rintintin7
Feb 7, 2014, 02:18 PM
Hi all,
I'm 19 and she is 18, we met 4 and a half years ago in school, we got along like a house on fire and it was love at first sight. We eventually began dating after a month or two of flirting. It was an extremely good relationship, the type people look at and envy. We were each other's first loves. Things went well for around a year and a couple of months, we dated as normal and fell truly in love. Then I began to get a bit jealous (for no good reason) around the 1 year mark, this lead to me asking her not to do things and naturally affected the trust between us. I didn't want to admit to myself at the time that what I was doing was the problem. That manifested itself as me having doubts about the relationship and eventually I said I wanted to break up. She cried, I cried, it was very upsetting for both of us. I felt very bad for letting her down and I promised her that I would never get back together with her unless I was completely sure that the relationship was something I wanted, because I didn't want to let her down. Although we decided to break up, we still maintained the level of communication, contact and intimacy that we previously had (but no kissing/sex). We still went out together, and treated each other like we were a couple. We even slept in the same bed as each other when I would stay over. She wanted to be my girlfriend more than anything in the world and six months after the break up she tried to seduce me, but I stuck to my word and didn't respond, as I still wasn't completely sure.
It was after this point that we decided we should initiate a no contact policy. However for whatever reason we just couldn't keep away from each other. As a result we continued doing the same. Around a year later I realised my jealousy and why it broke up the relationship. I told her that I was wrong and that I was genuinely sorry for what I had done, and how I had treated her. I told her I would do my best to change myself, and I did. From then on our relationship was different, the trust was 100% back and even stronger than ever. And I began to feel like I loved her again. It took me another a year to finally admit that I loved her to her face. I'm the type of person who over thinks everything, and makes a big deal out of small situations, I tend to torture myself with decisions and as a result am rarely sure of what I want or how I feel. However since our relationship was so tough and so difficult, but still so strong after 4 years and I still felt like I was in heaven when I was with her, I deduced that our love must be real. It is tried and tested, we stayed for each other through very difficult circumstances and although I wish it didn't have to be this way I think it has made us a very strong couple. I was able say that I loved her again because it was impossible to deny no matter how much I over thought it.
In the last couple of months our relationship kind of went into over drive. I began staying at her house and sleeping over every other night, we spooned as we watched movies and we began play biting and kissing on everywhere but the lips. I was so happy, I was going to ask her out and I was convinced she would say yes. Then, due to exam results she decided to take a gap year to Australia for 9 months (I live in Ireland so pretty much the other side of the world). I then mentioned the idea of a "proper" relationship again and she told me that she didn't want to because she would miss me too much etc. So I said to myself that it was OK and that I would just ask her out when she came back. It seemed like she was definitely interested in taking the relationship out of the "Going out but not putting a name to it zone", because on my birthday, she grinded on me (something that she had not done in 2 years). I was happy to see her go on a long holiday to Australia and see another part of the world, even though it did make me sad that I would miss her. I really felt like she didn't want us to grow apart because she made me letters, already addressed to her Australian home so we could keep in touch. She also told me that she didn't want to use this time to grow apart.
Part 2 below...
I'm 19 and she is 18, we met 4 and a half years ago in school, we got along like a house on fire and it was love at first sight. We eventually began dating after a month or two of flirting. It was an extremely good relationship, the type people look at and envy. We were each other's first loves. Things went well for around a year and a couple of months, we dated as normal and fell truly in love. Then I began to get a bit jealous (for no good reason) around the 1 year mark, this lead to me asking her not to do things and naturally affected the trust between us. I didn't want to admit to myself at the time that what I was doing was the problem. That manifested itself as me having doubts about the relationship and eventually I said I wanted to break up. She cried, I cried, it was very upsetting for both of us. I felt very bad for letting her down and I promised her that I would never get back together with her unless I was completely sure that the relationship was something I wanted, because I didn't want to let her down. Although we decided to break up, we still maintained the level of communication, contact and intimacy that we previously had (but no kissing/sex). We still went out together, and treated each other like we were a couple. We even slept in the same bed as each other when I would stay over. She wanted to be my girlfriend more than anything in the world and six months after the break up she tried to seduce me, but I stuck to my word and didn't respond, as I still wasn't completely sure.
It was after this point that we decided we should initiate a no contact policy. However for whatever reason we just couldn't keep away from each other. As a result we continued doing the same. Around a year later I realised my jealousy and why it broke up the relationship. I told her that I was wrong and that I was genuinely sorry for what I had done, and how I had treated her. I told her I would do my best to change myself, and I did. From then on our relationship was different, the trust was 100% back and even stronger than ever. And I began to feel like I loved her again. It took me another a year to finally admit that I loved her to her face. I'm the type of person who over thinks everything, and makes a big deal out of small situations, I tend to torture myself with decisions and as a result am rarely sure of what I want or how I feel. However since our relationship was so tough and so difficult, but still so strong after 4 years and I still felt like I was in heaven when I was with her, I deduced that our love must be real. It is tried and tested, we stayed for each other through very difficult circumstances and although I wish it didn't have to be this way I think it has made us a very strong couple. I was able say that I loved her again because it was impossible to deny no matter how much I over thought it.
In the last couple of months our relationship kind of went into over drive. I began staying at her house and sleeping over every other night, we spooned as we watched movies and we began play biting and kissing on everywhere but the lips. I was so happy, I was going to ask her out and I was convinced she would say yes. Then, due to exam results she decided to take a gap year to Australia for 9 months (I live in Ireland so pretty much the other side of the world). I then mentioned the idea of a "proper" relationship again and she told me that she didn't want to because she would miss me too much etc. So I said to myself that it was OK and that I would just ask her out when she came back. It seemed like she was definitely interested in taking the relationship out of the "Going out but not putting a name to it zone", because on my birthday, she grinded on me (something that she had not done in 2 years). I was happy to see her go on a long holiday to Australia and see another part of the world, even though it did make me sad that I would miss her. I really felt like she didn't want us to grow apart because she made me letters, already addressed to her Australian home so we could keep in touch. She also told me that she didn't want to use this time to grow apart.
Part 2 below...