Ok, so just as I thought - no call back.

Would you delete her number and her as a blackberry messenger contact too or just leave it and not do anything? She has been on there since I stopped talking and I haven't had an urge to message or call whatsoever but is her name etc being there and me seeing is once in a while on scrolling down hinder my healing process?

As for the sister and mother, just not reply when they message, and should I delete them too?

Wow this is not a good situation, wish my foot wasn't broken - none of this would have happened..

Change your number...

I would change my number

This is why NC is so important , you are going along fine and then you have this small form of contact and all sorts of False hope creeps in.

Delete all their numbers for now and get on with your healing process , you can speak to them all later down the track once you've healed. Fact is you probably won't even want to then.

Ok, so I spoke to her... not sure if it was a bad move.. I know you will say something about false hope etc but hear me out.

I told her coming wasn't the best idea, blew her off for coming that day when we spoke and said she shouldn't.

She showed up anyway with cake (having a broken leg I wasn't the one who answered the door) - it wasn't weird but I am not suddenly filled with false hope nor a rush of old feelings coming back. I know what we had that won't change but me not wanting her back won't change either. I wasn't overwhelmed in the slightest nor any feelings of nostalgia. If anything it was nice to see her again just to see her I guess - no talk of anything at all because I am over that. However, on leaving she says she will come again and visit on Sunday with the added "if you want", she mentions it a couple of times but I really don't know what she is getting at, I have no interest in being her friend, I gain no benefit from it now. It was nice seeing her that once with my broken foot (and the cake was good :p) but that's all I saw into it and that's the only reason we spoke, not an invitation to start a friendship again which I guess she is trying to do or maybe just 'be there for me' while I am in this situation.

I won't change my number that seems ridiculous as I haven't fallen back into my hole or however its best put..