Well.. it all started as I'm from the UK and decided to travel with a mate to australia in Aug 2007, I traveled for the first 6months until I met my boyfiend in Melbourne... at first we couldn't keep our hands off each other, was with each other constantly.. introduced my mate to him.. they didn't like each other. So I was juggling between spending time with both of them. My visa was running out.. my mate decided to go home.. I stayed (as I did 3months fruit picking work).
It all started going wrong when she left... my boyfriend started working night shifts.. I got lonely.. he would always come back at 5am! One night my boyfriend said he would be back at 2am.. and he never got back till 11am the next day... he said he got too drunk and passed out at the skate park.
We started arguing more (which is usual in a relationship) but he would be nasty... tell me to 'stick my head up my and jump under a train' call me 'phsyco' and he would always say he doesn't want to be with me... but the next day he is fine.. (HE SMOKES POT SO I Don't NO WHETHER THIS AFFECTS HIM. He also got hit by a car 3months ago.. and in a argument he blamed me for it and said he could have died and would have been my fault as we were arguing at the time when he got hit.he has also been mildly violent to me by pushing me 3 times on the floor, holding me to the wall and spitting on me, pouring alcohol all over me.
Our sex life has gone from experimenting with ice cubes, cream etc etc everyday to just having it when he wants it... mainly in the morning when I'm not that horny... but if I say no... he will hold it against me. And whenever I want it... he never does. I always give him head... when he wants but when I want him to go down on me he never does anymore. Also recently I have noticed stashes of porn everywhere... he never used to have that. I feel unwanted and unattractive! Don't no what to do?
I'm also at that stage where my visa is running out and have to decided what to do.. you see when he isn't angry he is perfect and I do love him.. I love being with him.. we kind of rely on each other... But when he is angry its bad and all I want to do is be at home with my family I'm the UK.
I'm confused whether to stay or go home... some of my mates stop speaking to me as I been in australia and they say things too different at home. So I always think I'm going to be lonely too.
Help me!! Thank ux

he got too drunk and passed out at the skate park. we started arguing more (which is usual in a relationship) but he would be nasty...tell me to 'stick my head up my and jump under a train' call me 'phsyco' and he would always say he doesnt want to be with me...but the next day he is fine.. (HE SMOKES POT SO I DONT NO WHETHER THIS AFFECTS HIM. he also got hit by a car 3months ago..and in a argument he blamed me for it and said he could have died and would have been my fault as we was arguing at the time when he got hit.he has also been mildly violent to me by pushing me 3 times on the floor, holding me to the wall and spitting on me, pouring alcohol all over me.


Go home.

Yep I agree with the above- time to book yourself a single ticket back home

Go home, and regroup, without him.

I'm from the UK but I went travelling in Australia which is where I met my ex boyriend (he is australian), we were together for 2years but then we split up... I had to go home shortly after as my visa was up. I have dated briefly since and so has he. But I decided to go back to australia last year for one year... I went travelling alone for 9 months and then I asked him if he wanted to meet up... so we met up and ended up seeing each other again for the next 3 months.. we got really close again, and I started falling for him again. I got mixed emotions from him though... he likes his own space as he likes making his own music. But at the same time he was always asking to see me (not even just for sex, we just hung out a lot too)it was really nice, but now I am home as my visa was up. I don't know what to do as I can't stop thinking about him and I know I love him. I want him back in my life.. he is the only guy I want, I'm nearly 25 now, and I really don't think I want any other guy. But its so hard as he is on the other side of the world.
Help!

Have you made plans for the future or was this just for when you were available?

Well we haven't made plans for future... which is confusing me as I don't know where I stand. I think he plans to travel next year europe... but I want to see him now! Lol... I might offer to pay for him to come UK.lol

If no plans have been made you haven't planned for a future together.

That's not confusing ,that's telling you he wants to go and do his thing without worrying what you're doing/thinking/feeling.

Offering to buy him a ticket here isn't 'lol' at all-that would be really silly!!

Just didn't get enough abuse the first time huh?? Don't waste any more time and money on this guy. Get some help and real guidance on something worth while besides a guy who uses you for whatever.

I missed the May post, so in addition-avoid at all cost, this guy's poison.

Get real and look to date real men-not abusive potheads.