will never be forgotten

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Originally Posted by curlybenswife

Its taken me days to put my head in here guess i didnt want to admit the trueth and except the news.
Im with you guys in spirit every day just real life is so dam busy i find it hard to look after anything other than my family and myself.
Starby was special there is very little doubt about that she never failed to make me smile when i get round to it ill share some of our conversations from facebook they were always kinda silly and out there but thats the way we liked it.
Hugs to you all be greatfull for what you have and savor each day and remember to tell those that matter the most you love them.

You my dear are one special lady!

Love that you came and posted. Love you for all you do. Miss you, but understand.

Now I'm crying. Darn lady! ;)

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

You my dear are one special lady!

Love that you came and posted. Love you for all you do. Miss you, but understand.

Now I'm crying. Darn lady! ;)

Haha you great silly I told you the other day no darn tears ;) xx

Hello CBW! Glad to see you here! :) You perhaps don't know much about me, but I've seen quite a few of your posts. I also remember a thread about favourite chocolates,, :p

And thank you for the kind words :)

Life is eternal, and love is immortal,
and death is only a horizon;
and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.

~Rossiter Worthington Raymond

Much, much love, Alty girl.

Hi Starby.

I recently started talking to you a little before you went to the hospital. You and I would send eachother's PM's and we were just getting started on getting to know one another. In those few weeks I got to know a funny, witty girl and just knowing you for those few weeks helped me when I needed a friend at that point in time. I'm saddened that I won't get to know you even more as others have but I'm glad that I still got to know even a little of you.

You will live on through AMHD.

Thanks Starby.. for being there.

Sarah

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Originally Posted by mudweiser

Hi Starby.

I recently started talking to you a little before you went to the hospital. You and I would send eachother's PM's and we were just getting started on getting to know one another. In those few weeks I got to know a funny, witty girl and just knowing you for those few weeks helped me when I needed a friend at that point in time. I'm saddened that I won't get to know you even more as others have but I'm glad that I still got to know even a little of you.

You will live on through AMHD.

Thanks Starby.. for being there.

Sarah

A very nice thing that you wrote Muddy. :)

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Originally Posted by curlybenswife

haha you great silly i told you the other day no darn tears ;) xx

I didn't get a notification for this! :(

I can't believe I missed it.

Now I'm bawling. :(

I'm not really supposed to be posting here. But I REALLY wanted to share this song with everyone, especially those of you who knew and loved her.

Sorry if this song has been posted already. I just heard it on the radio and it made me cry.
It's a christian song.

YouTube - Alan Jackson - Sissy's Song

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

im not really supposed to be posting here. but i REALLY wanted to share this song with everyone, especially those of you who knew and loved her.

sorry if this song has been posted already. i just heared it on the radio and it made me cry.
its a christian song.

YouTube - Alan Jackson - Sissy's Song

Jennie, we love you, and that was just beautiful hon, thank you for listing it.:)

Jennie, posting here is not an issue, never was. All posts are welcome.

Mmm I was recently told that me posting here (and my previous siggy with the poem I wrote for starby) was disrespectfull and hurtfull because I didn't know starby. So I just, didn't want to cause any problems.

*hugs to everyone*

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

mmm i was recently told that me posting here (and my previous siggy with the poem i wrote for starby) was disrespectfull and hurtfull because i didnt know starby. so i just, didnt want to cause any problems.

*hugs to everyone*

Pretending that you knew her, posting a signature saying you'll miss her when you arrived long after she was already off line, stating that you had dreams about her, yes, that was hurtful.

Posting a song for the people grieving the loss of a friend, that's not at all hurtful.

I don't wish to go over this here, if you want to talk about it I'm more then willing to in another thread, but this thread is for Starby, so that's the last time I'll mention it here.

I really can't believe this I haven't been on for an age... I'm so sorry to everyone that knew her well, I only knew her briefly... normally through rants on here about bad spelling and text speak LOL but she had a big heart, that was for sure.

Rest In Peace, Starby.

I just joined AMHD a few hours ago, and have already received several really nice replies in my 'Hello' thread. Before answering any of those, I couldn't help but click Altenweg's link to here, to find out about this special person known as 'Starby.' I've read some of the beautiful things in this thread, and enjoyed the beautiful pictures, the most beautiful of which I consider to be the one of this fine lady herself. From what people have said here, I feel I know her just a little, now, and I am sure that I would have enjoyed her friendship, and would have missed her as much as everybody here does.

I personally believe we can salute someone without having known them personally, by acknowledging the testimony of those who grieve for them. So, I hope I am not being disrespectful in wishing to do that here - and in so doing, sharing your grief at the sad loss of someone I never knew, but now wish I had.

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Originally Posted by Bill-K

I just joined AMHD a few hours ago, and have already received several really nice replies in my 'Hello' thread. Before answering any of those, I couldn't help but click Altenweg's link to here, to find out about this special person known as 'Starby.' I've read some of the beautiful things in this thread, and enjoyed the beautiful pictures, the most beautiful of which I consider to be the one of this fine lady herself. From what people have said here, I feel I know her just a little, now, and I am sure that I would have enjoyed her friendship, and would have missed her as much as everybody here does.

I personally believe we can salute someone without having known them personally, by acknowledgeing the testimony of those who grieve for them. So, I hope I am not being disrespectful in wishing to do that here - and in so doing, sharing your grief at the sad loss of someone I never knew, but now wish I had.

Thank you for posting.

Starby was a wonderful member of this site. Her full username was Starbuck8, if you want you can find some of her posts.

She was an amazing person. It's still shocking to realize that she's gone, she had so much life, so much spunk, and she will forever be missed.

Thank you, Altenweg. Later, I shall look at some of her posts - and thus share some of her legacy to us, if I may.

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Originally Posted by Bill-K

I just joined AMHD a few hours ago, and have already received several really nice replies in my 'Hello' thread. Before answering any of those, I couldn't help but click Altenweg's link to here, to find out about this special person known as 'Starby.' I've read some of the beautiful things in this thread, and enjoyed the beautiful pictures, the most beautiful of which I consider to be the one of this fine lady herself. From what people have said here, I feel I know her just a little, now, and I am sure that I would have enjoyed her friendship, and would have missed her as much as everybody here does.

I personally believe we can salute someone without having known them personally, by acknowledgeing the testimony of those who grieve for them. So, I hope I am not being disrespectful in wishing to do that here - and in so doing, sharing your grief at the sad loss of someone I never knew, but now wish I had.

And the tears flow again! Thank you Bill for such a beautiful testimony of how one person can get to know another without so much as reading about them.

I really hope you enjoy your time here... We are family. I hope to see you around more.

You're very kind, J_9, thank you. I'm sorry if I made you cry, though.

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Originally Posted by Bill-K

You're very kind, J_9, thank you. I'm sorry if I made you cry, though.

It's a good cry Bill. As a nurse, I cry more often than you think. Starby is at peace... That's what's important.

I was fortunate enough to know her. I am proud that she was my friend.

I also think that others will or have come to know her through her posts, through her history here.

- So I'm sort of walking the middle road. I do believe people can mourn the loss of her wisdom and her heart without actually personally knowing her.

(And I know, Alty, that this is so hard for you because I think you were her best friend here. My tears are for her and also for your loss - and mine.)

Although as I have said, I did know Starby, but not as well as some of you here.
I had only been talking to her for maybe a month before everything went down hill. I wish I could have gotten to know her better, from our brief chats to the high praise she has been given by others she truly sounds like someone that cares about others.

I know it may sound strange but sometimes it feels like I know some of my friends on here better than I know my ones in "real life"
If I have a question or a worry, I can always count on the good people here to answer or comfort me (or get me into line like Starby did :rolleyes:)
In real life, if I have a problem, my friends would just go "well... that's life"

When something like this happens it really brings into perspective your relationships with people.

FWIW, Shaz, I was very skeptical about these online forums 3 years ago, when I first ventured into them. I have since been amazed at the depth of the relationships we have within them. When all we have is words, then perhaps we take more time, give more thought, and make a special effort, to express ourselves. Before we know it, we are baring our very souls.

When we do this, and we have no secrets to hide, it makes us very strong. BUT we must still protect ourselves - we are still not invincible.

I just came upon this post. Oh my :( where to start. Well when I first came on this site it was so I could talk to someone. Starby was the first to care, the first to make me feel like I knew her even though I had never met her. She knew a lot about dogs, and helped with every question I had about my husky.

But a big thing she did was understand and ''listen'' to what I had to say, she was one of the first people I could talk to. I would talk to her about my mom's illness and she seemed to understand, having to also fight an illness.

She was a great person and always gave great advice.

**You will not be forgotten Starby. You've helped me more then you know. And I wish I could have returned all the good advice you've given me. Once again Thanks.

Well, I stumbled into this site for the first time just last night, and was drawn toward this lady 'Starby' for some reason. I don't wish to seem irreverent - and maybe I'm just being a bit 'dramatic' - but she had me in tears. From where she is now, I believe she has helped me face up to a big problem in my life which needed dealing with. I have a bad drinking habit, and I am now going to do something about it, before it's too late for me.

I have now started a thread in the Addictions section here, and received some good advice there. Thank you to those who have advised me, and - if I may - thank you to Starby for kicking my @$$ into here, and making me face up to this.

One of the reasons I finally decided to join AMHD instead of continuing to pester Cats by reading over his shoulder was to say that Starby touched me through reading what everyone had to say about her.

I am sorry that I didn't get to meet her, however, I feel fortunate that I can get to know her through all of her friends. Somehow, I can see years from now members telling the newcomers about the Legend of Starby.

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friend4u178 agrees: She touched a lot of us Cat , glad you joined up :)

Where? Where did she touch you? :eek:

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Where? Where did she touch you?! :eek:

Under my Franny pants :D

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Originally Posted by friend4u178

Under my Franny pants :D

I thought you only let me touch you there. :(

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

I thought you only let me touch you there. :(

Not while you got that carrot :cool:

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Originally Posted by friend4u178

Not while you got that carrot :cool:

Are you asking me to go back to my old avy?

You liked her, didn't you? ;)

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Are you asking me to go back to my old avy?

You liked her, didn't you? ;)

Your choice but yeah I liked Keira ;)

Mind you then I couldn't tease you about the carrot up your clacker :D

I wanted to post something that was sent to me when my Mom passed a couple years ago and I fell it applies to Jo also:

Death is nothing at all; I have only slipped away into the next room.

I am still I, and you are still you; whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by my old familiar name; speak to me in the easy manner which you always used.

Put no difference into your tone; do not wear a forced air of sorrow or solemnity.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play... smile... think of me; play for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without an effort; without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity.

I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.

All is well.

-Henry Scott Holland

Thanks, I loved this also, but I am sorry if I brought the mood down, that wasn't my intention. For Starby.

EDIT: Wow, I guess that I did...

Stringer

SOZ. I was away. I have to go out now, but FWIW, I always thought that poem lifted the spirits of those left behind. A reassurance that death is just a door - no more. I never see it as a bring-doewn, Stringer.

CUL8R.

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Originally Posted by Bill-K

SOZ. I was away. I have to go out now, but FWIW, I always thought that poem lifted the spirits of those left behind. A reassurance that death is just a door - no more. I never see it as a bring-doewn, Stringer.

CUL8R.

Thanks Bill.

You certainly didn't bring the mood down in my opinion stringer.

Besides we were just foolin' around like normal and it was a bit off topic... BUT that's just how starby would want it ;)

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Originally Posted by friend4u178

You certainly didn't bring the mood down in my opinion stringer.

Besides we were just foolin' around like normal and it was a bit off topic......................BUT thats just how starby would want it ;)

Thanks for coming back M.

No, Alty that wasn't my intention at all hon, seriously. That was what I was afraid of...

Got to go, tomorrow.

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Originally Posted by Stringer

No, Alty that wasn't my intention at all hon, seriously. That was what I was afraid of....

Got to go, tomorrow.

Oh goodness. Stringer, I was kidding. Also, the greenie to M was to say that we should take the "carrot" talk to a room where we can talk about carrots in arses. Not because of your post. Not at all. I posted the greenie to M before you even posted sweetie.

I had to go put the kids to bed, that's why I left. Never because of you. You could never
Ever ever do anything that would make me leave. Okay?

::singing::

Shiny Happy people... :)

Haven't seen you over here yet Alty ;)

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