I've been dating this guy for a few months and I thought he was over all his jealousy and trust issues... I was dead wrong.
He monitors everything I do, literally EVERYTHING!
Like he expects me to spend the night at his house every night, and he gets mad if I don't go right to his house from work. I'm not one of those girls that feels the need to be with her boyfriend 24/7. I'm very independent, I don't need people taking care of me nor do I want. My parents raised me not to depend on people.
Anyway, he's very obsessive if j decide to stay home he will text means call me ALL NIGHT long, and if I take too long to text back he'll message my mom, my sister, brother, my brothers girlfriend, and my two best friends on Facebook asking where I am! If I tell him that I'm staying home and then decide to go out with my GAY best friend he assumes that was my plan all along and he thinks I lied to him. I don't have a reason to lie to him. The other night I stayed home because I had a really bad migraine, I fell asleep so I obviously wasn't answering my phone. No one was home, but next thing I knew he was in my room!! He drove 20 minutes to see if I was lying! He was crying and freaking out because "he thought I was mad".
Last night he went through my phone absolutely everything! My Facebook, texts, email, my web browser history, and my contacts. If he saw a guys name that he didn't know he texted them asking who they were and how they knew me!
I want to break up with him, actually I NEED to but he's told me if I ever break up with him he'll follow me around and beat up any guy that even looks like he's trying to get close to me. I laughed it off at first and just told him I'd move away, but then he told me if I even try to leave the state he'll kill me. That's not funny, even if he was kidding. I'm scared! What the heck do I do?

He is a control freak and mentally abusive. You are an individual who is allowed to do what you want to do. Move on. You can do much better!

You just need to break up with him. If he does follow you around like he claims, you go to the police. He is a control freak and if this continues, you won't have any life of your own.

You just need to break up with him. If he does follow you around like he claims, you go to the police. He is a control freak and if this continues, you won't have any life of your own.

I would also add that he will become physically abusive most probably in the future.

Of course. That is almost always the next step. In fact, it kind of surprises me that he hasn't crossed that line yet with all that she has said about him so far.

He is controlling