My boyfriend and I are waiting to have sex of any kind (oral, etc) till we get married. In the past, guys I have been with would get turned on and they would claim to hurt, because they couldn't "relieve" the hardness. I asked my current boyfriend, if he hurt, when this occurred. He said no. Is this normal? Why would some guys experience pain and not others?

That is an excellent question. In short, it is and it isn't normal. Most men get "blue balls" if sexually aroused and the blood isn't allowed to escape "shortly" after erection. Some men experience it worse than others.

THis link may help you to better understand the condition:

http://www.teenwire.com/index.asp?taStrona=http://www.teenwire.com/ask/articles/as_20010820p266.asp

Congrats on your decision to hold out!

It's not physical pain TBBH. Its really all in the mind. You want something but can't have it and since you're horny you're also more prone to getting angry or whatever and "pain" that you can't do anything. At least this is how things go for me.

Hope that helps alleviate some confusion.

-Atzor