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heatherky
May 2, 2011, 12:03 PM
Im 6 months pregnant now and my boyfriend hasn't been interested in sex for the last couple months. We have been together for 3 years and our sex life has always been good up until now. He is great to me in every other way, he's a good dad to my children and he is happy about the pregnancy. If I initiate sex he won't turn me down but he never comes on to me anymore. Yet he watches porn everyday. And this makes it really hurtful that he would rather look at other women naked then me. Ive tried talking about it but it hasn't helped.

smoothy
May 2, 2011, 12:26 PM
He is viewing you as a baby container right now... and is feeling strange about poking his willy that close to his child. And it might also be out of fear of hurting you or the child.

Now is it really a founded paranoia... no, but its not that uncommon.

And don't take a simple act as what he picks to watch as a personal attack... it isn't. Guys like what they like... and it isn't a swipe at you at all. Guys are like that from puberty until the day they die. Its normal and average in all but a few rare cases.

Now keep in mind WHAT you say and HOW you say it matter a great deal... and you can't change what others like. Also keep in mind you have the hormone thing going on right now so you might be hypersensitive about certain things as a result..

BMI
May 2, 2011, 12:29 PM
Not a huge issue in my opinion. A lot of similar threads seem to suggest many men are afraid they will somehow hurt the baby if they engage in sexual intercourse during pregnancy.

Also, not to sound mean or offensive, some men are not attracted to the... um... appearance of their partner, specifically the larger figure. -Hey, I just offer an opinion, I did'nt say it was true with all men and certainly not with me... maybe:).

It is not something to feel bad about and in no way is he (if that's a reason) saying you are unattractive but consider if your man came home larger in that area by some degree. Would you be AS eager to initaite sex?

I do hope any readers of this take it in its proper form else I'll have to be writing plenty of explainations as to why the fictitious men I refer to above would be so base:)

DoulaLC
May 2, 2011, 03:31 PM
When you have tried talking about it, has he given you any explanation? Determining what the reason might be can help determine a possible solution to where you both are feeling satisfied in that area of your relationship.