Judy it's understandable that all this brings out all the worst memories we have. It's the nature of the beast.

I wish Jo's parents would just let her go. The doctors have already told them that even if she were to survive she'd need care for the rest of her life. That's no life, especially not for someone as independent as Jo.

It's best that they just let her go peacefully but I can't understand the need to keep trying. I understand that all too well.

In the end there's nothing that they can do if it's her time to go.

I wish her a quick painless end to all of this.

Same here, I wish starby an easy passage when its her time to go, and my best wishes go out to her and her family.

I hope that came out all right, its difficult to say much on here, but I do mean well.

same here, i wish starby an easy passage when its her time to go, and my best wishes go out to her and her family.

i hope that came out alright, its difficult to say much on here, but i do mean well.

It came out just fine Bear. :)

I think so too bear.

This is all so crazy though, just so crazy, it seems only 2 1/2 to 3 months ago she was on line, talking to us, laughing about the duck, feathers... I just don't know.

I think so too bear.

This is all so crazy though, just so crazy, it seems only 2 1/2 to 3 months ago she was on line, talking to us, laughing about the duck, feathers....I just don't know.

It was only that long ago Stringer. It's been so different without her here. I still expect her to pop in, tell one of her funny stories, join in the jokes and fun.

I can't believe this, yet I can. We've had some time to get used to the idea of her going but it's still such a shock.

I just love her so much, even though we never met. I can't believe we never will. :(

Awww... your spirit and hers Alty matched perfectly, it is obvious. Take it all for what it was and is to you;)
Judy love, I am so sorry for the losses in your life. Your experience helps us all here
Stringer, thank you
And Bear... you say the right things all the time... dont underestimate;)

Even those of us who only talked a couple of times loved her. Godspeed, Jo.

I think so too bear.

This is all so crazy though, just so crazy, it seems only 2 1/2 to 3 months ago she was on line, talking to us, laughing about the duck, feathers....I just don't know.

I still remember the message she posted about tripping over on her porch, I was online at the time and didn't think much of it, just told her to get to the hospital and asked is she was OK.

I wish I had have said more to her then.

I wish I had have said more to her then.

Don't dwell on that so much hon. She wouldn't want that. She understands I'm sure, and I'm sure she knows you would have said more to her had you known. *hugs*

How is starby doing? My sister broke the same bone from being hit by a truck it took a long recovery time. I wish her the best. And will pray for her

how is starby doing? my sister broke the same bone from being hit by a truck it took a long recovery time. i wish her the best. and will pray for her

She's not well Binx.

The break in her leg is the least of her worries.

Her liver is not functioning, one kidney has shut down, there's an infection causing massive amounts of liquid to form in her abdomen, and many other things.

I doubt she'll be with us much longer and for her sake I hope it's quick and painless because she's been in pain for months now.

Godspeed Jo, I think that says it best. We all love you, never forget it.

Yes, we all do...

Wow.. I didn't know so much was going on in her life. She was and still is a wonderful person. I do hope when her time comes that she goes peacefully because no one deserves to be in pain like that. I still remember how nice she was when I first came on the forum. She will be greatly missed. :(

We all love you, never forget it and I don't think any of us will ever forget her or the things she's done for people.

I would write more but hearing about the pain she's in and what's she's dealing with has made me cry...
May the sun always warm the path her feet follow.

She's not well Binx.

The break in her leg is the least of her worries.

Her liver is not functioning, one kidney has shut down, there's an infection causing massive amounts of liquid to form in her abdomen, and many other things.

I doubt she'll be with us much longer and for her sake I hope it's quick and painless because she's been in pain for months now.

Godspeed Jo, I think that says it best. We all love you, never forget it.

Yes I agree that I hope she simply goes to sleep. I don't want her suffering anymore than she already has.

I have been reading through some of her posts and greenies (mostly I'm bored, but I wanted to get to know the person behind 'starby') and she seems like such a wonderfully caring and loving person, and I am so saddened that I may not get the chance to say hello to her.

*hugs for starby*

Danke for the update darlin.

I haven't posted much, cause I know where she's at, there just isn't a lot of "turning back"... even when there are upswings.

Much love to all.

Every day is a gift.

Its so hard to keep that perspective... even my worst day is another day spent with people I love.

danke for the update darlin.

i havent posted much, cause i know where shes at, there just isnt a lot of "turning back"... even when there are upswings.

much love to all.

every day is a gift.

its so hard to keep that perspective... even my worst day is another day spent with people i love.

So true KP. From what I've been told she's only awake for an hour or two a day and those wakeful period are filled with confusion and pain.

She's drifting away, but boy is she a toughy. She's already lived longer then the doctors thought she would. I'm glad she had that extra time, her family had a great birthday party for her, even brought Niki (Jo's dog) along. She was full of smiles, eating cake, loving every minute of it.

I'm glad she had that. I'm also glad that she seems to have made peace with her family.

I wish things were different, but wishes don't usually come true. She's a big part of my life and no matter what happens she always will be.

Darnit, more freakin tears. I would think they'd be dried up by now. :(

Darnit, more freakin tears. I would think they'd be dried up by now. :(

The older you get, hon, the more fall. Each one of mine are a memory of an absent friend.

The older you get, hon, the more fall. Each one of mine are a memory of an absent friend.

I've shed too many in my lifetime, I don't shed them easily. It takes a lot to make me cry.

My mom used to say that you have little teacups behind your eyes. They fill up and then you have to cry to empty them.

Loved my mom. :)

As the teacups get bigger, they empty easier. I'm as tough as they come, but I can cry at John Wayne movies nowadays.

As the teacups get bigger, they empty easier. I'm as tough as they come, but I can cry at John Wayne movies nowdays.

Movies don't usually make me cry, life is enough.

Does it ever get easier?

If it does is that a bad thing?

I wish I had the answers, sadly I only have questions. :(

The older you get, hon, the more fall. Each one of mine are a memory of an absent friend.

I hear you on that. Some of my best friends are dead people.

I had a nightmare that I logged on (dreams about AMHD... wow) and you said she was gone :( I don't even know her and I woke up crying... I hope she is sleeping and not in pain.

Just read the news... :(

My best wishes to Jo and her family. I hope that a miracle occurs for Jo, either she recovers, or she goes painlessly.

We love you so much Jo... :(

Just read the news.... :(

My best wishes to Jo and her family. I hope that a miracle occurs for Jo, either she recovers, or she goes painlessly.

We love you so much Jo...... :(

I think we all wish that Unky. :)

Hugs to you.

I've kind of delayed answering this thread since I read the last updates two days ago.

My best wishes for Jo and her family and if it really is nearing the end, I hope she does as painlessly as possible.

<3

I really haven't been able to be on nearly as much in recent times but my thoughts have been with her every single day. Every day I can't check I worry is the day that she will leave us, but every single time she proves the doctors wrong and lives another day.

Things look grim but if anyone is stubborn enough to live it has to be Jo, if for nothing else just to prove the doctors wrong.

I don't want her to suffer but she hasn't given up yet and neither have I. As long as she has the will to live I'll carry the hope that she can.

Here's an update that Rebbie sent me last night. It's from Jo's friend Sally.

Well, I went to see Jo after I left work. More so I could see her mom too & find out what was going on medically. She is still sleeping all the time. She's been like this for over a week now. The Dr. brought in Pallative Care & the nurses are telling them that she's really bad & for them to get things in order. The Chaplin was also brought in. The Dr. said they could put feeding tubes & such in, but it would just prolong things for about 4 mths. Her parents, especially her dad, are having a real hard time with this news & they want to hang on, but they know theres not much hope. So for now I guess its just wait & see as Jo has been talking alot about death & dying.
I will let you know more as things happen. I only go up a few times a week now as I find it hard sitting there while she sleeps

I hope her parents realize that it's time to give her some peace.

Thanks Alty, for posting, and Rebbie for sending this to Alty, and Sally, for sending it to Rebbie! :)

I hope they make the right choice.

This is too sad I can't handle stuff like this

This is too sad I can't handle stuff like this

It is sad NH, I'm having a hard time with it too. Sadly it doesn't change the fact that it's happening.

Thank goodness we all have each other.

We're Starby's family too, in a very real sense. :)

Wow I have been gone too long.

Alty I hope with all my heart your friend Jo will be OK, but if she is not, then I hope with all my heart that you will be OK.

That was really sweet Champy. (Good to see you, by the way). Starby isn't much better and it's all a waiting game. We just want her to not suffer.

It truly pains me to say this but I think it's time to change my prayers/wishes/hopes for Jo from recovery to release.


I just sat here for 5 minutes trying to get myself to push the button to post. This is hard.

It truly pains me to say this but I think it's time to change my prayers/wishes/hopes for Jo from recovery to release.


I just sat here for 5 minutes trying to get myself to push the button to post. This is hard.

I think your right:(

That was really sweet Champy. (Good to see you, by the way). Starby isn't much better and it's all a waiting game. We just want her to not suffer.

I was praying for a miracle I suppose.Its funny how you can become friends with someone on line and you love them just like a pal that you have known for years.
Thanks for the update Momsy,sad as it is.

It truly pains me to say this but I think it's time to change my prayers/wishes/hopes for Jo from recovery to release.


I just sat here for 5 minutes trying to get myself to push the button to post. This is hard.

I feel the same way Cats. It's hard to admit but I do think it's time to pray for a quick peaceful end. She deserves to have an end to her suffering.

The only people that will suffer her loss are those left behind, she'll be in paradise, I truly believe that. She deserves that.

I'm chaning my prayers for her family, the strength to deal with all of this, also the strength to let go.

the strength to let go.

That takes a lot.

That takes a lot.

It does, and often it takes a long time to come to the conclusion that you're no longer pushing because of your loved one, but because of you, the fear of your loss.

As I've said, I didn't know Jo long or well, but I truly wish peace to her and hers.

I'm hoping for a miracle. My sister-in-law was in Starby's condition three years ago, and she came back from the brink.

I am going to light a candle tonight and say a prayer for Jo, For God to bring her back to her true home. That she wants some peace.

Will also pray for the family to come together and except that it is time to let Jo's life be in Gods hands right now.

Joe

I am going to light a candle tonight and say a prayer for Jo, For God to bring her back to her true home. That she wants some peace.

Will also pray for the family to come together and except that it is time to let Jo's life be in Gods hands right now.

Joe

I'll do the same Joe.

It's not an easy thing to accept, to let a loved one go. Sadly we usually hold on for our sake, not theirs.

Find peace Jo. Finally.

I'll do the same Joe.

It's not an easy thing to accept, to let a loved one go. Sadly we usually hold on for our sake, not theirs.

Find peace Jo. Finally.

That is all to true Alty. I'll do the same!

Any updates?

I hope there is a good one, I just cringe every time this shows up with updated comments. God Bless Jo

Same thing here. I was going to ask for updates today, but Ren was before me ;)

I lived in Oswego for a while and worked in Naperville. Naper Settlement. :) It was awesome! ;)
Oswego is where I grew up. I now live in Yorkville with my husband! :) Small little world huh?

Oswego is where I grew up. I now live in Yorkville with my husband! :) Small little world huh?

Kari, welcome to AMHD.

This thread was started for a dear friend, she's dying. Please don't use this thread
To chat, there are many other threads just for that, this isn't one of them.

Thank you.

Man, I miss her very much.

Man, I miss her very much.

Diito.

No news for a long time. I'm worried.

No news is good news though, right?

Just wish I knew what's going on. :(

Diito.

No news for a long time. I'm worried.

No news is good news though, right?

Just wish I knew what's going on. :(

Any contact with her family or friend?

Any contact with her family or friend?

I emailed her Aunt yesterday but she's in the process of moving so she's really busy. I'm hoping she'll email me soon.

I also posted a message on her Facebook wall.

I hate not having any news. I'd rather know.

Heck, I've been googling her name, just in case there's an obit.

Yes, I'm morbid. :(

I emailed her Aunt yesterday but she's in the process of moving so she's really busy. I'm hoping she'll email me soon.

I also posted a message on her facebook wall.

I hate not having any news. I'd rather know.

Heck, I've been googling her name, just in case there's an obit.

Yes, I'm morbid. :(

No, you're not, we need information that's all. This not hearing anything is driving me crazy.

No, you're not, we need information that's all. This not hearing anything is driving me crazy.

Me too.

Add Sneezy to the list and I'm a nervous wreck right now.

Sigh. :(

Me too.

Add Sneezy to the list and I'm a nervous wreck right now.

Sigh. :(

Any news on either, please post it right away, thanks Alty.

Will do Stringer. Will do. :)

I'll say it again. Every time this thread pops up I get worried... not so much for Jo, I hope it will be her release, but for all of us left behind, family, friends, message board buddies and acquaintances.

I'll say it again. Every time this thread pops up I get worried ... not so much for Jo, I hope it will be her release, but for all of us left behind, family, friends, message board buddies and acquaintances.

Me too Cats.

The thread started up again because someone decided to chat on it. I got worried too, thought someone had news.

I try to post only when I have info. :)

Sneezy?

Get well soon Starby, we love you.

Did I miss something. What's wrong with sneezy?

Me too.

Add Sneezy to the list and I'm a nervous wreck right now.

Sigh. :(

I'm curious too! :confused:

Here's the link about sneezy

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/lounge/good-luck-sneezy-385558.html

Sneezy's finally left for Med School! :) Yay! Hopefully, one of us will hear something soon...

You know that he's just enjoying the island paradise... ;)

Aw, Starby girl. You're missed...

Thanks for the link... I've commented there.

*patiently waiting for the news*

Got an email from Starby's Aunt.

Starby is the same, no better, no worse. She has clear (er) days but they are few and far between.

She spends most of her time sleeping.

The doctors are still saying the same thing, it won't be long.

Sorry, not the best update but it's all I got.

Thanks for the link. Was worried something bad had happened to her too.. still hoping for good news. Or even just an update about our sweet starby... she's like family. You all are to me and its sad that's she's having so many problems and such a rough time



*Much love to her and my best wishes*



Edit... posted then when I hit post yours showed up alty... it is sad she is no better but I am deeply grateful that she is not getting worse right now... Sleep is a good thing and a bad thing.. the body uses it to help repair itsself.. I do hope the doctors are wrong *once in a blue moon they are* and that our wonderful starby gets better.. even if its just a small amount better for now. Thank you alty for the update.. a small update is better then none at all.

It is sad Binx, and still hard to believe because it all happened so quickly. I didn't see this coming, I don't think any of us did.

She's holding her own, she's a toughie, but her poor body is not doing so well.

I believe that as ornery (in a nice way) and stubborn as the duck is she is fighting this with all her might... GO DUCK!!

Thank you for the update alty. I'm still praying for her. She is one tough cookie and I am sure god is so proud of her for that (im not sure if she is christian or not, but those are my thoughts at least)

It's already a miracle that she's still 'here'. I hope that nightmare will end soon :(

It's already a miracle that she's still 'here'. I hope that nightmare will end soon :(

Me too Unky. I think we all hope that a quick painless end is near.

GO DUCK!! Dang she sure is a strong one.
Alty, thanks for the update!

I'm wishing the best for Starby... I hope she can tough it out.

GO DUCK!!!! Dang she sure is a strong one.
Alty, thanks for the update!

You know what she'd say Starty.

"I am not a duck" Quack! :p

Me too Cats.

The thread started up again because someone decided to chat on it. I got worried too, thought someone had news.

I try to post only when I have info. :)

I will hide in the corner in shame. I didn't know, so I am sorry!

[QUOTE=KARIEMELIA;1923431]I will hide in the corner in shame. I didn't know, so I am sorry![/QUOTE

You can come out, we understand :cool:

I will hide in the corner in shame. I didn't know, so I am sorry!

Don't be, I'm sorry if I sounded harsh.

It's just that we get nervous whenever we see that someone posted here. She's on her death bed, so a post usually means news and we're waiting for the worst of it.

It's just a really hard time for everyone.

Sorry if I made you feel bad. :o

News just received.


I just spoke with Jo's mom. She is at the hospital with Jo.
Jo has been in a coma since about midnight. I don't know what this means, but
Jo's mom will keep me posted and I will pass along anything I know to you.

Sounds like the end is near.

Thank you for the update Alty.

Big hugs.

Oh my God! I hope all goes well... what ever the outcome... :(

Oh my god, that must be so hard on her family, hard on us all but especially hard on her. I do hope all goes well, gets better and we see her again some day


I send my deepest well wishes and I pray for her nightly, daily and every moment I can

Thanks everyone.

This is what the doctors predicted. Heck, she hung on longer then they thought she would.

If this is the end, which it very well might be, I just wish her a quick, peaceful end.

That's what I pray for.

Love you Jo. Always.

I'm still praying for her :( in a sick sort of odd way, (and I really hope this doesn't sound terrible... ) but I'm sort of glad that she is in a coma now. She isn't in any more pain... and if she passes while in the coma it will be painless... my heart goes out to her family :(

*extra hugs for alty*

Oh boy...

Knowing that my phone will never say "Canadian Duck" is very, very sad.

Love you, Jo.

Oh boy....

Knowing that my phone will never say "Canadian Duck" is very, very sad.

Love you, Jo.

HC, I still have one of her messages on my phone. I can't get myself to delete it.

The sound of her voice always makes me smile and cry.

We have the memories, the posts, the talks, the quacks, the feathers! ;)

She will always live on, through us.

Jo, always, forever, my friend.

God speed.

I can't help but wonder how she would be if she never fell in the first place. Everything seemed so normal with her right before she fell, she was posting and she came right back to post that she had hurt herself. It's all so very sad.:(

I hope everything turns out the best for her, no matter what the outcome.

Yes Dahlia.. I still remember that post, she seemed like she got only a few bruises, and now... she's in coma :(

The breaking of her leg was the beginning.

If she hadn't broken her leg she would already be dead, because she wouldn't have gotten help at all.

Her liver was no longer functioning. They couldn't even operate on her leg because the operation would have killed her.

She was already on deaths door then, the broken leg only prolonged things.

God, I hate opening up your answers, alty, I mean, I really like hearing from you but in this thread it is absolutely scary.

Can you give some sort of warning, such as 'its okay I am just ruminating... '

Ticky

Will do Tick. :)

A bit more detailed update.

We were called to the hosp around mid nite last nite. things were not going to well for Jo. She was very irritated and BP was very low, but the nurses thought they could handle it and said they would call. Then the midnight shift came on, and they called again and asked us to come in. Kendy went right away, and Rob and I left from the lake (1 hr drive)When we got there , Jo was not responding to anything or anyone. She was in a deep sleep (coma like). The ammonium levels were at 600, which is very high (and probably what put her in that state). It is from the liver. she was also put on oxygen, as she is having problems breathing due to all the fluid on her abdomen. She is getting pain meds, anti biotics, lasix, and who knows what else. She also has a colonoscopy (like) bag on her needle insicion, to help collect the fluid that has been oosing out.of her stomach. Her pulse is at 118 and her BP has gone up abit. We were told today again that the palative care people will be back in today

This was from Jo's mom.

A bit more detailed about what's going on.

Love and hugs to all.

A bit more detailed update.

We were called to the hosp around mid nite last nite. things were not going to well for Jo. She was very irritated and BP was very low, but the nurses thought they could handle it and said they would call. Then the midnight shift came on, and they called again and asked us to come in. Kendy went right away, and Rob and I left from the lake (1 hr drive)When we got there , Jo was not responding to anything or anyone. She was in a deep sleep (coma like). The ammonium levels were at 600, which is very high (and probably what put her in that state). It is from the liver. she was also put on oxygen, as she is having problems breathing due to all the fluid on her abdomen. She is getting pain meds, anti biotics, lasix, and who knows what else. She also has a colonoscopy (like) bag on her needle insicion, to help collect the fluid that has been oosing out.of her stomach. Her pulse is at 118 and her BP has gone up abit. We were told today again that the palative care people will be back in today

This was from Jo's mom.

A bit more detailed about what's going on.


Love and hugs to all.

Thanks hon.

*hugs for everyone* thanks for keeping us informed alty... I know how hard this is for you *extra hugs for alty*

I'm still praying for jo. Although my prayer has changed slightly... I just want god to bring her home so she can be happy...

Jo is still in my prayers too. Thanks Alty. *HUGS TO EVERYONE*

This is a difficult post to write.

I've been expecting to write it for a while, but still, not easy.

Jo passed away this morning.

She has finally found peace.

I don't know what to say. She will forever be missed, she changed our lives, brought sunshine in. She was our friend, will forever be our friend.

Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.

I love you Jo, never forget it, never doubt it, you are my friend.

That is so sad

I hope she is looking down on us all with a smile that she is in a better place.

Gee I hate death even so.

*hugs alty*

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v222/JenniPepsi/Sorry20for20your20loss.jpg

It is sad, very sad and heartbreaking for those left behind that knew her. Ive been reading this thread for a while now,but haven't commented for while, as there was nothing anybody could say that would change anything. She held on and fought, but in the end she wanted and needed to find peace.

Jo's at peace now and I'm sure looking down on each and everyone of you.

Please accept my hugs and condolences xxxx

The song for memorials

YouTube - Johnny Cash & Joni Mitchell - The Long Black Veil (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pALSKcWcVEk)

I found out about a half hour ago, but I waited for you to post it Alty as it should be.

I am empty now, I feel a loss as if a family member had passed. I will never forget Jo (Starby). She was granted the peace that she needed.

I never knew her personally... but just reading from you guys, and reading her old posts, I fell in love with her... and while I never got the chance to accually meet her, I am sure we will get to meet someday... God bless you jo, and I love you.

I'd like to believe that our little duck is at this moment finding ways to dive bomb us in the castle.

If she could get internet in heaven you know she'd be here in a heart beat.

I expected this, for a while now, still, it's hard to accept now that it's finally happened.

She's at peace, I envy her that.

I will always miss her.

Stringer dear, I was hoping to put together a little booklet of some of her better posts. Something to send to her family, to show them who she was here, who she was to us, the fun we had, the laughter she gave us.

I'll send it to you and anyone else that wants it when I'm done. May take a while.

I'm going to start another thread, in tribute to Starby.

I'll post the link here when I'm done.

Thank you everyone. Hugs to you all.

"Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die."

Thank you, this is beautiful Alty.

I'd like to believe that our little duck is at this moment finding ways to dive bomb us in the castle.

If she could get internet in heaven you know she'd be here in a heart beat.

I expected this, for a while now, still, it's hard to accept now that it's finally happened.

She's at peace, I envy her that.

I will always miss her.

Stringer dear, I was hoping to put together a little booklet of some of her better posts. Something to send to her family, to show them who she was here, who she was to us, the fun we had, the laughter she gave us.

I'll send it to you and anyone else that wants it when I'm done. May take a while.

I'm going to start another thread, in tribute to Starby.

I'll post the link here when I'm done.

Thank you everyone. Hugs to you all.

Thank you, I would treasure it.

Aww, bye bye Jo... I'll miss you forever... :(

Be happy now, for you are free, you can fly across the sky, and soar through the clouds,
Be happy now, for you are free of pain, of disease which you endured on the Earth,
Be happy now, for you are now with God, who'll take care of you.

Don't worry, we won't ever forget you,
Don't worry, you will always be in our hearts.

Oh, Jo, you were a friend to me,
Was here the little time I could be here,
Was here every time your help was requested,
And touched the heart of many a people.

You'll forever be here, in our hearts.
Oh Jo, I'll miss you forever. :(

I'd like to believe that our little duck is at this moment finding ways to dive bomb us in the castle.

If she could get internet in heaven you know she'd be here in a heart beat.

I expected this, for a while now, still, it's hard to accept now that it's finally happened.

She's at peace, I envy her that.

I will always miss her.

Stringer dear, I was hoping to put together a little booklet of some of her better posts. Something to send to her family, to show them who she was here, who she was to us, the fun we had, the laughter she gave us.

I'll send it to you and anyone else that wants it when I'm done. May take a while.

I'm going to start another thread, in tribute to Starby.

I'll post the link here when I'm done.

Thank you everyone. Hugs to you all.


I think the little booklet is a beautiful and very thoughtful thing to do for Jo and her family and friends.

God bless you Alty, Jo couldn't have had a better friend.

"Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die."


This is amazing I love it...

Aww, bye bye Jo... I'll miss you forever... :(

Be happy now, for you are free, you can fly across the sky, and soar through the clouds,
Be happy now, for you are free of pain, of disease which you endured on the Earth,
Be happy now, for you are now with God, who'll take care of you.

Don't worry, we won't ever forget you,
Don't worry, you will always be in our hearts.

Oh, Jo, you were a friend to me,
Was here the little time I could be here,
Was here every time your help was requested,
And touched the heart of many a people.

You'll forever be here, in our hearts.
Oh Jo, I'll miss you forever. :(

Unky, you are a good guy, this is very thoughtful and endearing.

Oh, I was typing, then several posts appeared.

That was beautiful Alty, and the booklet, I think that's a good idea too. :)

I'll miss her :(

I'm so sorry Alty, thank you for letting us know.

Don't rush with the tribute, do it when you feel ready.

Jo knows we love her and she would understand.

She's at peace now, that's all everyone wanted.

Unky, you are a good guy, this is very thoughtful and endearing.

I myself don't quite know how I managed to write that... I just typed, and here it was...

I hope she's happy where she's now. :(

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/bereavement/starby-you-will-never-forgotten-387412.html

Love you all.

Hey, I was just wondering... Did I typed that right?

"I'll miss you Jo"

Or is it the other way round? :confused:I always get confused with that word :(

Hey, I was just wondering... Did I typed that right?

"I'll miss you Jo"

or is it the other way round? :confused:I always get confused with that word :(

I'll miss you Jo is right Unky. :)

We are here for you Alty.

If I'm crying I can only imagine how you feel.

We are here for you Alty.

If I'm crying I can only imagine how you feel.

I don't think there are any tears left Shazzy, I cried them all on the phone with her brother.

I feel bad about that. The poor guy calls me, someone he's never talked to, to tell me the news and I break down. I should have been comforting him, instead he comforted me.

I feel really bad about that.

Darn Alty. :(

Now the tears are coming in spurts. I've cried so much over this, for months now, but still, there are tears.

I just told Jared, his words "She's in heaven now, right? She'll be able to do all the things she couldn't. You should be happy for her mommy".

He's right.

That's sweet :)
And he's right. She in a much happier place now.

Don't feel bad about crying, never ever.

Virtual Greenie Shazzy :)

I know that she is my better off now, but I have to admit that the pain I am feeling is selfish and about me at the moment and I am feeling guilt about that part.

Everyone knows that I considered the Duck a good friend and I felt very close to her. We were close but not quite what you (Alty) and her had together. We spoke on the phone many times about a range of subjects including being 'The Duck.'

She was, in my opinion a strong willed person and it took a lot for her to change her mind on any subject. But she was not inconsiderate, rude or uncaring. Though she joked about becoming an 'expert' she was very proud of it and she finally admitted that to me. She was having problems in her life at times like most of us do but she was always there for those who needed her, and sometimes she would get in peoples' faces to try to help them. If you were Jo's friend and you needed help, she was there for you... always.

She was a friend to many here, this was a big part of her life. AMHD desk impacted on her and she impacted on us.

I'm glad that she still had that 'one feather' left. Although I truly doubt her claim that she could still fly and 'dump' on us if we messed with her.

She was the one who designated me as the 'Sheriff' over a year ago now.

I feel love for Starby. You have earned your peace dear.

Stringer

I got the message on Facebook, too. I will miss you, dear Jo. And will never forget.

I posted the wrong link.. sorry Jo

This is for you

YouTube - Ryan Cabrera - I Will Remember You (With lyrics) (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pnqgYa88aDw)

I just told Jared, his words "She's in heaven now, right? She'll be able to do all the things she couldn't. You should be happy for her mommy".

He's right.

Our children see things so much more clear that we do... sometimes its hard for us, with everything we go through as adults, to simply accept that 'its better this way' and that saying always gives me a chill... it sounds terribly selfish... but better for who? You know? 'better' would be her NOT in pain, and with her family and happy and healthy...

I hope that all came out right...

I told ayla and she said 'thats sad moma, but she gets to be with baby jesus, so its not a lot sad'

It made me cry. I had to go into the bathroom so she wouldn't think she said something wrong you know?

Very well said Stringer.

Beautiful song Cats, have it playing now.

I'm torn apart with those feelings jennie. Somewhere, I'm really sad that Jo is no more with us, and won't ever be, but somewhere, I'm happy for her... and it's horrible!

I'm torn apart with those feelings jennie. Somewhere, I'm really sad that Jo is no more with us, and won't ever be, but somewhere, I'm happy for her... and it's horrible!

Bittersweet.

My sincere condolences, all...

I just came across this thread by happenstance a bit ago, and I was deeply saddened to follow the chain of events that were painfully chronicled herein. Please accept my heartfelt sympathies, as I know how difficult this loss is, for those left behind.

If I may, I offer the following words from Henry Scott Holland. They've served me well in the past; not as an empty platitude, but as a gentle reminder that our limited 'field of view' is only a small part of a much larger picture.

And again, my sincerest sympathies to you all, and to her family.


Death is nothing at all; I have only slipped away into the next room.

I am still I, and you are still you; whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by my old familiar name; speak to me in the easy manner which you always used.

Put no difference into your tone; do not wear a forced air of sorrow or solemnity.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play... smile... think of me; play for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without an effort; without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity.

I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.

All is well.

I agree jerry. It's a terrible feeling. Part of me (and I'm ashamed to admit this) is upset and selfish that I never got to meet her, never got to say hi. And then I bring myself up short and realise how truly selfish it is of me to think like that... I will meet her one day.

My sincere condolences, all....

I just came across this thread by happenstance a bit ago, and I was deeply saddened to follow the chain of events that were painfully chronicled herein. Please accept my heartfelt sympathies, as I know how difficult this loss is, for those left behind.

If I may, I offer the following words from Henry Scott Holland. They've served me well in the past; not as an empty platitude, but as a gentle reminder that our limited 'field of view' is only a small part of a much larger picture.

And again, my sincerest sympathies to you all, and to her family.


Death is nothing at all; I have only slipped away into the next room.

I am still I, and you are still you; whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by my old familiar name; speak to me in the easy manner which you always used.

Put no difference into your tone; do not wear a forced air of sorrow or solemnity.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play... smile... think of me; play for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without an effort; without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity.

I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.

All is well.

Very well said hon...

My sincere condolences, all....

I just came across this thread by happenstance a bit ago, and I was deeply saddened to follow the chain of events that were painfully chronicled herein. Please accept my heartfelt sympathies, as I know how difficult this loss is, for those left behind.

If I may, I offer the following words from Henry Scott Holland. They've served me well in the past; not as an empty platitude, but as a gentle reminder that our limited 'field of view' is only a small part of a much larger picture.

And again, my sincerest sympathies to you all, and to her family.


Death is nothing at all; I have only slipped away into the next room.

I am still I, and you are still you; whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by my old familiar name; speak to me in the easy manner which you always used.

Put no difference into your tone; do not wear a forced air of sorrow or solemnity.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play... smile... think of me; play for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without an effort; without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity.

I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.

All is well.

Thank you, that is beautiful.

It really is, not to repeat Stringer but thank you.

ArcSine,

That was a very beautiful post. Thank you so much.

IT'S SO HARD TO SAY GOODBYE TO YESTERDAY

How do I say goodbye to what we had?
The good times that made us laugh
Outweigh the bad.

I thought we'd get to see forever
But forever's gone away
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

I don't know where this road
Is going to lead
All I know is where we've been
And what we've been through.

If we get to see tomorrow
I hope it's worth all the wait
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

And I'll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

IT'S SO HARD TO SAY GOODBYE TO YESTERDAY

How do I say goodbye to what we had?
The good times that made us laugh
Outweigh the bad.

I thought we'd get to see forever
But forever's gone away
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

I don't know where this road
Is going to lead
All I know is where we've been
And what we've been through.

If we get to see tomorrow
I hope it's worth all the wait
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

And I'll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

Beautiful poem.

Thank you. :)

A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.

-Unknown

I have no poem, but I do have a laugh:)

Starby gave me my first PM, after I advised her on how to get her Pup to stop stealing food out of the fridge and stealing money from her purse.:eek:

If I do say so myself, I gave her some pretty good advise only to find out from a PM that she was trying to mess with Alty since it was April 1st (April fools day) So, I was the fool and couldn't post back, for fear that I would ruin the joke.

On a plus side for me, many others posted with great ideas.:D

All that has been written has been beautiful and she will be dearly missed by so many and she knows that. As what was posted earlier, she's just in the next room. USE her name, talk freely about her, enjoy her life that we knew (some more than others) and embrace the Starby that changed our lives.

Dear Jo,

Oh, I knew this was coming. Does not make it any easier. You will be missed. Love you Jo, and now enjoy your eternal peace forever. We will never forget.

RIP Jo (starby the Duck)

Finally I'm lost for words .

I'm going to miss her , and even though we've all expected it for a while it doesn't suppress the sadness that hits when it's final :(

And Thank you Alty for all the updates and the strength you've shown through all this , you my girl are a true friend!

I have no poem, but I do have a laugh:)

Starby gave me my first PM, after I advised her on how to get her Pup to stop stealing food out of the fridge and stealing money from her purse.:eek:

If I do say so myself, I gave her some pretty good advise only to find out from a PM that she was trying to mess with Alty since it was April 1st (April fools day) So, I was the fool and couldn't post back, for fear that I would ruin the joke.

on a plus side for me, many others posted with great ideas.:D

All that has been written has been beautiful and she will be dearly missed by so many and she knows that. As what was posted earlier, she's just in the next room. USE her name, talk freely about her, enjoy her life that we knew (some more than others) and embrace the Starby that changed our lives.


Oh, how this made me smile through my tears! Priceless and looking back, again, I remember Jo's big heart.

Thank you for posting this. I had forgotten!

I'm so sorry, Alty...

Rest in peace, Jo.

I have been following this post from the beginning but felt that it wasn't my place to post since I had never had any contact with Starby. I must tell you all though that Starby
Was extremely lucky to have connected with such a wonderful, fun loving and caring group as those she met here on AMHD.

I am sure she felt all the good vibes and love from you over these past weeks and will always be there looking down on every one of you and I'm sure she will make her presence known when she feels the need.

You have all been wonderful support to each other and especially to Alty! There definitely IS such a thing as virtual friendship and it definitely runs true and deep with the group in AMHD.

My thoughts and prayers go to all of you at this difficult time.

Karen

Alty, Stringer and everyone who knew Jo I am so sorry for your loss. My heart sank when I read the news and instantly thought of you all and her family. Your all in my thoughts.

Thanks Sunny. :)

Alty, Stringer and everyone who knew Jo I am so sorry for your loss. My heart sank when I read the news and instantly thought of you all and her family. Your all in my thoughts.

Thank you, she was special.

Yes, alty, I agree with JKT, no words just thoughts and I will share them some other time.

A sad tick today

yes, alty, I agree with JKT, no words just thoughts and I will share them some other time.

a sad tick today

It's often hard to express what we feel, especially through the written word.

Tick, we all know what's in your heart, no words necessary. :)

*Hugs tick* :)

*Hugs tick* :)

Thanks, Unk, that really helps a sad tick , right back at you !

I am so happy to know she is at peace.
Hug to you all, she was a wonderful lady and she WILL be a perfect angel!

I am so happy to know she is at peace.
Hug to you all, she was a wonderful lady and she WILL be a perfect angel!

I agree Starty.

Perhaps she'll even monitor AMHD once she gets her wings. :)

I'm ringing bells dear, so she gets them sooner.

Starby's best friend of 27 years called to share the news with me regarding her passing. She said Jo passed quietly in her sleep. I find comfort in knowing that. One of Jo's gifts to me besides the obvious, her precious friendship, was to share her friend Sally with me. I thank her for that. She got us in touch. Many of you do not know me. I have been a bit out of touch for awhile so take this for what it is worth........but as Sally and I were crying together over the phone and visiting about how precious Jo was and is to us, in my mind, I heard Jo's cute little laughing giggle as loud as anything. I actually, amidst the tears began laughing, and shared with Sally what I had just heard inside of me. She laughed and found it not in the least strange but quite the ordinary which gave me even more peace regarding Jo. I am not much of a joiner and Jo and Alty along with Stringer, Angel and others, pulled me in to a fun thread and accepted me totally. To each of you, I say "Thank You So Much". I hope soon I might get to know each of you who I do not know as of yet. I miss all of you, some came later into my life than Jo and Alty during my time here such as Chery, Uncky, JesusHelper, and so many others I love so much, forgive me for not typing all your names, you are no less precious to me. I love each of you. Alty, when Jo would call me, she would tell me how she use to make you laugh by talking in "my accent". I am still waiting to hear your rendition of that one! LOL I love each of you! Blessings and comfort to all of us in Jesus Name. REBBIE

So good to see you back rebbie , we miss you!

Starby's best friend of 27 years called to share the news with me regarding her passing. She said Jo passed quietly in her sleep. I find comfort in knowing that. One of Jo's gifts to me besides the obvious, her precious friendship, was to share her friend Sally with me. I thank her for that. She got us in touch. Many of you do not know me. I have been a bit out of touch for awhile so take this for what it is worth........but as Sally and I were crying together over the phone and visiting about how precious Jo was and is to us, in my mind, I heard Jo's cute little laughing giggle as loud as anything. I actually, amidst the tears began laughing, and shared with Sally what I had just heard inside of me. She laughed and found it not in the least strange but quite the ordinary which gave me even more peace regarding Jo. I am not much of a joiner and Jo and Alty along with Stringer, Angel and others, pulled me in to a fun thread and accepted me totally. To each of you, I say "Thank You So Much". I hope soon I might get to know each of you who I do not know as of yet. I miss all of you, some came later into my life than Jo and Alty during my time here such as Chery, Uncky, JesusHelper, and so many others I love so much, forgive me for not typing all your names, you are no less precious to me. I love each of you. Alty, when Jo would call me, she would tell me how she use to make you laugh by talking in "my accent". I am still waiting to hear your rendition of that one! LOL I love each of you! Blessings and comfort to all of us in Jesus Name. REBBIE

Rebbie, I'm so glad you came.

Love you so much lady.

As for the accent, I can't do it justice, but Jo made me giggle until I cried when she did her version of you. :)

That giggle, that voice, I still have her last message on my answering machine, just can't seem to delete it.

Hugs my dear Rebbie. She's at peace now, she's at peace.

So good to see you back rebbie , we miss you !!

Thank you Angel! You surely are one of my most special Guardian Angels. I treasure your friendship.

Rebbie, I'm so glad you came.

Love you so much lady.

As for the accent, I can't do it justice, but Jo made me giggle til I cried when she did her version of you. :)

That giggle, that voice, I still have her last message on my answering machine, just can't seem to delete it.

Hugs my dear Rebbie. She's at peace now, she's at peace.

I miss her so much Alty! My heart feels like it is in a million pieces. I'm sure the "Duckster" would be about picking up all the pieces of our hearts and mixing them all up so we would all have a piece of each others hearts in our own to keep with us forever, including hers.

I love you much also. Love and Hugs!

I miss her so much Alty! My heart feels like it is in a million pieces. I'm sure the "Duckster" would be about picking up all the pieces of our hearts and mixing them all up so we would all have a piece of each others hearts in our own to keep with us forever, including hers.

I love you much also. Love and Hugs!

I miss her too Rebbie, but she wouldn't want us to break apart, she'd want us to stay strong, to remember her with a smile, because that's who she was.

So chin up, for our Ducky. Put a smile on your face, remember her and all she meant to us, keep her memory alive.

Starby's best friend of 27 years called to share the news with me regarding her passing. She said Jo passed quietly in her sleep. I find comfort in knowing that. One of Jo's gifts to me besides the obvious, her precious friendship, was to share her friend Sally with me. I thank her for that. She got us in touch. Many of you do not know me. I have been a bit out of touch for awhile so take this for what it is worth........but as Sally and I were crying together over the phone and visiting about how precious Jo was and is to us, in my mind, I heard Jo's cute little laughing giggle as loud as anything. I actually, amidst the tears began laughing, and shared with Sally what I had just heard inside of me. She laughed and found it not in the least strange but quite the ordinary which gave me even more peace regarding Jo. I am not much of a joiner and Jo and Alty along with Stringer, Angel and others, pulled me in to a fun thread and accepted me totally. To each of you, I say "Thank You So Much". I hope soon I might get to know each of you who I do not know as of yet. I miss all of you, some came later into my life than Jo and Alty during my time here such as Chery, Uncky, JesusHelper, and so many others I love so much, forgive me for not typing all your names, you are no less precious to me. I love each of you. Alty, when Jo would call me, she would tell me how she use to make you laugh by talking in "my accent". I am still waiting to hear your rendition of that one! LOL I love each of you! Blessings and comfort to all of us in Jesus Name. REBBIE

Welcome back my friend.

Hey Rebbie, it's been quite so time :)

Thanks for the kind words :)

Stringer and Unky! So good to see you and read your words. Miss you both.

Stringer and Unky! So good to see you and read your words. Miss you both.

Hey Rebbie! You come on line and I have to leave... bummer! I have a doctor's appointment, general physical, nothing serious.

Talk with you later hon. :):)

I missed you too! :) Great thanks for being there for Starby. You did a great job during those days :)

Hey Rebbie! You come on line and I have to leave...bummer! I have a doctor's appointment, general physical, nothing serious.

Talk with you later hon. :):)

Aww... see you later Sheriff! :)

Rebbie.. I don't know you but thanks for the news. Starby will be missed so much... but she will always have a place in our hearts... *hugs to everyone.* thanks for all the updates.. at least now she will feel no pain and she's in a good place

I haven't been online in a few days. I couldn't finish reading the last half of Alty's post. I just closed it off right then and cried for a long time. I haven't had the heart to get back on AMHD since then.

It just doesn't seem like that long since Starby was here, laughing and joking, maybe even pissing a few people off. (Hey, they probably deserved it) She was such an amazing person with such life. She was one of the few people I could talk to about anything. I don't think AMHD will ever quite be the same again without her.

I haven't been online in a few days. I coudln't finish reading the last half of Alty's post. I just closed it off right then and cried for a long time. I haven't had the heart to get back on AMHD since then.

It just doesn't seem like that long since Starby was here, laughing and joking, maybe even pissing a few people off. (Hey, they probably deserved it) She was such an amazing person with such life. She was one of the few people I could talk to about anything. I don't think AMHD will ever quite be the same again without her.

Crying is good, releases the pain, then it's time to find comfort in the time we had, the times we shared with her, they were all precious.

So smile, think about the good times, know that she's finally at peace.

Smile, because she'd want you to.

Hugs Silver, she will be missed, but we have the power to keep her memory alive. We will never forget. Never.

Rebbie.. i dont know you but thanks for the news. starby will be missed so much... but she will always have a place in our hearts... *hugs to everyone.* thanks for all the updates.. at least now she will feel no pain and shes in a good place

I am glad you and I have met now! Starby will be missed so much as you say! She blessed my life in so many ways and now, she is continuing to do so by bringing new friends into my life. We are all richer for having known Jo.

Stringer and Unky, catch you two later! Love to you both.

Stringer and Unky, catch you two later! Love to you both.

Yes, later. :)

Love you all.

Starby will be missed, but we need to think of the happy and fun times. Especially the ducky moments (;

She has lots of friends here that think the world of her. She knew that.

Love you all.

Starby will be missed, but we need to think of the happy and fun times. Especially the ducky moments (;

She has lots of friends here that think the world of her. She knew that.

Joe, love you so much.

I do remember the fun times, they keep me going. I look at her picture, I still can't believe it. It seems to have happened so quickly.

She's watching us, this I know, I feel it. We have to keep her memory alive, and we will. She's never be forgotten, only missed.

It's times like this that you realize how very short our time here is. We have only so many days, so many moments, each of them should be special.

I know each moment I spend with all of you means the world to me.

Love and hugs dear. You are a good friend. I don't know what I would do without the lot of you.

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