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  • Jun 26, 2009, 08:59 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Just Dahlia View Post
    I want to thank you all for helping me through this, hopefully my family will pitch in and maybe call me.

    When my father died, my family wrote a book about him. Each person included a page or so of memories (like my son who remembered Grandpa pushing him in the swing in the back yard and my other son remembered driving Grandpa to the store and feeling like his special chauffeur). One grandchild drew a front cover and another one did the back cover. My sister took all the pages and covers to work, made color copies, and bound them into booklets with a plastic spiral binder. Every relative who had contributed got a copy.

    We planted a tree in his memory.

    Every conversation includes him in some way, shape, or form. He continues to live in us, his family.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 09:15 PM
    Just Dahlia
    That sounds wonderful.
    I'm still young (50) I have time (I think) to do similar things.
  • Jun 26, 2009, 11:31 PM
    Clough

    I think that the book thing and other types of memorials sound like great ideas!
  • Jun 27, 2009, 01:28 AM
    Stringer

    May God bless you Dahlia.
  • Jun 27, 2009, 06:11 AM
    jmjoseph
    321543, What's up with the lame business? We came here to console. The DEFINITION of sorry is to give sorrow.
  • Jun 27, 2009, 06:25 AM
    redhed35

    Hey dahlia,I'm sorry to hear about your aunt,a sudden death is always hard to get your head around..
    I think what poster 321543 was trying to get across is sometimes saying sorry just seems so little compared to the loss..
    Maybe I'm wrong.. in any case,I am sorry for your families loss.
  • Jun 29, 2009, 06:16 AM
    KUXJ
    A gentle breeze touched my back
    I went to look but did not react
    My aunt was there letting me know
    She cared

    Though my heart is heavy with thoughts of her
    Not a word was spoken
    Just thinking 'bout her

    She smiled and nodded
    She loved me I knew
    I knew it was then
    To go on
    Go on for her

    Just Dahlia, I am so sorry for your loss
    Please accept my sincerest condolences

    K
  • Jun 29, 2009, 08:32 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Just Dahlia View Post
    I always hope that it's not the end, but it's the end for me (the person who is still alive) So I guess that's being selfish. I will never see them again.

    I believe there is something, I'm just not quite sure what. I can't believe that G-D would just send someone into nothing, but who knows.



    When my husband died someone said to me that we don't mourn the dead - we mourn our loss and there's a difference. It took me a long time to understand that.

    Grieving is a long process with many ups and downs.

    I wish you well -
  • Jun 29, 2009, 08:34 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by 321543 View Post
    May we always remember each and every day all the joy and great blessings that (?) brought into our lives on a daily basis. ( her ) memory shall forever ever live on through each and every one of us through each passing day .

    You are sorry is so lame if you think about it . that is like one of those un spoken things . That only makes you more depressed during bad moment already.



    I don't know what losses you've suffered in your life or, for that matter, what it is you are trying to say here BUT I found that people who simply said, "I'm sorry" touched me more than those who rambled on and tried to find words that simply weren't there.
  • Jul 6, 2009, 11:48 AM
    JudyKayTee

    Coming back just to see how "Dahlia" is doing - OK (I hope). Or maybe just better?
  • Jul 6, 2009, 01:43 PM
    Just Dahlia
    I'm doing good JudyKayTee :)
    Thanks for asking, I've been keeping busy.

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