astheniavictim
Apr 9, 2012, 04:21 PM
Apologies for the long story.
I met my ex--girlfriend in the 2nd semester of my freshman year of high school and she was a sophomore in art class. I didn't start falling for her until the end of that semester and I didn't tell her how I felt until the beginning of the following school year. She said she liked me too but didn't quite know if she could get into a relationship (this was the first relationship for the both of us) Fast forward to November and we started dating. Everything was great at first and she was pretty much everything I could ask for in a girl.
Now into the end of February I started to feel as if she wasn't as invested in the relationship as much and I was over concerned with little details. She almost broke up with me when I confronted her with it but I convinced her to stay. Again everything was going fine and she was starting to change for the better but I apparently wasn't. A month later I relapsed into the same state but this time she said she understood and wanted to work through it.
This was a bit over a week prior to the break up but the time between that and the break up everything seemed to be going fine and I was trying to change for good. Then on that Saturday (March 31st) I got mad at her over something stupid (this was the first time I showed anger towards her) at a grocery store parking lot.
I got over it a short time later that day and she was acting normal. Then the following day I got a message from her saying she was extremely upset at what I did and broke up right there. I was a wreck. A few days afterward I apologized for what I did and she said it was okay and she forgave me, but we weren't getting back together.
A few days after that I asked her if we gave it some time could we try again and told her I wasn't a violent person and that every relationship has its ups and downs. She decided to stay firm with her decision and said time will make her stronger in her choice.
I already threw out all of her stuff and am already in NC (the main way we communicated out of school was through YouTube so I deleted my account) but I feel like I'm missing something, like there's something I need to do but I haven't done yet. Am I doing this right or is there something else I should/shouldn't do?
Also, I should mention I'm fifteen, and she's sixteen. And should I cut off all contact with her for good or should I try speaking to her after I've completely moved on?
I met my ex--girlfriend in the 2nd semester of my freshman year of high school and she was a sophomore in art class. I didn't start falling for her until the end of that semester and I didn't tell her how I felt until the beginning of the following school year. She said she liked me too but didn't quite know if she could get into a relationship (this was the first relationship for the both of us) Fast forward to November and we started dating. Everything was great at first and she was pretty much everything I could ask for in a girl.
Now into the end of February I started to feel as if she wasn't as invested in the relationship as much and I was over concerned with little details. She almost broke up with me when I confronted her with it but I convinced her to stay. Again everything was going fine and she was starting to change for the better but I apparently wasn't. A month later I relapsed into the same state but this time she said she understood and wanted to work through it.
This was a bit over a week prior to the break up but the time between that and the break up everything seemed to be going fine and I was trying to change for good. Then on that Saturday (March 31st) I got mad at her over something stupid (this was the first time I showed anger towards her) at a grocery store parking lot.
I got over it a short time later that day and she was acting normal. Then the following day I got a message from her saying she was extremely upset at what I did and broke up right there. I was a wreck. A few days afterward I apologized for what I did and she said it was okay and she forgave me, but we weren't getting back together.
A few days after that I asked her if we gave it some time could we try again and told her I wasn't a violent person and that every relationship has its ups and downs. She decided to stay firm with her decision and said time will make her stronger in her choice.
I already threw out all of her stuff and am already in NC (the main way we communicated out of school was through YouTube so I deleted my account) but I feel like I'm missing something, like there's something I need to do but I haven't done yet. Am I doing this right or is there something else I should/shouldn't do?
Also, I should mention I'm fifteen, and she's sixteen. And should I cut off all contact with her for good or should I try speaking to her after I've completely moved on?