View Full Version : I like this girl who has a boyfriend but I liked her before she went out with him
CollinHETH
Sep 27, 2010, 04:21 PM
I am 13 and like this girl. We talk all the time and she always touches me and tells me stories that are really close to her, One was about being nude and running around. She always tries to hang out with me and she was the one who told me to text her and asked me how she should style her hair. We always hang out at church and stuff and I go mainly for her. I LIKE her more than anyone else. Then like 4 weeks later I told her one night (over texting ik bad choice) that I had to get it off my chest that I liked her. She just giggled and said haha OK do you feel better? I never finished it off by asking her if she liked. I assumed that was common sense for her? Then like 1 weekslater I sort of stopped texting her and when I texted her back she said, "Why havent you texted me?" then at the end of talking for like 2 hours she said she wanted me to text her again... Then I was just about to ask her if she liked me and she started going out with another boy, we still talk like every night like always and she refers to me as pal. So I need to know if there is still hope and what I should do, not so much along the lines of her dating the boy but more about the following up and asking her out part. Be truthful and specific because I don't want lies. Thanks.
CBL34
Sep 27, 2010, 09:47 PM
This girl probably was surprised because it seems like the two of you are really close. In high-school I had a guy best friend ( I am a girl ) and one day he asked me out on a date, I was surprised at first because I had never thought of him like that before. So just give her some time. And about the boy she is dating now, the relationship probably won't last that long, especially since you guys are only 13. Also when a girl refers to you as 'pal' sometimes she might say that just because she still is thinking about that day when you told her you like her, however it might still mean she is just calling you pla because you are her pal. I hope everything works out for you.
toffee_apple87
Sep 28, 2010, 08:48 AM
Obviously I don't know this girl but it sounds to me like a- she's either a bit of a game player and testing waters with you a bit and she already knew you liked her , maybe she wants to be chased some girls are like that especially if they have deep down insecuritys about themselves they will get what ever attention they can get . OR she really just does see you as a very good friend somebody she can tell near enough everything to and when she giggled maybe she was a little embarrest but if you are both good friends you should be able to talk about what it is you both actually want.
Cat1864
Sep 28, 2010, 11:00 AM
Collin, at best, she sees you as a friend. At worst, she is keeping you close to feed her ego.
She has a boyfriend now so you shouldn't ask her out. One way to think about it is: Would you want someone asking her out while you were her boyfriend?
If you can handle just being her friend and not expect anything else, then be her friend.
If you can't, then distance yourself from the drama she seems to be about to create.
I am certain that if you aren't concentrating just on her that you will notice other girls who are noticing you.
treptrip
Oct 20, 2010, 12:33 AM
Who runs through the forrest naked? She has a boyfriend which means off limits. She giggled which might mean 2 things
1 she was embarrest that you liked her or
2 she already knew and she might create drama
Sooo... ya might want to be friends with her and wait it out until the relationship is over and if its not well wish her the best of luck and move on. You might feel sad but it might keep you happy to know that she is happy and if it doesn't that might mean one thing: Did you really love her?