We are in a relation from 6 years. We both love each other very much. But at times I did some mistakes, did something which she did not liked. I don't do it deliberately. At times she needed me but I was not there for her. Its not like I have any relation with some other girl. Most of the time I was busy with the matters of my home. As I am the only son of my parents I have bigger responsibilities.

I love her and really can't live without her. She means everything to me. My family does not know anything about my relation with her. I don't realize the things which she needs, sometime I try to do something which she really likes, she gets very happy that time, but she does not remember that for a long time, she only remembers my past mistakes which I have done 5 years ago. We broke up many times, but after some time realizing that we can't live without each we patch up again, and try to live happily as we used to. But after sometime the same things keep on repeating. It really frustrates us both. She is suffering and so am I. What should I do?

Your words of love don't match your actions as she is kept a secret for 5 years. That could stand some correcting maybe. Why is it this way?

Your words of love don't match your actions as she is kept a secret for 5 years. That could stand some correcting maybe. Why is it this way?

Please tell me what to do now... how can I see her happy... I kept her as a secret I know that is my mistake. Please help me.. I can't loose her.. she means everything to me.

"We broke up many times, but after some time realizing that we can't live without each we patch up again, and try to live happily as we used to."

I don't believe this is the case. I believe you get back together because you are both used to each other, it is obvious that things are not happy as they used to be, and some mistakes that someone makes may not be forgettable to their partner. I would think that she is tired of being in the shadows, if you want to be with her, make her yours. She will eventually get tired of this situation enough to leave, it is a ticking time bomb.

To have a chance to keep her, you must make her a full partner for life, and make her a priority above your family.

Tell her you love her.
And show her, too.
Whatever you have done, prove you regret it and want to make things better.
This is the only way she might come round to trusting and loving you the way she used to.
All the best x