momneedshelp7
Jun 22, 2009, 04:19 AM
I have a 30 year old son who mentally abuses me. Family and friends tell me to cut all ties. How do I do that? I am a mother and it is tearing me apart but I can not take this abuse any longer. I sit here crying now from what he put me through this morning. He lost his drivers license and I drove him to work this morning. A typical morning is he gets in my car when I arrive to pick him up and immediately starts telling me that I am an awful mother and that I have never done anything for him. The truth is I drive him to work, to grocery store, to bank, I have cleaned his apartment, done all his laundry, pay his bills when he gambles all his money away.
The reality is that he is my only child and I have done too much for him and nothing is ever enough. I know it is my fault for spoiling him but why can he not appreciate anything I do for him?
Sometimes I meet people and hear about what a terrible mother they have been told I am. What he wants is for me to financially support him so that his pay can be used for gambling only. I can not do this. I can not take this constant ridicule anymore either.
How do I walk away? I need to walk away I need to find the courage to do it no matter how much I love my son. I by the way have tried to get him to seek help for his gambling addiction but he will not do it. He says there would be no issue if I would just be a better mother and do something for him instead of complaining about it. He means pay all his living expenses, What can I do? I know that I can not continue to cry and shake like this anymore.
The reality is that he is my only child and I have done too much for him and nothing is ever enough. I know it is my fault for spoiling him but why can he not appreciate anything I do for him?
Sometimes I meet people and hear about what a terrible mother they have been told I am. What he wants is for me to financially support him so that his pay can be used for gambling only. I can not do this. I can not take this constant ridicule anymore either.
How do I walk away? I need to walk away I need to find the courage to do it no matter how much I love my son. I by the way have tried to get him to seek help for his gambling addiction but he will not do it. He says there would be no issue if I would just be a better mother and do something for him instead of complaining about it. He means pay all his living expenses, What can I do? I know that I can not continue to cry and shake like this anymore.