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LJDK
Jan 22, 2010, 12:28 AM
Hi.

Any advise? She is having a mental breakdown. She said its due to work stress, and financial stress. This morning all was OK and then suddenly she just snapped while I was trying to kiss her goodbye.

She screamed and had a rage fit, screaming I should leave her alone. I just looked as she stormed off. So I went to her told her "i just wanted to say goodbye, so goodbye" she then apologized saying she can't handle work anymore and does not want to go to work.

Something tells me this has very little to do with work or money. Personally I think she feels guilty about something.

Regardless. What to do? Does she have to go to counseling? Are there no other self help methods that could resolve this?

amicon
Jan 22, 2010, 03:17 AM
I suggest she makes an appointment to see her doctor.
Could she change her job?

As to whether she feels guilty about something-ask her.
She's the only one who knows.

Gemini54
Jan 22, 2010, 02:26 PM
I had a quick look at your other posts and it sounds as if you and your fiancée have had on-going issues of one type or another. For two people that aren't married yet, you've certainly had a bunch of things going on between you.

There seems to be a series of things that have been bothering both of you in the relationship. The sort of behavior you describe is irrational but whether it's hiding guilt, only she can know.

I'd suggest it's time for an honest talk between you regarding what the real cause of her distress is. It may be that she's just had enough, and that work problems have tipped her over the edge. Or, it may be an excuse. There are underlying problems in your relationhsip that haven't been dealt with and her melt-down may be a symptom of this.

Have you had a chance to speak with a counselor, together, about your relationship?