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cali_gurl37
May 15, 2009, 02:09 PM
Hi... I have been with my boyfriend now for 8 months . We broke up like 2 weeks ago and then he called me back crying telling me that he loves me and that he wanted to make it work . So I gave him another try . I feel uneasy about it . The sex has always been great ! He wants me all of the time... one day... he was online watching 2 girls have anal sex with strap ons . So then he asked if I would give him anal sex with a sex toy ! I was shocked ! And I have done it for him 3 times ! My question is... is it a fetish or is he trying to tell me something like he's gay ? Please help me ! I really do love him

cali_gurl37
May 15, 2009, 02:11 PM
Please help

Wondergirl
May 15, 2009, 02:13 PM
No, it's not a fetish and no, he's not gay. If you don't want to do it, tell him no.

The anus contains a vast supply of nerves, and is one of our most sensitive erogenous zones. Stroking, massaging, and otherwise stimulating the anus can be intensely pleasurable. Prostitutes know this and use toys such as anal beads to create fantastic orgasms in their clients. Couples who are open to experimenting can safely and comfortably enhance their sex lives with anal sex.

nitelight198073
May 15, 2009, 04:46 PM
I agree with Wondergirl they wouldn't let me give you a greenie

artlady
May 15, 2009, 05:01 PM
No, I do not believe he is gay.
There is a ton of untapped sexual nerve endings in a mans anus and there is even a male G spot.
He is responding to an often untapped male erogenous zone.

Wondergirl
May 15, 2009, 05:03 PM
No, I do not believe he is gay.
There is a ton of untapped sexual nerve endings in a mans anus and there is even a male G spot.
He is responding to an often untapped male erogenous zone.
Female too

liz28
May 15, 2009, 05:48 PM
Some guys like anal stimulation. A guy is only gay if he sleeps with another guy but a girl using a strap-on him doesn't make him gay.

However if your uncomfortable with doing this then let him know but if your only reason behind being uncomfortable is because you think he is gay--don't think that.

Read this thread https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-sexuality/strap-334700.html

Catsmine
May 17, 2009, 04:28 PM
Do you get any pleasure out of it, or is it just doing something for him? Anal stimulation is not a fetish (unless he's exclusively anal). Like oral or dirty talk or LOTS of other things it's another form of foreplay.

Foreplay is good. Period f'ing dot.

MORE FOREPLAY!!

What do you get?

Fr_Chuck
May 17, 2009, 04:41 PM
Yes, many men enjoy that, nothing strange at all. I would suggest perhaps you have lived a more sheltered life and not aware of many of the enjoyment a couple can have

Xrayman
May 17, 2009, 09:04 PM
Are you gay if as a woman you have anal sex??
NO! So there's your answer.

smoothy
May 18, 2009, 05:31 AM
Not at all gay... A gay guy would rather a man be in bed with him than a woman... HUGE difference here. Lot of straight women like doing it... lot of straight guys like getting it.

If you find it pleasurible as well, enjoy an interesting sex life together... the more you have to do the less likely it will ever get dull and boring together.