View Full Version : Why do men say they busy but act jealous?
honeybun35
Sep 16, 2019, 12:30 PM
I texted my fwb yesterday and he didn't reply. So next reply I said to him you must be busy just saying hi. Later he texted me saying he was in a pool tournament. I waited until today and I said oh ok. Then I texted are you ok. His reply was yes but busy.
He is the same man who snooped on my phone and wrote the name of another male friend of mine in a post. Yet he's to busy to text or whatever.
Wondergirl
Sep 16, 2019, 12:57 PM
Why are you texting him "hi" in the first place? Aren't you at work, too, or busy in some way? The men I know prefer to problem-solve and answer meaty questions rather than do fairly useless "hi" and "bye" texts.
honeybun35
Sep 16, 2019, 01:21 PM
what you mean hi and by. we can't get to anything else without that. He doesn't even know what I wanted. As far as me working that doesn't mean my phone don't exist. He is the one unemployed on disablity
Wondergirl
Sep 16, 2019, 02:38 PM
what you mean hi and by. we can't get to anything else without that. He doesn't even know what I wanted. As far as me working that doesn't mean my phone don't exist. He is the one unemployed on disablity
Thank you for that new information. It helps us respond to you better.
Just saying "hi" isn't enough. Ask a question or ask for his opinion about something. Otherwise, men I know think texting "hi" is just a waste of time.
talaniman
Sep 16, 2019, 02:48 PM
"You went through my phone and put my friends name on your facebook! WHY?"
Now that's a texts that begs an answer.
Homegirl 50
Sep 16, 2019, 08:57 PM
You still want to say hi after he went through your phone?
Why? You are sounding pretty desperate.
honeybun35
Sep 17, 2019, 05:52 AM
He goes through my phone and make a post about another male friend of mine and I'm desperate? That's balanced.
talaniman
Sep 17, 2019, 05:57 AM
I call it desprate when he crosses the line and you do nothing. Your issue is with him, not us.
honeybun35
Sep 17, 2019, 06:19 AM
I know it's now with you guys on here. I just asked a question that's all.
Maybe I did and he didn't answer me.I haven't seen him since then.
talaniman
Sep 17, 2019, 09:12 AM
"You went through my phone and put my friends name on your facebook! WHY?"
You have texted but not this one. WHY?
That's what most people would do in your shoes.
honeybun35
Sep 17, 2019, 10:04 AM
ok let me explain this ok. I don't want to shame myself. Let's say the post had nothing to do with the guy that I was texting. He will think why do I think it was for me. Now other's I spoke to all said it was for me I think that. I don't want to let him know that I think that post was about me. He can turn it around.
talaniman
Sep 17, 2019, 10:10 AM
I do not understand what you are saying.
honeybun35
Sep 17, 2019, 10:14 AM
ok maybe we are speaking of 2 different things but you said ask him why?
I said because he may defend that the post he made on Facebook is not about my friend. So therefore he will deny snooping.
talaniman
Sep 17, 2019, 10:20 AM
That assumption is not realistic. You ask what you want to know, and listen to whatever answer he gives. If it is unsatisfactory, then say so and act accordingly. That's how I approach some one, ANYONE, that has broken my trust, and worse, made it a public spectacal. Who puts up with that crap? WHY?