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rr523
Jun 6, 2009, 10:32 PM
Im in a gay relationship and I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months and its been the most stressful relationship I've had so far. Hes a very dramatic person and he flirts a lot with other guys on myspace and aim, he lies a lot, he's always looking at other guys when we hangout, he never lets me check his cell phone, sometimes I hangout with him and some of his female friends and he whispers things to his friends and then they laugh and I find that very rude and disrespectful, he was also using a gay website which is called adam4adam and the site is mainly for sex and I had to force him to delete it, also he wants to see me almost everyday and almost every time we hangout I have to pay for his food and transportation and it makes feel like he's using me since he doesn't have a job. I don't trust him at all with all that flirting and lying, sometimes I think he's a compulsive liar and I also have a strong feeling that he has cheated on me. Also he's very dramatic since I've tried to break up with him a couple of times and it wasn't successful. Im not sure if this is for real or he was faking it but when I tried to break up with him he got very dizzy and almost fainted and started sweating. I think he's faking it so I can feel sorry for him and give him another chance. Also when I tried to brake up with him he cried a lot, he begged me, and worst of all he followed me everywhere I went begging me and the second time I tried to break up with him he threatned me with calling 911 and acussing me of rape, he never called 911 but threatned me so I can get scared. Most of my friends met him and he was very nice to all of them but even like that my friends told me that they have a bad vibe about him and none of my friends like him. I don't know what to do with him, he has brought a great deal of stress and drama to my life and now I can't break up with him because I'm scared of what he might try to do to either himself or to me if I try to break up with him again. I can't keep living with all this stress and drama and I can't get rid of him either because he will never accept the brake up and he's the type of person that will do anything to stay with me. He cannot force me to be with him if I don't want to. I don't know what to do with this situation, I'm stuck and I need help getting out of this stressful relationship without putting myself in any danger. Please help me!

Justwantfair
Jun 6, 2009, 10:36 PM
You are not stuck. You know what you need to do, now it is time to do it.

What he does, is his responsibility and if he isn't getting the rewarding response, you staying to be abused/mistreated by him, then he will stop the behavior. This is not your responsibility. It is time for you to break this cycle of dysfunction.

I wish
Jun 7, 2009, 04:56 AM
It's only stressful if you allow it to be.

Why are you torturing yourself? You've only been together for 3 months and your list of complaints is endless.

There's no trust in this relationship. There's no joy or happiness.

It's time to get out. You deserve better than this!

talaniman
Jun 7, 2009, 06:20 AM
He cannot force me to be with him if I don't want to
That's exactly what your doing though, allowing your fear to over rule your good common sense. LEAVE

I don't know what to do with this situation
Yes you do but your scared.

I'm stuck and I need help getting out of this stressful relationship without putting myself in any danger.
Just leave, deal with the danger from a position outside the relationship, not in it. This will not get better, it will get worse. Plus if you can make him delete a website, then you can make him leave you alone.

Take your balls back and get some dignity and self respect, and do what you already know you have to.

Stop using fear as an excuse. Get some courage, and not be his victim.