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Jade93Jade
Nov 26, 2008, 09:23 PM
Hi. So I like 5 guys at the moment. And I can't pick between them. I know I sound like a whore, but I really hate this. I tried to make myself shut down and just go nuetral and not like any of them, but that wouldn't work and I was miserable. It would be easier if I knew if they liked me, but they're all giving me signs that they do like me, but I can't tell. Its like mixed signals :( I'm really shy, so I can't get up the courage to just go and ask. Now that I like all of them again, I'm still miserable! Just not as much.please help!

xxariesxx
Nov 27, 2008, 12:45 AM
You said you already tried to "shut down" and be neutral about it.

Of course you can't shut off your feelings; we can't help how we feel. But we can control how we react to them.
And you were right to be neutral. Think about it; even if you did "choose" one of the guys, you would still have feelings for these other ones? How fair would that be to him? Just spend some time to yourself and your friends and don't worry about trying to be with anyone for now. If you're feeling miserable, work on a hobby or talk with friends.

If at all possible stop talking to all of these guys so much. You're probably miserable because you're trying to be neutral, but it's impossible if you're still talking with them all.

Jade93Jade
Dec 2, 2008, 09:57 PM
Thanks :)

NallaNeedsYou
Dec 3, 2008, 09:54 AM
If your feelings for them relay drive you crazy try and clear your head then think about what you want from a relationship. One guy might be funny another 'fit' another understanding but do you want a dumb fit guy who's going to manipulate you then leave you broken and enviouse of the new girl. Or do you want a clever, understanding guy who might not have a 'fit bod'. But above all is whether you like these guys or you love them, if you like them go have fun, make mistakes and do silly things that you will regret. But if you love them you really need to sort out your priorities and focus on them rather than bonuses such as looking good. Hope this helps!