:( Married 18 months now.I have read everything about trying to conceive.still not pregnant.Is it possible my emotions can interfere with getting pregnant.should I have sex everyday or every other day.Realy worried.

Yes, your emotions can definitely do this!! Stress is a big factor in many women not conceiving.

You should make love to your husband when you are ovulating, which is 12 - 14 days after the first day of your period. Sex every other day is better.

When was your last female check up? It may be time for one, and then you can discuss your concerns with your physician.

Thanks for you immediate answer.When you say stress,what do you mean?I have stopped working for seven months now.People say I should stop thinking about it,can this help?how can I stop thinking about it,I stay at home all day.Thanks

Well, you aren't working, that is a new stressor, even if it does not seem stressful, it is a life change that you are not used to.

Stress is not always what we consider stressful. You keep thinking about getting pregnant, this is a stressor on your body, whether you feel stressed or not, you body feels it.

Take time to ejoy your husband, take time to get to know each other as a married couple.

Are you happy about staying home all day?

I know how difficult it is to Not Stress about trying to conceive a child. My dh and I have been trying to conceive for about 6 months now, and I too stay home. I felt like all I could do was think about getting pregnant. You just have to learn to relax about it, know that it will happen when it's supposed to, and have fun! If you think you may have fertility issues you need to see your ob/gyn. When was your last check-up? You should have an open relationship with your doctor, discussing all of your concerns and questions with him/her. Focus on your relationship, yourself, your husband. Exercise regularly, read a good book, go for a walk. Anything to relax yourself. Sometimes my hubby and I will go shopping for baby stuff, never with the intention of buying, then we can talk about our frustrations and excitements together. Try to limit your thinking about conception to when discussing it with someone close to you. That way you don't allow yourself to obsess over it. I wish you all the best of luck!

I only found out I was expecting a week ago today! It was such a big shock because we had been trying for about 14 months and we decided it was best for me to finish work to give us the best chance in conceiving.. I didn't work for just over a year. I went back to work the beginning of last month, the same month we were told that the chances of us conceiving naturally were just about nil and were referred to an IVF specialist and told that the chances were slim but there was still a chance of conceiving with IVF - we decided to leave the IVF for a couple of months. But it seems that returning to work and forgetting about it totally and even having a little holiday away, made a huge impact. We absolutely weren't expecting to find out we were expecting, especially since we were told there was virtually no chance we could conceive naturally let alone with IVF. So it is true about the whole stress factor, honestly I didn't believe I had any stress in my life, but obviously there was stress that I was over looking.

Ovulation usually occurs about 14 days before a woman's period begins — that's why it's so difficult to predict. It may occur on day 14 of a regular 28-day menstrual cycle. Go to:-
Ask the Experts: How do you know when you are ovulating? — teenwire.com (http://www.teenwire.com/ask/2004/as-20040319p756-ovulate.php)
For more information on ovulation. Stress can come in many forms, worrying about not getting pregnant is a form of stress, but it is hard to not worry or think about it. It is best to have sex 2 days before, during and after ovulation, for the best chance of pregnancy. When you have been trying without success for 12 months, it is always a good idea to ask the doctor to arrange fertility tests on you and your partner. Good luck. Here is some ******baby dust****** hope it works for you.

I'm really happy for this feedback,it's relieving.I do hope I can stop thinking about getting pregnant.But how does this affect sperm and egg getting fertilized.I mean thinkig about it.

It doesn't affect the fertalization of the sperm and the egg, but rather it affects whether the egg is viable and available for fertalization.

Stress can prevent you from ovulating at times. Yes, you still have your period, but you don't necessarily release an egg. Some women don't get a period, others get a couple periods a month. It is all individual, and your health care provider can guide you further with your own personal situation.

Now, are you not working because of choice? Was it your choice to stay at home? Is it different than you are used to? If the answer to the third question is yes, this is stress. As I said before, just because you don't feel stressed out doesn't mean your body is not reacting as it is stressed.

Change in work habits; change in diet; change in exercise; change in sleeping habits, etc etc are all stressors on your body. Stress does not have to be mental/emotional in origin. Just something different than you are used to.

So if I reduce thinking or stressed around ovulation it might work.saying this because I can't completely erase off mine mind.I hope I am not getting too stupid with my questions.

J9 will correct me if I am wrong, but my doctor also told me that even if the egg and sperm did meet it still has to implant... and you have to have basically a perfect state of mind for the implantation to be successful and to make a viable pregnancy.

My doctor also told me that many women actually fall pregnant and don't even realize it. The embryo aborts around the same time as the woman expects her period and doesn't suspect a thing. Also I read somewhere that 1 out of 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage after getting a viable positive test. Not wanting to worry anyone though...

Thank you so much.I have a regular cycle of 26 days.and I ovulate sometimes around day 12.but in the last 2 months,my cycle has been 27days.Since you advised sex every other day.we planned day 8,10 and12.but I am trying to be safe,in case my cycle is 27days this month.should I have sex on day 13,since average luteal phase is 14days.

You can try that, there really is no harm in it.

Just take it slow. If you read many other posts about women trying, they try so hard to get pregnant it does not happen. Then they stop trying, just give up thinking they will never get pregnant, and BAM, they are pregnant.

So, just have fun trying. I will happen when you least expect it.

Omg J9... you just told my life story...