Well my ex fiancée and I have been together for 5 years and we broke up in December. We have a 2 year old daughter and we are in our 40s. A child we tried so hard to achieve finally arrived. He comes and goes as he pleases and gets what he wants from me all of the time.

He states, "you told me to come over so thats why im here but im not coming back". He's here 2 nights on the weekend, and 1 through the week. He rings most nights, and lets me down at least 1-2 times a week by saying he's coming over or ringing me.

I walk the house with my phone waiting for it to ring. He says he loves me, and his not coming back, but he's always here, and gives me mixed messages. I say I know you love me so come back. He says "yes I love ok?". I can pick my daughter up on a Saturday and that's it. No phone calls nothing, or have it like it is... mmmmm yes I know guys.

He is hurting you over and over again. Love yourself and don't let him hurt you one more time. It's so unfair. You give him what he wants all the time but you're not getting any in return. That's so selfish of him and you let it. Don't let him abuse you or he'll do it until you put an end to it. I know you still love him but he won't come around if you let him trample all over you.

He sends no mixed signals, he does what he will when he wants to. You receive mixed signals because despite him being clear with his behavior, you hope for more but don't get it.

This is simple, be good parents but have separate lives and don't mix them. Then you won't get mixed signals from him because you KNOW he cannot give you more than he wants to.