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I know how you feel... I wish I never do... but... its true
My fiancé... We should have wedding on 2 April 2010... I'm 32 he was... 41.. Kindest, smart, gentle... We never argue.. we just couldn't because cared and loved each other sooo much... God
I was waiting for him whole my life... He was my heart, my love, my soulmate... Best one , the only one... Same I was for him...
He got to hospital... Inside blooding... God know what was the reason... And they could do nothing... He never woke up... Two weeks before wedding... He was so excited about to live together and... Have kids... And I prayed so much for it... But...
It is not fair... I don't understand... And never will... I still think as if he alive... I can't let it go... Just can't... I don't know how to live...

What has been posted above also pertains to your situation. Your grief is so new, so fresh, that you cannot see beyond it.

You have to take care of yourself first, take each day at a time, gradually come to acceptance. Seek out a group if that will help you, find a friend who will listen, grieve at your own pace.

Did the funeral give you any comfort?

It's a long journey that you have just started. I wish you well and I'm so sorry for your loss.

I lost my brother 6 months ago how can I communicate with him

I lost my wife in 2009. She comes to me and shuts off the picture frame and I just talk to her. I go to mediums and they say that your love is with you. Just talk to him.

I know exactly how you feel on 2/3/10 my fiance' the love of my life, my heart, my soul, my everything was taken from me as well after an unexpected short illness.I was also 8mo pregnant with his only child. There is nothing anyone can say that will make the pain go away.. unless they can bring him back. Everyday I ask god "why" and " y not me instead". The only thing that gives me hope and comfort.. is thinking that there is an afterlife and he is still here with us. I try to talk to him daily and believe he can hear me. Somehow I feel he does. Its been 6 months on July 3rd and its only got harder. I hope 1 day I will find peace as well as yourself and everyone else who has lost someone they love. I don't really have any advice for u.. my hope is that you find comfort in knowing that someone else knows how you feel and is going through it 2.

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Of a truth, no one is able to communicate with dead loved ones. Biblically, if one dies in the Lord, he/she is just sleeping and waiting for the great day of awakening (when Jesus Christ will take his church bride). But once a person dies who is not in the Lord, he/she will temporarily go to the torment place called hell and no man is empowered to reach out for them there even our prayers (see the story in the Bible about Lazarus and the rich man who both died and their conversations with God).

What you can do is just reminisce the memories you have had with your precious loved one. I lost my father about 5 years ago but he is always alive inside my heart. Every time I miss him, I just go alone somewhere or go to his grave or take a look of his pictures when he is still alive.

I lost my husband last June, I have struggles with the same question all I want to do is feel him cuddle me and tell him how much I love him and miss him. I tell our son who is 5 that he can talk to daddy, daddy will always listen but unfortunetly he will never talk back, he crys saying "mummy i wish daddy had a phone in heaven so i could call him and ask him to come home" I try and think that where ever I am he is so he is hearing my thoughts. They are the lucky ones I believe they are content and happy they feel no pain, we are the ones left to del with grief and that feeling of something missing until we meet them again. Xxx

I lost my grandmother before I was born.. my Mother always told me I could talk to her whenever I wanted and I did. As I'm getting older I'm truly realizing how much I miss her even though I never knew her. I am now 14. And when I think of her, talk about her, or even look at her picture it makes me cry. Honestly, earlier today I grabbed her picture and was just talking to her. I talked, and talked, and cried, and cried hoping she would somehow respond. But unfortunately I know that's not possible... I am named after her, which makes me feel like I have some kind of connection with her I will always love her... <3

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I lost my grandmother before i was born.. my Mother always told me i could talk to her whenever i wanted and i did. as i'm getting older i'm truley realizing how much i miss her even though i never knew her. I am now 14. and when i think of her, talk about her, or even look at her picture it makes me cry. Honestly, earlier today i grabbed her picture and was just talking to her. i talked, and talked, and cried, and cried hoping she would somehow respond. but unfortunatly i know thats not possible... i am named after her, which makes me feel like i have some kind of connection with her i will always love her... <3

Grief is a very odd thing and everyone grieves in a different manner.

If you are missing someone you never met, crying when you think of her, talking (and crying) over her picture I suspect there are other issues in your life, and you have chosen this form of grief in order to cope.

You cannot "miss" someone who was never part of your life.

Have you ever considered talking to someone about your grief and this particular issue?

I know what you are going through so many unanswered questions and broken dreams I still feel him with me

On June 24th, 2001, my mother died from breast cancer... I was 11 years old. I am 21 now and just recently lost my step mother in aug 2011 from the SAME THING my mom died from ten years ago. I miss them both very much and I have learned and taught myself how to cope with these facts. I can tell you it is very hard for awhile to get used to the pain and the loss of a parent at a young age. I didn't know what happened or what death was until my mom didn't come home from the hospital. At the funeral I think I realized it. But I have been through some grieving classes as a child and they really do help.. along with some therapy because of the P.T.S. (post tramatic stress). I ALWAYS talk to my mother and her grave is an hour away from where I live. You don't have to go to their grave to talk or to remember. Take time to yourself and talk to the loved one and if you relax your brain, and listen hard enough, you can at least feel their presence and what they are attempting to say. I can feel my mom sometimes... like if she's happy with me or not. Our bond was amazing growing up for those 11 years. I miss her more and more everyday. Just try and feel them. Their always with us just not in human form. You will always be missed and remembered. M.L.R 6-24-01<3 & J.L.C 8-22-11<3

I lost my mother 6 years ago and my brother 32 years ago I want to know if they are around me

I used to be able to see and talk to my brother when I was young but now it seems like I need to regain being able to communicate with him

None of us here are psychics, if that is what you are asking.

Some people believe that their deceased loved ones are always with them. Others do not.

It's a matter of your personal belief but no one here knows if your mother and brother are around you.

If you used to see your deceased brother but can no longer see him, we also don't know why - again, it's probably a matter of personal belief.

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